Normally porn doesn't bother me. It's something that I've come to settle with. However when I found out that he had pornographic pictures of someone we both know (they were older and before our romance began) I asked him to take them down. So he did. About a month later I found a file containing pictures of the same girl. Only difference being these were here 'modeling' photos. It is true that she's a fetish model. I too am one but this really irked me. Any suggestions?
2007-04-07 09:46:28 · 15 answers · asked by mcvoysa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok. Obviously some of you don't understand what fetish means. Fetish doesn't mean porn. The photos she took were naked photos she tried to pawn off as fetish modeling. I am a model, not a porn star.
2007-04-07 11:40:20 · update #1
i disagree with those who said there's no place for porn in a marriage, simply because when sex gets dull (especially with marriages), therapists and counselors always recommend couples try porn.
now then, knowing my stance on porn, i would not, however, tolerate my boyfriend having porn of someone we know. perfect strangers is ok, but when you know the person, it gets way too personal. the fact that you allow him to own porn in the first place makes you more open-minded than the rest of the idiots who've answered. i say you did right, he can have porn, you just draw the line somewhere which is ok.
2007-04-07 10:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by fear of the dark 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋
well i did not know what fetish modeling was so i looked it up.. and your right naked pictures are not fetish modeling..would you be upset if he had pictures of her in fetish... i mean if your doing it then i would not be to upset with him.. but the nudies yeah i see your point...i would not want my man with pictures of some one from his past in the nude..or some one we both know.. but in that line of work is it not hard not to know all the other models..any way what you do as long as he accepts it is a job and that is all.. and should be treated as such..
2007-04-07 12:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fetish model doesn't mean porn you idiots. It means she's into goth modeling like PVC, leather, whips, chains, that kind of thing.
As for your questions, yes, you are right. If you feel uncomfy with it then it needs to go. Nuff said.
2007-04-07 10:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by rosegoddess_am_i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I understand it, you and this other woman are some sort of "fetish"models...Which i assume your husband knew before you married, and that may have been the greatest part of his attraction to you. I laso assume that youare intelligent enough to know this. Therefore why should you object to his keeping photos of other such girls?....In your line of work you should have expected it.
2007-04-07 15:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by dgnsav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you should consider a new occupation if this crap bothers you then you shouldn't be involved in it as welkl your giving your husband mixed messages by doing this then saying he cannot look at it?
Really get some professional marriage guidance and get out of that business and you are not wrong to ask him to turf the porn.
2007-04-07 10:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes you were right to, BUT at the same time, you need to stop your "modeling", because if you don't want your husband looking at pics of other women, why does it make it ok for other men to look at pictures of you?
2007-04-07 10:11:21 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused. You don't want him to have something that you participate in?
I would not tolerate my husband having naked pictures of anyone, whether he knew them or not. Am I so naive to think that he doesn't look at porn? No, but it's kind of different to keep files of it lying around.
This situation stinks. Did he have an affair with this woman before? That would explain a lot... like he still wants her for instance.
Good luck to you.
2007-04-07 10:04:44 · answer #7 · answered by wsibwigu 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You are being reasonable and acting with common sense..
All men look at porn but in this case it is too close & personal.
2007-04-07 10:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-02 08:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn;t matter what kind of photos and of who. You don't like it, it makes you feel uncomfortable. That right there means get it out of the house. It is just as much your house as his.
2007-04-07 10:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by LARRY74 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋