My husband likes to look at porn on the internet and it upsets me. Why does he need that when he has the real thing at home? He says it's just fake, I'm the real thing he can hold and love, he just likes to look at pictures. Does he have a problem?
2007-04-24 03:34:27 · 13 answers · asked by Jenny007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you too still having sex? If he is masturbating to the pics and not giving you any attention then yes there is a problem...but if he is just looking and if your sex life is healthy then no problem...
2007-04-24 03:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by kc 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, many men (and even some ladies) have a problem with pornography. The way I see it is simple: An addiction to anything, not just porn, is when a person feels like he or she must have it or they can't function, which is why so many men get fired from their job for looking at pornographic material at work. I suppose the question is how often does he look at it? Is it just at home once a week, three times a month or is it an everyday occurrence? Try to talk to him about it and explain that it makes you uncomfortable and you wish he would stop. But do not judge him or threaten him b/c that is only going to cause problems between you two.
2007-04-24 03:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by simple_man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are visual. The only reason they look online is because its free and saves them from buying mags. This has nothing to do with you, he chose you, he is with you. Men have an intrinsic need to "hunt". Would you rather he be looking at home or out and about? I promise you, no matter what you do, he's gonna look at women. If it bothers you tell him but I think you really need to ask yourself why you are so bothered. I know many women have a problem with this. I never have. We all masturbate and fantasize, men deserve their private time too. Do you have any trust issues with him? Are you feeling neglected? If so, sure its a problem that he's choosing to focus more on porn than the relationship. If everything is fine and he does focus on you then I don't see a problem. Think of the ways you choose to let your mind wander and fantasize. Ever read a romance novel or watched a chick flick? I see that as the female equivalent to porn for men. We just happen to be verbally and emotionally stimulated. I suggest you try to incorporate the things you both love into your sex life. If he likes porn, watch it with him sometimes and see what arouses him. Relax, don't mother him, let him feel relaxed enough to be open with you as he explores. He'll feel more comfortable talking to you about his turn ons. By the same token, share with him what turns you on romantically and emotionally. Tell him you'll be open to sharing the porn if you can also share the romantic stuff with him. This way, you'll help to explore and understand each other better and your sex life will be amazing.
Good luck :)
2007-04-24 03:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Me and my husband have come to an understanding, we can both watch it together but not on our own.There is no looking at nude pics online or subscribing to porn sites. when we are in the mood for some kink then we watch and recreate what we saw in our own way. sometimes it brings that excitement of not knowing what is going to happen or where. Last time he took me by complete surprise and it was one of the best sex we ever had. with or w/o porn in our lives we are as or more creative than any video. if he can only watch porn to have sex then its a issue and you must stop it before it gets out of hand. suggest other things besides porn perhaps role playing, costumes and lingerie etc...
2007-04-24 05:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by seductivesyren 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are too uptight, if you would watch porn with him and get highly kinky with him, I am sure you would never have to worry. Instead, you make it a big deal like it is so terrible and all you are doing is pushing him away.
Join him and have fun, that's all we want lady.
2007-04-24 03:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by sxycpl4ya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if there is anything you can do to make sex with you more fun and then provide that to him every day and see if you can wean him away from the porn-alone time.
2007-04-24 04:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by Toosense2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I caught my man looking at girls on the internet so i told him that i would'nt mind watching videos with him..he was shocked, but the internet is different b/c those girls give out their e-mails and try to contact people and i dont want that. Ever since i told him that i would watch them with him hes been so turned on that we never make it to watch the video!
2007-04-24 03:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by marinewife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has not touched you or spent most of his time looking at it then yes he has a problem. If he still comes to you and just uses it to spice things up then No.
2007-04-24 03:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once you've seen one naked, you want to see all naked. it's just looking. no need to feel insecure or get upset. he is right when saying you are the one that gets the affection. he is just entertaining his male "needs".
2007-04-24 03:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by indyfootballcolts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, YOU have the problem. Get off his back....unless he is spending hours at a time at the computer and neglecting you and his chores around the house.
2007-04-24 04:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋