She and her husband just moved to my area about a year ago.She is absoultley amazing.stunning looks,intelligent,humble she has evreything.She actually married her husband a year 1 1/2 ago.This is actually her second marriage she married very young and her first husband just completly went crazy and just up and left leaving her and and thier small child.So it's very complicated as you can read. Anyways i've gotten to know her and have really developed a huge crush on her.She is 25 her husband is 42 and im 21 i just wanted to clarify that i dont have some "older wife leaves husband for younger man fantasy".I just love being around her.I know these feelings i have for her are completley innapproriate.My values and morals would never allow me to act on how i feel for her. It's just kinda of wierd because i haven't felt this way for a person before, so i dont completely trust myself.My question is how do i get over this crush? I really need some advice,i feel wierd even asking this question
2007-04-24 05:50:00 · 13 answers · asked by jncb85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I forgot to mention that i have tried on numerous occasions to completly avoid her.But our situations wont allow it.
2007-04-24 05:52:18 · update #1
Dude, are you kidding? Of all the women in this world you can find yourself obsessing over and you pick a married woman. There are MANY stunning women out there that are married. You will see others and are you going to start obsessing about the too? Grow up and leave that family alone. Go find a woman that is single. You sound ridiculous. You say that you don't trust yourself. Well, that is a character flaw. You need to check yourself if you can't control yourself. Does the word "Unavailable" mean anything to you?
2007-04-24 05:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by Millionaire in training 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all if the person they have a "crush" on is married, then keep it at that,The fact that they are married with children should send a very big message already,and telling the wrong person could start a real problem,I think "crushes" are just a nice way of saying that the person is attracted to someone,nothing more.So if it were Me , I wouldn't say a thing.I would cherish My feelings for them and know that I respect them enough and their children,and know in My heart how I felt when I was 19, and look back on a happy part of My life.By the way it is very common to "feel" that way about people in ones life that are highly respected in ones eyes. Good Luck! :)
2016-05-17 21:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well man im 22 and a state trooper i can tell you like this cut off all contact. 1 reason is all the things i see on the job. We get calls about domestic disputs all the time. Some people dead others who are lucky no. Its not worth the risk i would advise not to go any further. Theres nothing more worse than a pissed off husband whos family is ruined.
2007-04-27 08:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by trooperinva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have some compassion for her husband. Would you like to feel like him if you go after what you are thinking about going after? Keep your morals intact. You have not known this woman for long and have no idea what she TRULY is on the inside. If she does anything with you, you can immediately know that she is dishonest and has no values or sense of committment.
2007-04-24 08:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somethings are meant to be...I commend you on not wanting to be a home wrecker but it is she who will be if she allows it. Dont pressure and let time take its course. If she comes to you then allow it but dont you go pushing yourself thru his front door onto his property if you know what I mean. If you and her are meant to be together then it will happen. If feelings are getting to great for you then you need to make yourself back off and let her know how you feel so she can be careful not to lead you on and misguiding you in that she wants more. Go meet some ppl and you just might find that there is someone else even better then she. Good luck.
2007-04-24 06:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You HAVE to stay away from her. Don't put yourself in the situation of conversating with her. I know it will be hard as you have feelings for her, but it is the only way to keep "something" from happening.
2007-04-24 06:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best way to get over it is to walk over to there house and knock on the door. Ask for her husband and tell him what you told us . I'm sure the gentleman can answer your question for you better then we can
2007-04-24 06:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by dad 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
go for it if she wants to sleep with u then she don't want her husband enjoy it while it last the part is not getting caught
it's a real turn on.
2007-04-25 02:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by coops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi man,
everyone gets these crushes
do not pursue it further
if at all u prove successful, you will end up with lot of guilt, especially after u get married
2007-04-24 06:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by eatdrinkandbemerryformorrowudie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go out, meet people, socialize, join a club, go to a gym, and GO OUT ON DATES!
play the field, maybe you will find someone you like....
take care.
2007-04-24 05:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋