2007-04-07 13:58:02 · 15 answers · asked by lilac 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I assume you are talking about kids? If you feel you are in danger then see a divorce attorney and get a restraining order. Document anything that you can and if he hurts you call the police so that it is on record. The judge would assess whether your a good mom and if you are then you would more than likely get custody. More moms still get custody than dads.
2007-04-07 14:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by lovnlife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best advice is go see a lawyer in your state. I was in that same predicament 11 years ago . Then I grew a backbone and contacted a lawyer. I told her that my husband threatened to leave me destitiute and take the kids, etc. Well when I told her about the assets and all, it turned out that I would be well cared for til I died. We just celebrated our 16th anniversary, oh and after that visit, he did threaten me for the last time so I let him have it right between the eyes! He was shocked that I stood up to him and had so much information about divorces. He has never threatened me since and the marriage is getting better all the time.
2007-04-07 14:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by califdreamer_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not going to ramble on and on but my now ex husband did the same thing when I kicked him out (for cheating) and then throughout the divorce process, and it was all talk...He never did a thing and thank god I am through with it. No matter what, if you are unhappy you should take ur chances and go and if he starts threatening you just be sure to have a good lawyer. Take care and good luck but please for the love of God, don't let him scare you into staying when your heart and head say to leave.
2007-04-07 14:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have kids, the chances that he'll win custody are slim. And if you have the kids, he has to pay support.
If you don't have kids, what is there to win? It's not likely you're going to pay spousal support. The courts still generally accept the idea that the man is the bread winner, and will expect that he'll be fine without your money.
These are generalities of course, not guarantees. But to me it sounds like he's using these threats to keep you in check. If you want a divorce that bad, then get one. Obviously you're not happy.
2007-04-07 14:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What types of things are he threatening you with every time you ask for divorce. Don't you stay with him!
Life is about yourself..."I must take care of myself before I can take care of others" I believe is the statement.
You want to divorce that husband, go ahead and sign those documents! I love my "wife" but she also needs to be taken care of until some things happen in her life. Our emotions are different. I love her, but not "In love" with her.
You stand strong and take those steps!
2007-04-07 14:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by AlbeFree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Win what? It isn't a contest. It's a divorce. My soon to be ex mother-in-law says she swears her son will win. He won't, but neither will I. In a divorce, there are no winners. Ignore him, because he is just trying to intimidate you so you won't file. Go find a lawyer and talk to him/her
2007-04-07 14:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that matters is your happiness. If you are not happy, get out. No material objects are worth being unhappy in a relationship. The only thing to be threatened by is if he is going to take children away, besides that, it's all just stuff....you can get more stuff.
2007-04-07 14:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by antonedbone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he is just making you feel threatened so that you won't file for divorce don't listen to the threats because that is what they are threats.
2007-04-07 14:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Momof1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could he win what?
don't ask for a divorce. if you want one, FILE for it!
take care.
2007-04-07 14:28:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you ASKING...if you REALLY want a divorce just go file for one. You don't need his permission.
2007-04-08 00:35:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋