Is he losing interest?

Question

As of late, my husband has acting like he wants nothing to do with me. If he is not on the computer, he is in the bedroom with the door closed. I try to talk to him and he gives me short one word answers. I ask him whats wrong, he tells me nothing. What the f*** is going on?

Answer 1

Don't listen to all those people who tell you that he's cheating.

I mean, you write that he's AT HOME either at the computer or in another room. So he sticks close to home. That is still a good sign.

But something is up.

It's hard to give advice here. Someone on here wrote that he could be depressed. That is definitely a possibility. Or maybe he's chatting with someone (with many someones?) on the computer.
I agree with everyone that you need to find out what's going on. And do not accuse him of anything. I mean, if you ask what's wrong? - that already sounds a bit accusatory. Sorry to say that.

If he just doesn't want to talk, here are some little techniques that I've used to get my guy to open up:
1: Ask him to come to the kitchen or another comfortable area in the house. Open a beer for him and say: "OK, honey, let's talk."
Men love to talk over a beer.

2:Men love to talk while driving (YOU do the driving). I read that somewhere (it's the sitting next to each other thing). And I tested it out on my man. We had to make a long drive somewhere and I wanted to talk some things out. I drove. And two hours later, everything was out in the open. I really works. I'm not kidding. He really opened up. Try it.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Sounds to me he is up to something on the computer. I have heard that many affairs occur online while the other spouse is nearby. I am not married ,but I wanted out of my relationship with my boyfriend and this was the only way for me to communicate with the other guy was by IM. I could talk about the ex and all the reasons I wanted to leave while he was in the house, this also led me to do some of the same behavior like when I got off the computer be mad and angry at him or just not talk to him. Keeoo your eyes open and good luck.

Answer 3

There are so many possible explanations for this behavior, you are married and if he has always honored his vows in the past than it's safe to assume he is honoring them now. Remember that there are other ways of communicating than talking. Perhaps all the words and doting are aggravating him, so write him a short note and leave it in his room or by his computer. It should say something like, 'I am your wife and I love you. Whatever your going thru I want to help if I can, I am your partner. If you must deal with it on your own I can accept that too. Your Wife....'
Once he has read your note than leave him and the issue alone and give him the time and space to decide what he wants to do.

Good Luck

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Answer 4

Majority of guys will lose interest after sex because that's the biggest thing you can offer a guy . Bad or good sex could still not make them stay . Since he hit you up to bring a girlfriend he'd probably sleep with you again but don't talk to him anymore and when he hits you up be short . One thing a guy can't stand is knowing that his sex game sucks and if you're not hitting him up he's gonna start questioning . I know it sucks but you know that the main reason why you grew feelings is because of the sex . Another guy will come along sooner than you think don't waste your time on a guy who just treats you like a piece of meat

Answer 5

He may have lost interest. But at the same time he might be stressed about something and is for some reason either scared to talk to you about it, or he's blaming you.

Are there financial issues? Has he recently been forced to change jobs? Family crisis of some kind? Has he been to the doctor recently after not going for twenty years?

I hope you find out, and that you can find a solution.

Answer 6

There's definitly something wrong but it may very likely not have anything to do with his interest in you. Maybe something embarrassing or depressing happened to him and he doesn't want to talk about it but he's thinking about it a lot. You should tell him that if he is going to act this way with you then you'll have to take a break from each other for a while. If you take a break and he doesn't miss you then he's probably not mr right.

Answer 7

I think and the way he is going on that he is cheating on you with someone on line .
I know it going to be hard that if he is on the computer and then want to be alone is that he want to be with someone else. So you can check the history on the computer to see what he is doing . Sad that it will end unless you rip the cords out of the computer and go out and do something if that fail then your relationship is over.

Answer 8

Something is definetly going on....doesn't necessarily mean he's cheating though. Maybe he's depressed. Who knows....he atleast owes you an explanation regarding whether it's about you or not. It's not fair that he's keeping you wondering and treating you like crap...even if he is depressed. Sounds like you need to put your foot down and demand that he tell you what's up...if he honestly says he doesn't know....then you can probly assume it''s something with him. Be very specific in asking him questions about what's happening and don't allow him to blow you off until you have an answer....he owes you atleast that.

Answer 9

You have to get him to talk to you. Instead of asking him what is wrong ask him how his day was try and get him to do fun things with you. It may not be anything to do with you but something from his family or work.

Answer 10

Calmly ask him what is going on,maybe he has a health problem or work issue. Once you have found out the reason,you two can address the problem together.