Is it socially still unacceptable to marry a person MUCH older than myself?

Question

I was just wondering. We hear about so many famous woman marrying much younger men than themselves, some 20 years younger and it always raises such outrage or even curiosity. Hmmm, so if I fell for a lady who was lets say 11 years older than me, would that be so bad? I am in my late 30's and lets say for example she turns 50. Is that considdered "EWWWW!" Or "weird"? I know it very much would not be accepted if lets say I was 40 and married an 18 year old woman. Society would crucify me over it. But what about two people middle aged but yet much younger and one much older? Its not like a crime was committed or anything? Hmmm, Its so weird because if I were 50 and she was 38 then it'd be accepted but OH ho ho, I am the younger one and the tables have turned. Hmmm, So is this sooo risky or contriversial?

Answer 1

Go for it. you only live once.age is just a number. Unless the female/male is under the age of 18

Answer 2

Make a list of all the ages. When you are 60 (on the youngish side of old age), she will be 71 (definitely old). When you are 70, she will be 81, positively ancient. These are the things to look at. I was with someone for a long time who was much older than me (11 years) but being the woman, it didn't matter so much. I was too young to see that at when I would be approaching 60, he would be in his 70s. Now that I'm older and have lost relatives, I see that 70 is a somewhat vulnerable age for men, healthwise. I could never ever see that then.

Answer 3

I dont think society as a whole see things in a sociably acceptable manner. I think the majority of us have good values and believe that people should do what is right for them. I also believe no-one should be dictated to on how they live their lives....that is their personal choice.....and who makes the rules on sociably acceptable behaviour anyway? Its about attitudes and opinions, and you will get lots of different ones these days. We are more tolerant I think...more liberated maybe?

If you are comfortable with the age difference, then people get used to seeing you together and it becomes no big deal....It may look odd to some people, but it will become normal when they see you together regularly.....and who cares about strangers opinion's anyway?

I was involved with a man 17 years younger than me. I felt really funny about it. I thought people would be staring and thinking whats an old dame doing with a young guy like that. They were my insecurities, but once I got past it, then I realised people were not thinking that at all. I was with him for 4 years and everyone around us got used to it. If you are comfortable with it then that is all that matters.

Answer 4

Don't worry about what society thinks. So tongues are gonna wag-no big deal!!! My brother who is 49 has been married to a woman for 22 years and she is 15 years older. They have a wonderful relationship and our family loves her. I'm 52 and single and would not turn down the chance of having a great romance with a younger guy because of what people would think.Go with what your heart tells you.

Answer 5

You are right if you were a younger women in our society they have lots to say about both sex the man being a cradle snatcher and the young girl a money grabber but when a women marries a younger man society think it is acceptable they think a women with a toy boy is an ego boost and not perverted. WELL NEWSFLASH WHO GIVES A **** HOW OLD PEOPLE ARE IF THEY WANT TO MARRY DO IT iF THERE MONEY GRABBERS DEAL WITH IT JUST STOP CRITICISING. Men and women are jealous when there is a younger sex involved they thing ccccoooorrrr i,d have a bit of that honey

Answer 6

I think you know the answer already. I mean are you trying to make the world happy, or are you trying to make yourself happy? You are way to caught up in the opinions of everyone else.Come on if you love each other than nothing at all is more important.You should not let anything come between you and what makes you happy. You cannot help who you fall in love with and in life there are way to many things much more important to be thinking about. Just follow your heart.

Answer 7

If you love her, go for it!! Age is just a number. I've found that most relationships with a significant age difference tend to work out. Men usually die at a younger age than women anyway. :D This way, maybe you'll both go around the same time. Good luck!

Answer 8

I have a friend who married a man that is 11 years younger than her..They have been married 8 years and are very much in love..
My son works with a man that is in his early 40's and lives with a girl that is 19..

So nowadays..it's not big deal..

Answer 9

Who cares what some people may thing, it isn't a sin, it isn't anti-scriptural. 11 yrs. older than my husband and happily married since 1984, like everything else marraige depends on the people. Everything about us was opposites, [except we're both Christian] he is 6'2'' I am only 5' 3'', he was an x marine, I was a sort of shelltered girlie girl. He used to smoke & I never did. We got on his black motorcyle one night and rode across the U.S. and eloped. He was an out spoken college radical and I had never met anyone like that in my life.

Answer 10

I have worked for people with a large age gap, and believe me when I say as time goes on it does not get pretty. I worked for a millionaire and he was 15 years younger then his wife as time moved on she got older and very ill, but that did not stop him from having many young girlfriends. I also worked for a couple that the wife was 20 years younger, and she had lovers on the side, and she could wait for husband to finally die so there you are in a nutshell the whole story as time moves on.

Answer 11

Someone asked a similar question and I said this: It's the famous "Double Standard" at work.

Men have a set of rules and women have a different one. As simple as that.

Normally, men are somewhat admired- and envied by his fellow men- when they obtain the attention of a younger woman. (Never mind what they are trading for it- that's another controversial point.)
But if a woman dates or marries a younger man, eyebrows are raised and people freak out...because it's "going against the rules".....See?
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So, if you are younger than her and you both feel OK about it, congratulations! (As long as others are not being hurt by this, it's nobody's business but yours, really.) Good luck...