My husband & I use to have a great sex life but things are not so great anymore. I know that he is not cheating b/c we work together & we never go anywhere alone. Any suggestions on how we could spice things up?
2007-04-24 02:51:09 · 18 answers · asked by C29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know this may sound strange but have you thought about talking to him about it? You can also check on line at "toy" stores you know what I mean and surprise him with some body paints or body butter. There is also the dress up game, one thing I would love to see is a woman wearing a long overcoat when I pick her up from work and under neath is some sexy lingerie.
2007-04-24 02:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also agree with the others that working all day together may leave the "excitement well" a little tapped out. I think most couples somewhere along the way lose the sense of excitement and anticipation once they get married but working together may increase that situation. I have been married almost 11 years and believe me I know what you mean! I can tell you how WE spiced things up but you really have to find what works for you. It could be small or more significant, but here are some ideas:
You could leave notes around the house for each other, or email/text each other "kinky" types of messages. (If you work together it might make it a bit harder to sneak away, but the reward might be worth it). Plus if you put ideas into each other's head while you're working, when you get home it might be more exciting, if you know what I mean!
You could surprise each other with nights out or a weekend getaway. If possible go out to eat at the place you went while you were dating, or even the spot of your first date.
Some couples even visit adult stores for certain, well, toys...that may encourage new ventures!
A lot of my girlfriends tell me they get turned on when the husband takes care of things she hates to do - could be certain chores, taking care of the kids/pets. When their husband steps in and does those favors, they are appreciative. You may want to consider doing something like that for him, like getting his car washed and detailed for example.
It's such a personal thing but I hope some of these suggestions give you ideas. It's not like doing chores is going to make you all horny for each other, but when you continually do nice things for each other as well as adding in little innuendos here and there, talking to each other in "code" or whatever, it all adds up. Good luck!
2007-04-24 10:02:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anon Chicago 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well maybe you 2 do need some time apart, he should go bowling with the guys or play poker while you and your girl friends go to a movie. being together is great but it can wear on you when its 24/7. after an evening apart occasionally you will be more excited to see each other and have something different to talk about. I mean if you are together all day and all evening what do you talk about? both of you were present for everything already , what is there to tell?
2007-04-24 09:56:33 · answer #3 · answered by just me #1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is because you are together so much that the sex cooled down. My husband and I are together all the time. He likes to look at porn on the Internet so I started to join him. Things are great for us sexually and we have been together for 17yrs. Sometimes you just have to try different things. If porn don't work for you, then try role playing or visit an adult store to get other ideas. Try going to different places to have sex. Outside under the stars maybe. There are an endless variety of things that you can do. It is just finding what is right for you.
2007-04-24 10:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by lily_florance 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get away from each other! No but seriously, you should have a girls nite out or something, go shopping by yourself. Try doing the deed in different or forbidden place on your balcony, in the shower, in yalls car in the parking garage. And if all else fails check out this website below...
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2007-04-24 10:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by peanutbudda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take yourself & him to a sex shop. Of course in the beginning it feels a bit awkward, but trust me, there's no-one there passing judgement - they are all doing the same things or they are jealous. Intamacy between two people who love one another is too important to let go of. Create romantic times - if you have chilkdren - MAKE the time - somehow, someway!!!!!!!!!!! If there are no kids - you should be all over one another in hallways, on tables, under the PC desk, etc., etc. - get creative and be respectful - it feels phenominal & allows the other person to show their affections and be loved back.
2007-04-24 10:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by martiek7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find sexy bras and underwears, do a nice dinner or a take away with nice candles, seduce him with passion and massage his body all over with seduction of creams and beauty. Put a sexy lipstic, and be the main dominant of your sex drive, kidnap him to a dream he's never seen it...
then life will come back, and your life will lighten like a thunder, you will smile, and he will obay you like no one else.... and marriage will resolve all the mysteries...
2007-04-24 09:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by Spark S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you two should do things a part. It sounds like you two never have to opportunity to miss each other or have your own time. It might be good for you to go out with friends and he should do the same.
2007-04-24 09:57:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nice candlelit bath for 2, dinner, a night at a cheap motel (I find they have the tendancy to make men horney), role-playing, board games can turn into horny sex games if you change the rules, whipped cream, scarves, feather boas, use ur imagination. Hell, after giving you all these ideas, I gotta pull a rabbit out of my hat and surprise my hubby. LOL
2007-04-24 09:56:24 · answer #9 · answered by Misty D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too much time together spend some time to yourself and let him be alone for a few hours a day thing will start back normal. good luck
2007-04-24 09:59:52 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋