Going thru a separation.......this is my second marriage, getting ready to move out soon, daughter is about to graduate and have two teenage boys 15,and 13....house is not paid for that i'm getting ready to move back into...my job i'm working now is contract until further notice, the area I'm moving into the job market pay is very low.........the only bill I will have is house note,car and utilities.....scared I will not be able to make it own my own....I will be able to get any child support, because my boys are from a previous marriage, and we have not been married long enough for me to get alimony....but things are getting bad, and I have to go....what are some things that I can do that will encourage me not to be scared to be on my own again...(financially)....he already does not give me anything, but I only hate that my job (contract) is not permanent....I also will not be able to get assistance because we have assests that are in my name also(unpaid for)
2007-04-07 09:39:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
'I know how you feel, it is a scary feeling being on your own, you don't say how long you were married. But I was married for 30 years, straight out of high school at 17, went from being Daddy's little girl (only child) to someone's wife for the next 30 years. I came from work one day and my husband was moving out with no warning, moved in with woman he had been seeing for over a year. I suspected nothing as well as all our friends and family suspected nothing . He waited until our son turned 21 so that I could not receive any child support. I have a low paying job, teacher's aid so I don't get rich. He has at least paid the house payment and put our son though the rest of his college, let's pat him on the back. Ha Ha! But is a scary feeling I worry every month if I am going to be able to make ends meet since I have to pay everything else. Hopefully our divorce will be final soon and he will at least have to give me some of his retirement that he has just started drawing after 30 years with General Motors. I wish you luck and hang in there it has to get better.
2007-04-07 18:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by tannerlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find another job, and sell whatever you can from your combined assets to split. Once you are married, you are entitled to half of everything. Fair? Who cares. You need to look out for number one... that being you and your kids.
Why wouldn't he have to pay you alimony? Once everything is sold, you at least won't be drowning in debt and can start with a clean slate.
Isn't the kids' dad still paying child support? Now that your situation is changing, he will have to, assuming he stopped because you got re-married.
I would go see a lawyer if I were you to figure out exactly what your rights are. It sounds like you're going to get ripped off if you don't.
2007-04-07 17:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by wsibwigu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not sure that i have any words of wisdom that will help ur situation.... but in the end u know that ur situation was bad and good for u for leaving.... i can tell u to be strong and think highly of urself because u r doing the right thing.... dont jump into another relationship right away.... dont try and fill a void that u now have because ur husband is gone... u will get through it... trust me... it will be hard and there r going to be times that u want to give up and u just want to quit.... but think about ur children and think that u r here for them.... keep ur head high and dont give up because u will get through anything that life throws at u!!! i have been in ur situation... my exhusband was abusive to me and i finally had enough... i literally walked away with the clothes on my back and the clothes on my sons back... a credit card debt and a house note to pay... i didnt think that i would make it... but i did and u will too!!!! if u have family that will really help u... if u dont have family then check out local support groups in ur area... GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-04-07 16:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by want a princess baby 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find your confederate's, and move forward , and begin again!
I would suggest a book as a man thinking's for your personal help.
2007-04-07 17:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your body into shape and find a sugar daddy...
2007-04-07 16:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just do the best you can and it will work out.
2007-04-07 16:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋