PLEASE - Serious responses only. I am almost 40 years old. I have been divorced twice. I enjoy....?

Question

companionship.. Is there something wrong with the idea of getting married again and perhaps even having a child (I don't have any) Someone please explain to me why that is such a terrible thing. Don't people enjoy being in relationships? I enjoy having a best friend that is also my companion, my partner, someone to come home to, etc. Why do people run away at the first sign of commitment. I'm not asking for marriage on the first date or anything but why are people afraid of working towards that? Please don't make fun of me. I just enjoy companionship and don't want to spend the rest of my live being alone. Serious answers really appreciated. Thank you so much!

I guess I don't neccesarily mean I need to get remarried; I would just like a partner to spend time with.

I guess the child isn't the important part; if it happens it happens. I just want a partner. I met my first husband through a friend and the second one through a dating service. First husband cheated on me; second was an alcoholic.

I'm just lonely I guess

Answer 1

Sometimes marriage is not for everyone., and for
marrige to work it takes TWO to be totally commi-
tted to each other. You have had two bad ex-
periences and they say sometimes the third time
is a charm. This is something that you will need to
think about and if you want another try then you
need to really take your time and search for the
right one. A child should be secondary on your
thoughts because just because you may not have
a child does not make you any less of a woman,
and as a woman you deserve the same happiness
in life as any other. Since you are single and no
children it should make it easier for you to look for
the right person for you. SO do just that adventure
into finding the happiness you deserve and make
sure you get the respect you deserve and take
your time and if it is meant to be then it will be and
if not well then it is better being happy single than
miserable married. Lonliness is something that
can be taken care of without being married, by
having a companion man friend, and just remem-
ber you will need to work on this as you were al-
ready made un-happy twice. There is always some
one out there for someone else and being under
40 well you are still in the running to find that some
one. Good luck.

Answer 2

Well, if you want a serious relationship, then you need to look in serious places for men. Join a club, go to Home Depot and take a class on Saturday, volunteer somewhere, etc. I would like to know where you found your first two husbands. Was it in a bar? If so, don't date anyone you meet in a bar. It is just for fun on their part and you are looking for a serious relationship with the possibility of kids. When you find a man that loves you, he won't be afraid of commitment. Get out there today and start looking. No bars, no pool halls, and nowhere where there are men just looking for a girl for the night or for a few weeks. You know what I mean. At age 40, the clock is ticking loudly regarding a baby so don't waste your time on that kind of guy. Take my advice. Think about it. Good luck, Sweetie.

Answer 3

It took my aunt three tries to get it right. The first husband was an idiot with whom she had two daughters. He ran off with another woman who was only into him for the money. The second husband was a very nice guy, but he couldn't control his drinking. the third one, he has been the best so far, and hopefully the last one for her. He makes her very happy. I am going through my first divorce. It was not my idea. I loved and still very much love my wife. However, she was unhappy and I have to respect her wishes. There is nothing wrong with wanting children, even at forty something years of age. All I can recommend is to take your time, and make sure your next spouse is the one you want for all of the right reasons. There is nothing wrong with being in a long term relationship before you tie the knot again. It is best to make sure that you are a good fit for one another, and that you both have a compatible lifestyle. I wish you luck in your endeavor of love, and sincerely hope that you find some help from this.

Answer 4

Boy you sure have been through the loops in life. First thing you need to do is get yourself straight on what you really want out of life. If it's just the companionship you don't need to be marry to have that. You can find a male friend that will give you companionship. You don't need to be in a marriage to live with someone. I think you are looking to hard for a man. Let the men come to you. Get involve in some activities to find a good man. Don't get a looser next time.

Answer 5

Loneliness is a terrible thing. I think it is the type of guys you pick also you might send off a signal that you want a relationship guys take that as needy and this is why you end up with people who cheat, lie, drink and have issues. I would try and work on yourself and see what the past guys had in common and look to see where you are going off track here. You are not old don't worry about your age. Just know for every pot there is a lid

Answer 6

Nothing wrong with seeking a life long relationship especially after two attempts with losers. You just need to find the perfect one for you and then be happy for the rest of your life. Just be more carefulin choosing a partner next time, easier said, hard to do. But you dont need a third strike here. At least you havent given up on men totally yet and are willing to try again, good for you. So theres nothing wrong with yiou but the guys you chose for a relationship so maybe you should be a little more choosier. Dont quit and go after whatever makes you happy, your dream mate. Good luck

Answer 7

I have been divorced 3x. I am scared to death of getting married again, but I am in a relationship that I am willing to commit to, but not sign that piece of paper. As far as kids are concerned, 40 is a delicate balance of hormones and other issues, especially for women. If you have a child at say, 42, by the time that child is 18, you will be 60. Most people today, throw away marriage as easily as you throw away garbage. I wish you luck in your quest.

Answer 8

okay... me too. 40's divorced 2x.. I am not looking, enjoying taking care of just me for the first time in maybe forever... I have spent time learning to love myself and be happy with myself, enjoying campanionship with me...
Men run from clingy women.. it is an energy you put out... put out quiet confidence, and they will come a running!!
I have joined singles groups, done the web-site thing, I have found many men that want a serious relationship, many more that just want sex or a fling... It is a wierd place to be, yet as soon as you embrace it.. start really loving where you are.. it will change.. it is a Universal Law
Good luck, keep in touch if you'd like... we can share stories and advise..

Answer 9

Well, you have made two huge mistakes with marriages already, you should be very happy you haven't had children. I do, however understand the want for a child, believe me.
Of course you should be able to have companionship, but I really think you need some serious therapy before you get into any relationship with a man again. You have to find you.

Answer 10

Forgive both your ex spouses and look toward a brighter future. It is okay to marry when Mr. Right comes alone but if you choose stay single, and be merry until that time comes again. Remember we attract what we are so you want a friend be a friend and the right man will show up for you.