Marriage & Divorce - 7 April 2007

We also have 3 children together and own property together.

2007-04-07 15:19:18 · 9 answers · asked by beatriz a 1

His mother is a nice woman. But here is the problem...
We are buying a house in nyc which is of course expensive... And I've been out of state for awhile, and me and my fiance are looking to buy our home... There are 2 major "problems" here...
1) he wants to buy one with his mother, have us live in the basement (paying the equal amount she pays for the house), and "save up" for our future house. Am i wrong in not wanting to do this? Yes things may be a bit harder $$ wise the other way, but, don't isnt that normal?
2) now i am still out of state. today he went home after seeing the house, and spent hours talking 2 his mother about the houses... When we talked, however, he had very little to say and seemed very upset; yet wont say why!?...
Am i wrong in feeling second to her? Moreover, am i wrong in feeling that me and his future should be top priority... not me, him and his mom??
ugh please send any advice. I'm very unsure...of what to do?
Thanks in advance!

2007-04-07 15:16:21 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-07 13:58:02 · 15 answers · asked by lilac 1

Why take them if a few months later you break them, i mean isnt that like lying to God if you take vows under his oath and not mean them, doesnt that mean youll go to hell

2007-04-07 13:49:50 · 10 answers · asked by eric s 1

As of late, my husband has acting like he wants nothing to do with me. If he is not on the computer, he is in the bedroom with the door closed. I try to talk to him and he gives me short one word answers. I ask him whats wrong, he tells me nothing. What the f*** is going on?

2007-04-07 13:47:23 · 24 answers · asked by forever charmed 2

like washing dishes an clothes an making dinner if u dont then u should try it makes my wife very happy an at nite she makes me very happy

2007-04-07 13:44:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

why do people get married?

2007-04-07 13:38:23 · 8 answers · asked by bznsman 1

She didn't know about us and we didn't know about her - but now that he is here in Texas to save our marriage (tuff on me, let me tell ya!), she won't stop calling and texting. He says he feels sorry for her and doesn't want to hurt her but - it seems like I am hurting so she doesn't have to. She doesn't know he is home - she thinks he is staying with his daughter. This is sick and tearing me apart. We have been married 27 years - I don't want to just throw it away if he was just in a mid life crisis we might be able to work through. I love him.

2007-04-07 13:18:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is addicted to Dungeons and Dragons online. He plays for hours at a time. I understand he can't just quit when he wants, but he spends most of his free time on the game. He stays up really late playing and doesn't get enough sleep which puts him into a bad mood.

2007-04-07 13:18:17 · 14 answers · asked by popijones 2

The entire family still treats the ex-wife like she is a daughter and encourages her to attend and participate in all family functions. We spend all our holidays with his grandparents and she lives there and spends her holidays with them as well. Everything the kids get has to be split between the parents because she is always there and no one other than me seems to see a problem with all of this. I do not share my time, holidays, parties for kids with my ex-husband and this is expected. Am I the crazy one for wanting to be the only wife at the family affairs. The ex-wife is very loud, out spoken and has been with the family for over 5 years and ensures she is the center of attention when they are all together. I am reserved and quiet and do not crave the center of attention attraction therefore I do not jump in the middle of every conversation that is taking place. I feel very uncomfortable at the family functions because she is there and even dread the idea of being there.

2007-04-07 13:08:41 · 19 answers · asked by Erica 1

Let me make this quick. I am a 28 yr old male and I got married in Oct of 06. Things were great at the begining, I have a 5 yr old I brought into the marriage and my wife doesnt see eye to eye with her. She doesnt think I am supportive when it comes to discipline. But she is also 3 months pregnant and 2 weeks ago she kicked me out, giving reasons that I am too distant with her (starting my own business) i spend to much time working and I dont support her with my daughter like I should. At first when I move she said it was temporary, she needed time apart, I called her alot and now she she says it is over, for me to move on, she regreats getting married and all that. I have cried and poured my heart out and she doesnt care, she sad its not the pregnancy or her mom putting stuff in her head, its not wanting to be with me anymore. One day she will be fine and the next she hates me,, but over the last few days she has had her mind set that she can not stand me???? Im confused

2007-04-07 13:05:58 · 16 answers · asked by Eric S 2

Do you think when two people are having an affair outside of marriage that their relationship could end up being more than what was expected at first? If both people are not receiving intimacy/sex with their married partner could it be possible for the affair to end up both people leaving their marriage?

2007-04-07 13:00:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

should any married cheater or someone sleeping with someone they know is married have their ring finger cut off? they can't finish the marriage before cheating? with no ring finger everyone will see they can't be trusted with matters of the heart and respect to others... just a thought.

2007-04-07 12:51:04 · 17 answers · asked by sufferingnomad 5

Really, how much does your spouse can cheer you up? What do they do if you feel down? Or is the right way is to sort it out for yourself and not expect your spouse to cheer you up? For example, my husband would rather let me watch a movie, than try to talk to me and cheer me up.

2007-04-07 12:39:16 · 15 answers · asked by Alyssa Macey 3

2007-04-07 12:38:13 · 6 answers · asked by Danielle S 1

my sister has six kids she is always working (she is a single mom) i have four kids maried and have 3 jobs ! she makes me and i mean makes me because she is older watch her kids and clean her house she literly puts a guilt trip on me because she has not a husband! i dont know what she is crying about having a husband is not a bed of rosses! anyways what can i do or say to make her not make me feel like i owe her something because i dont!! i have 6 sisters and i am the baby and they all put guilt trips on me to make me do stuff that i dont want to do!! any advice is greatly appreciated thank you :) and i dont care if you dont like the fact that i didnt use spell check !!!!

2007-04-07 12:24:07 · 31 answers · asked by notyochic 6

I was just wondering. We hear about so many famous woman marrying much younger men than themselves, some 20 years younger and it always raises such outrage or even curiosity. Hmmm, so if I fell for a lady who was lets say 11 years older than me, would that be so bad? I am in my late 30's and lets say for example she turns 50. Is that considdered "EWWWW!" Or "weird"? I know it very much would not be accepted if lets say I was 40 and married an 18 year old woman. Society would crucify me over it. But what about two people middle aged but yet much younger and one much older? Its not like a crime was committed or anything? Hmmm, Its so weird because if I were 50 and she was 38 then it'd be accepted but OH ho ho, I am the younger one and the tables have turned. Hmmm, So is this sooo risky or contriversial?

2007-04-07 12:17:51 · 35 answers · asked by John S 3

Is it after living together for 6 months is considered as common in law marriage correct?

2007-04-07 12:09:29 · 2 answers · asked by Shellie ann 1

2007-04-07 12:05:56 · 22 answers · asked by Keesha E 1

companionship.. Is there something wrong with the idea of getting married again and perhaps even having a child (I don't have any) Someone please explain to me why that is such a terrible thing. Don't people enjoy being in relationships? I enjoy having a best friend that is also my companion, my partner, someone to come home to, etc. Why do people run away at the first sign of commitment. I'm not asking for marriage on the first date or anything but why are people afraid of working towards that? Please don't make fun of me. I just enjoy companionship and don't want to spend the rest of my live being alone. Serious answers really appreciated. Thank you so much!

2007-04-07 11:54:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

he is 14 yo and i have been his mom since he was 2yo. i love him alot but im starting to NOT like him very much. he is a smart mouth galore,half a--es everything, sloppy and wants all the best but dont take care of anything nor does he appreciate a thing.... im at my witts end. i get tired of fighting with him and telling him the same thing over and over.i my self never had children but i,ve thought about leaving numerous times just because he,s there. however, i adore my husband. we,ve known each other since we were 18yo. we talk about the family problems and i would NEVER say ( i dont want the kid here) but i am miserable!!!!! HELP!!!

2007-04-07 11:24:48 · 26 answers · asked by Tracy 2

She claims she doesn't "know" me and wants to "talk with me" I say she should trust the kids father's judgment - Why would he let them be around someone that would hurt them?
I've told her NO, I will not grant her an interview and she should trust their Dad. Anybody got any suggestions?

2007-04-07 11:20:40 · 18 answers · asked by Kaybee 4

I looked through is phone the other night and found a number in it and asked him what it was. And he said" I dont know" so i called it and it was his ex. He said that they had only talked that once just to catch up. and that he lied to me because he was afraid of how I would react. I know he loves me and wouldnt cheat on me, and i know they are just friends. But i dont want him talking to her at all. Am I being dramaic here or what?? I just believe when you get married the past is the past and leave it alone.

2007-04-07 11:19:57 · 12 answers · asked by Paralegal1982 3

Well my bio dad has not been in my life since i was 3. About three years ago (im 16 now) my mom married the best guy literally in the whole world. But they just got divorced. I love my step dad to death and he has totally been there for me. Its really hard to live w/ my mom because she has anger issues and has been diaganosed w/ bi polar dissorder. Yet she refuses to take any type of medication.
Now my mom wants to move and take me away from everyone i love, including my step dad. which is completely unbearable for me. Do you know if there is anyway i colud live w/ him? like dont you get to choose when you become a certant age.?
And technically i dont think my mom totally qualifies as a "fit" parent, she wont work, and mentally has abused me since i was little, like i would as for somthing in the store and she would threatin to put me up for adoption. This kinda thing is still going on. Is there anyway i can live w/ my step dad?

2007-04-07 11:16:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dermatalogist/brother got married to one of his patients, after months of begging. He even adopted her faith and asked for her father’s permission since she's Pakistani and pretty traditional. My brother is a good looking guy and I can clearly see why he went through so so much to marry her, she's insanely gorgeous and an extremely devoted wife. She happily quit law to become a housewife and mother, she cooks feast, irons his clothes, takes care of the baby, and is constantly pampering him. I understand that his wife is influenced from her culture and my wife can never be like her but I come home to an empty house while my brother comes home to a warm dinner prepared by a gorgeous wife.My wife and I had a great friendship until I wanted to start a family and she refused.I thought a career woman was for me but I envy my brother's traditional wife and the devotion he gets from her. I cant stop thinking about her,I go over to their house all the time just to stare at he how do i stop?

2007-04-07 10:38:31 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-07 10:36:41 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

My father cheated on my mother and it has affected me more than my other simblings. I looked at my father as someone who could do no wrong. Since he did that, I have questioned my boyfriend about cheating. I love my boyfriend so much, we share a beautiful son together, he is the man I want to marry. But, I feel like he will eventually cheat on me, because my dad cheated on my mom. My boyfriend professes his love for me in every way, he does not want me to think like this anymore but i can not help it. I think that eventually its going to happen so i get mad at him.(boyfriend) I will pick arguements especially on the days that i go back and think about what my father did. What should I do??? I want nothing more than to be with him forever. Its not that I think he is going to cheat on me, its that i just cant help but relate that time in my life with my current life now. I need advice! Help. Please.

2007-04-07 10:35:29 · 39 answers · asked by alyssa27marie 1

Normally porn doesn't bother me. It's something that I've come to settle with. However when I found out that he had pornographic pictures of someone we both know (they were older and before our romance began) I asked him to take them down. So he did. About a month later I found a file containing pictures of the same girl. Only difference being these were here 'modeling' photos. It is true that she's a fetish model. I too am one but this really irked me. Any suggestions?

2007-04-07 09:46:28 · 15 answers · asked by mcvoysa 1

Going thru a separation.......this is my second marriage, getting ready to move out soon, daughter is about to graduate and have two teenage boys 15,and 13....house is not paid for that i'm getting ready to move back into...my job i'm working now is contract until further notice, the area I'm moving into the job market pay is very low.........the only bill I will have is house note,car and utilities.....scared I will not be able to make it own my own....I will be able to get any child support, because my boys are from a previous marriage, and we have not been married long enough for me to get alimony....but things are getting bad, and I have to go....what are some things that I can do that will encourage me not to be scared to be on my own again...(financially)....he already does not give me anything, but I only hate that my job (contract) is not permanent....I also will not be able to get assistance because we have assests that are in my name also(unpaid for)

2007-04-07 09:39:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for about ten years now and have never messed around on my husband. I don't drive and live in a rural community. Yet he continues to check my email and phone. I am a professional with a college degree so I am allowed that outlet. I don't have a drivers license due to past issues with depression so I am wondering how to get out of this rut? Makes me very angry that he doesn't trust me or is it his insecurities?

2007-04-07 09:32:17 · 16 answers · asked by happygirl23 2