I don't wish to continue the relationship anymore. I feel trapped
she won't leave me and is very needy. I mention divorce and she says that she will stick me with childsupport. I realy need help on this one. I feel my life is wasting away with a woman I do not wish to be with anymore.
2007-04-24 02:31:07 · 36 answers · asked by bobo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, child support is a way of life. Just because you are unhappy in your marriage doesn't mean you should have no responsibility for the children you have with her. I'm not going to tell you that you should or should not divorce your wife. But if you do, don't complain about the child support. They are your children too.
2007-04-24 02:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by clskrokchyk 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Lousy Wife
2016-12-15 05:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you be depressed? It could be that things seem so bad because of the effects of depression. If you think this could be part of the problem get help for this first. Choices made when depressed, are rarely right.
If you are no longer able to bear this relationship, then get out, but do it properly. I get the sense that you would like to cut and run.
As to the issue of child support, if she has custody of the child/ren then she is entitled to it and you should pay - they are your child/ren. If you believe that she is a lousy mother, why not challenge her for custody? Unless you feel you should be free - without any responsibilities?
Why do you feel she should leave you? Do you think that that would make you less culpable in the break-up? Or are you hoping she would leave you with the house and everything while taking the responsibility for the child/ren?
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To me it seems like you are not really thinking things through.
As an adult, you should act in a way that cares for the child/ren before yourself.
2007-04-24 02:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered that you're a lousy husband and father? It takes two to make a relationship work.
You're not trapped, you can leave. You just don't want to be the bad guy by walking out and you want her to take that step so you can blame her for the breakdown of the marriage. You are going to have to pay child support anyway so you may as well try to make the rest of your life better. I don't see why you object to paying child support, they are your kids too, not just hers.
If you don't want to be in the relationship then be a man and do something about it, don't mope around complaining because she won't do it for you. Get a divorce and move on.
2007-04-24 02:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why?No one was born lousy , they re made up with all the events that make them look like one!There must be a plus point in her somehow, why not go for some counsel-ling or talk with her the differences which makes you unbearable.Marriage is all about resolving and commitment,nothing works better than getting the root of the problem diagnosed than opting for a divorce.It should be the last solution of all means and ways of trying to uphold a marriage after serious breakdowns
2007-04-24 02:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by cool_honeybabe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean - stick you with child support - ? Aren't you the father? Your child needs you even if you don't want to be with your wife anymore. No reason to waste your life away with her if you don't want to. Take steps to leave. If you think she is a lousy mother, sue for custody and have her pay you child support. Remember the three sovereign rules of life:
1. change the situation
2. get out of the situation
3. change your attitude
Maybe if you do one of those choices, she'll feel better about herself too and things can improve for all, especially the kid stuck there.
2007-04-24 02:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by annajustmay 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you dont wanna be with her anymore. Then leave and file for divorce. If she is such a lousy mother and you are a better father then file for full custody and you take care of the kids. But if you do divorce her and she keeps the kids it is your place as a father to pay child support. After all you did help bring those children in to this world. So take care of them.
2007-04-24 04:33:57 · answer #7 · answered by country_gurl07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the marriage is over then it is over. That is really sad though. But the fact is that you should be more than willing to pay child support. She didn't make that child on her own and it is not her responsibility to raise that child on her own. If you love that child then child support shouldn't even be an issue. If you don't want to pay support then sign your rights away as a parent. By the sounds of it, they will both be better off that way anyway.
2007-04-24 02:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by lily_florance 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then move out and file for a divorce. You are supporting your children now...what is the difference in paying for their support now or paying child support after a divorce? If you don't want to pay support then fight for the kids...you said she was a lousy mother...and let her pay you support.
Bottom line...you are not happy so you can leave and divorce or spend the rest of your life unhappy if she does not love you enough to make some changes.
be cool...
2007-04-24 02:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take responsibility for your kids. If she's that lousy of a mother you might want to consider taking custody or sharing custody w/ her. Leave, there is no reason to stay w/ a woman you no longer care about and think of it this way, how miserable are you guys making your children by staying together in misery?
2007-04-24 02:37:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋