How do marriages survive online games?

Question

My husband is addicted to Dungeons and Dragons online. He plays for hours at a time. I understand he can't just quit when he wants, but he spends most of his free time on the game. He stays up really late playing and doesn't get enough sleep which puts him into a bad mood.

Answer 1

My husband plays wow and eve. He does it for hours at a time. I feel your question. I have a hard time with it too. I told him ( 1 week) he spent 45 hrs playing he denied it but I timed him. He believed me then. I asked him to limit it to 20 hrs or less. We worked out when was appropriate and inapropriate times to play. He has gotten better, but it took a couple of months to get it straigtened out. Good luck.

Answer 2

The computer age we are in there are all kinds of
services one can obtain on line. The problem is a
lot of people can't control the use of these servi-
ces. I play games on line , all sorts , but I have a
wife and she is more important than any member
in Dungeons and Dragons, so that is why I limit my
time on the computer and it is only on the week-
ends if we are at home. I am retired and not work-
ing and could be on the computer any day or any
hour I want but as I sayed I have a wife and I need
my play time with her.

Answer 3

My marriage hit a rough spot when I started playing EverQuest some years ago. Same sort of thing, I was on all the time, couldn't just drop it and run when my wife wanted something. But, my situation is a bit different. The way I got through it is I let my wife play, and she got hooked. So we got two computers and played together occasionally. And because she played too, she understood the little things, like "don't talk to me during a fight" or "I'm in a group, I'll talk to you later."

Eventually I quit playing, but she kept going. If you are interested in gaming, try something for yourself. There are a lot of games out there to choose from. I personally recommend World of Warcraft, or City of Villain/Heroes.

If you're not into gaming, just try to be patient and negotiate a night for some together time. He still loves you, just the game has a sense of urgency to it, and he knows that you'll be there later. It's not fun as an outsider, but these games are quite addictive.

Good luck.

Answer 4

No, it would not survive. This need cannot be filled outside of the marriage, because there is no end to lust. It grows and grows, and destroys the life of the individual. If neither of you are Christian, that is the main problem. If God is not involved in your marriage, you can be sure Satan is, and his MO is to steal, kill, and destroy ( John 10:10 ), and he is very good at it. Only God gives the authority and power to stop Satan in his tracks. A marriage should never be "open", because someone else may satisfy her desire, and the marriage would come to a tragic end.

Answer 5

My husband plays Eve, I hate it. But he's pretty good about getting off when I ask and only annoys me every once in awhile. He loves the game and it's an outlet for him, he works so much. But I understand your anger, if mine was on all the time then we'd have issues.

Answer 6

well I really cut my online gaming down basically because my wife cussed me out so I play like quick 10 minute online games like Gears of War or Test Drive Unlimited, but then again I was never into those long long forever and ever online games though

Answer 7

I have the same type of problem.......I think guys do this because they have nothing else to do. He will have spurts where he will spend time with you then play the game. He will get bored of the game eventually.

Answer 8

Ask him where his priorities are. Tell him the game is affecting your marriage. Games are great but should most certainly be secondary to a marriage!

Answer 9

This online stuff will continue as long as you allow it. He's going to have to eventually put family first.

Answer 10

are you sure hes only playing dungeons and dragons?