hubby plays ps2 all night til 2am.....jeez its a wonder i'm pregnant?
2007-04-24 01:43:48 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have been asking calmly for 7 years
2007-04-24 01:58:21 · update #1
LOL most times it's because the man was not brought up in a family that showed a lot of affection.
That doesn't mean he can't learn to be romantic. If you do sweet romantic things for him and he enjoys them, he will start to do the same for you.
Make sure that you show appreciation for his efforts, even if they fall short of your idea of romantic.
Men show love in different ways. Men think if they put gas in your car for you they are showing their love. If they scrape your car windows they are showing love. (AND THEY ARE SHOWING LOVE) It just may not be the romantic flowers, candles and love notes that you want.
2007-04-24 01:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by hi_stk_n 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned that you've been asking calmly for 7 years. Perhaps a little too calm?
In other words, perhaps you've been a little too passive in your approach. Also, have you been asking.. or hinting?
As I guy I can tell you, we aren't the best at taking hints.
I would like to address your blanket statement though. Generally, men are romantic.. some more so than others.. and some, not at all unfortunately.
But there is hope even for the currently unromantic.
You need to have a talk with your husband. You need to come right out and say what it is that you need. You also need to ask your husband what it is t hat he needs.. then you compromise.
Be direct in your approach and I believe that you will achieve better results.
Don't assume that he'll "get it" and don't avoid telling him what's truly on your mind because "he should know"
If that doesn't work, lock the PS2 away somewhere.. and have a heart to heart talk with him while you have his attention ;)
2007-04-24 02:25:26 · answer #2 · answered by michaeljazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of us Men are very Romantic : ) How YOU and your spouse define "romantic" and what the two of you have communicated clearly is the more important question? Marriage is not for the weak...especially when it involves having children. You must be proactive, an active participant - Both of you, if you are going to have a successful marriage. You really need to be united right now in preparing to bring your little one into your new family. It will take both of you...and then some!
What do you expect from him and have you communicated it clearly to him? If both of you have done this, then you know he is avoiding you - you just need to find out why? He could be bored, could be stress, nothing else to do, or many other reasons...but he does have one. You just need to lovingly find out what it is.
Don't let the hormones get the best of both of you! All the best for your success!
2007-04-24 03:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by UniQue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear me ! You can become pregnant without romance for a start off. Personally, there is nothing less romance inspiring than a "house" wife who is there all the bloody time woman! Make yourself interesting,at least more so than a computer game. Don't generalise all men because you are some boring individual waiting to push a pram round. I am very romantic thank you but have no time for women who see pregnancy as some sort of temporary disability. The ps2 is effective due to the fact that it responds well to it's buttons being pushed and provides some thrills. You'll be bloody knitting next !!!
2007-04-24 02:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Hugh Jarce 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am a gamer too. My hubby just plays on the Internet and we sit and chat. We learned to keep the games system and the Computer in the same room. Works great for the both of us. That way we are spending time with each other doing the things we love to do.
2007-04-24 01:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by lily_florance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the man, my husband is really romantic and loves to make me smile. You married a man that likes ps2, as long as he treats your right, loves you and supports you then your alright! Have a happy pregnancy by the way, im pregnant with # 2!!!!!!
2007-04-24 02:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by marinewife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your question should be "why isn't my husband romantic?" because my boyf is romantic and most of my friend boyfriends/husband's are. I know some men aren't but there are a lot who are.
Try talking to him calmy about your concerns. Maybe he plays the ps2 because he thinks you haven't been very romantic towards him recently?
2007-04-24 01:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some men are and some men are not. Your definition of a romantic man also depends on your own definition of romance. Some men may think that women are not romantic so I think it is all relative.
2007-04-24 01:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by Miss T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should play too!
I think that romance is irrational and this is why a lot of men and women don't enjoy that sort of thing. It's goofy. I'm a woman, but romantic cliches? Who are you kidding!
2007-04-24 02:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man and the reason I'm not romantic is because I don't even understand what "romantic" means. It's like I have a learning disability, and I just can't figure out that word no matter how many Drew Barrymore/Adam Sandler movies I am forced to watch. I know it's apparently an important word to women, but I just don't GET it.
2007-04-24 01:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋