My son has always been a Daddy's boy. No matter what he has always been loyal to me. I was divorced a year ago because his mother decided she wanted her sister's fiance and I lost everythign but my children. Now, she developed brain cancer and sent the kids to live with me. As they tried to help her, they determined she has about 6 months to live. She came out of hospital and took the kids back home with her and her new husband she married (her ex brother in law). Since my son went home, he has not called me, he has not made any atempt to talk to me and i have done nothing wrong. he was doing fine in school and now he failed 4 subjects and I am dying here without my boy. What would you do?
2007-04-24 03:27:44 · 11 answers · asked by Frankee06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Im sure he still loves you. But, his mother is dying. He might feel guilty about all the time he spent with you away from her, and is trying to make that up before she passes.
Call him and tell him you miss him and love him, and that you are there for him whenever he needs you.
He will come back. he is just dealing with the stress right now. All you can do is be there for him when he needs it. And at times like these, dont worry so much about grades. those can be dealt with easier than a dying parent.
2007-04-24 03:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by sweetblueyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a traumatic time for your ex-wife and I'm assuming that she wants to spend as much time as possible with the children. It's also a difficult time for your son. He's caught in the middle and that shouldn't be. Neither should his mother keep him isolated from you at this time. He needs your help is dealing with his mother's illness. Why did you not file for custody earlier, when she sent the kids to live with you? Under the circumstances, I think you should do so now. You also have visitation rights and you need to exercise those rights now.
You need to get over the ex brother-in-law marriage and do what's best for your son. Your wife did a terrible thing and I'm sure it was painful for you; but it's done now. Do what you must to protect your children. Don't wait for your son to call you. He's a child and he's caught in the middle. Call this woman and arrange for visitation. If she refuses, get yourself an attorney and sue for custody.
2007-04-24 04:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as emotional as this is for you,and let me start my saying my condolences go out to you and your family.But your son is going through alot right now and this is a very tough pill to swallow.I can't tell you what he is thinking.But even though it may seem like he is pushing you away daddy he really needs you whether he knows it or not.Soon you are going to be all he has.One thing about boys even at a young age they try to be strong men.He needs to know it's OK for him to feel the way he is feeling.Obviously this weight is heavy on his shoulders because his grades are slipping.But just let him know you are here because he is going t need you.Good Luck and God Bless.Give me heads up on how you to are doing
2007-04-24 03:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by TRUTH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure he still loves you very much but he is probably just really upset that his mother is dying and he is trying to spend every moment with her. Thats why he is not calling and doing bad in school. He is more than likely going through a bit of depression too. Whenever you see or talk to him again just reassure him that you are there for him and he can talk to you whenever. Let him know its ok to cry and that mom is going to be ok.
2007-04-24 03:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient. He knows that he has only so much time left with his mother. That is most likely what is effecting his school work. He needs to deal with this in his own way. He doesn't love you any less. He knows that he has the rest of his life with you. Let them have this time. He really needs this.
2007-04-24 03:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by lily_florance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him. I'm sure he is a mess with his mother dying. He needs you to go the extra mile because he is unable to right now...
2007-04-24 03:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call his mom and talk to her but you have to remember his mom is dying and that's a huge burden on him. i'm sure he sees her getting sicker and it's affecting his life because he just doesn't know what to do. i would call your ex and maybe you guys can set up some sort of counseling for him but you should definitely be there because he'll need the support
2007-04-24 03:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by JM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your son is about to loose his mother . . this is probally very unsettling for him . . allow him to spend as much time as he can with her . . once she has died you and him will have the rest of your lives to sort out the emotions . . be supportive to yours sons feelings right now he needs you too . . .
2007-04-24 03:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by Rainy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably the stresses of an ailing mother is causing his grades to drop. go out there and see him. he might need to see a therapist.
2007-04-24 03:32:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him, I assume he doesnt live nearby,, also as the son, he is assuming a man role with his mother dying,, it isnt a good place to be as a boy,trying to become a man, try to reach him,
2007-04-24 03:32:13 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋