How much do you rely on your spouse?

Question

Really, how much does your spouse can cheer you up? What do they do if you feel down? Or is the right way is to sort it out for yourself and not expect your spouse to cheer you up? For example, my husband would rather let me watch a movie, than try to talk to me and cheer me up.

Answer 1

Alyssa, There was a time that when my spouse acted down,I felt compelled to cheer him up. It was mentally exhausting and frustrating. I realized that he was lacking inner peace. It wasn't because I wasn't showing love. When I am down,it does not bother him one bit. If anything,he will make it obvious that I have a problem,not him. I now realise that I do not need his validation to make me complete,but oviously he needs mine. Just try this. For one week,be happy. No acting,I mean honest-to -God happy. See if he notices that. You may find(as I did) that you have the answer to your problem. You just haven't looked in the right place. Which is inside yourself. Best to you Susan

Answer 2

I can live without him, just don't want to. He doesn't do a good job of cheering me up really. he tries. But a good comedy on TV does better. He can help me see the other side of issues and that is very helpful. He is good at cuddling with and holding me when I am sad. There are some things we rely on a spouse for that only God can provide. Men aren't supposed to be our everything. At least that is what I think. Women don't need men to make their lives complete or better, but it can sure be a nice added extra!

Answer 3

I never rely on my spouse to cheer me up. Men think totally different than women do. To tell a man your problems is like talking to a brick wall.

Answer 4

not much, though I love him I've been his sole caretaker for 2 years 24/7 as he had a stroke at a young age and is dependent on me. Not saying you're problems are less than mine but u will never know how much I wish he could help me carry in groceries or take the garbage out or fix himself a sandwich or soda. Mine talks to cheer me up but I cannot understand a word of it.

Answer 5

I rely on him to some extent, but that is not why I am with him. I want to be with him. He has good days and bad days when it comes to what he does for me. Perhaps you should be able to stand on your own first, then you would be happier with him. You come across slightly negative, and he may be feeling some of that and just not want to talk to you. I am not trying to be mean, but a good place to start is always by looking in the mirror!!

Answer 6

Men are not very good when it comes to feelings I think they feel that it is a women’s job to make them feel good. For example my husband and sons hate it when I get very ill they just do not know what to do, and if am feeling blue they suggest some ice cream to make me feel better. I have learned to just go it alone when I am having a hard day we are the Caregivers, and they are the Providers.

Answer 7

My wife and I have been cheering each other up
more than 20yrs and our support for each other
has up-lifted our lives when we were down, and
because of our committment to each other it has
constructed an unbreakable mold that will last
for the end of our time.

Answer 8

Men and women are just made totally different. I don't know how God expected us to get along with being so different from each other. Men are just not wired like women are. It is so sad but we will never get what we want from our man. They are just incapable no matter how many times we tell them what we want they just can not give it to us. So depend on yourself and your women friends.

Answer 9

My husband is great about cheering me up. He hates to see me bummed out. So he makes me laugh or he'll lay next to me and hold me. We usually talk about what's bothering me and I feel better.

Answer 10

my husband makes me laugh all the time. He loves to cheer me up and make me happy.