Do you think when two people are having an affair outside of marriage that their relationship could end up being more than what was expected at first? If both people are not receiving intimacy/sex with their married partner could it be possible for the affair to end up both people leaving their marriage?
2007-04-07 13:00:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah, I think it can lead to more. Just because you marry someone doesnt mean to say you made the right choice. Sometimes it isnt until we are older do we know what really makes us happy and if we are not happy in our relationship and we happen to meet the person who really does make us happy, then all sorts of things change. We start to look at our long term happiness. It is also the time we really take a look at the problems in our marriage and weigh up whether to hang on because of the marriage certificate or take a risk. And it is risky, it may not work out....but there is also a risk that it will too.
Its only when one party wants to stay married but keep the affair going when problems really arise. Both of you need to be in agreement and want to be with each other equally. Both of you need to be prepared to leave your respective marriages. Both of you need to sit down and decide if you are both at the same level, eg, both of you wanting the same things. If one or the other wants to stay in their marriage then the affair will only end up hurting a lot of people....yourself included. Take care, but make sure its what you both want first.
2007-04-07 13:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I say that the both of you cheaters should just let your partners know and see for yourself what will happen in the end. I really doubt very highly that the man/woman you are sleeping with has any feelings for you what so ever he/she is just using you for a piece of something he/she anit getting at home.
Your the reason a good girl like me won't get married to just anyone oh hell no I was asked twice, first man I was with for 11 years and the one after that 8 and do you think I have a ring on my finger HELL NO! I am to solid for a man because I will not cheat and I do not believe in divorce. I would never sell myself short for anyone who is nothing but fake because myself I am a great person and I treat a man like gold and then some but these days I'd rather be single and stay the hell away from people like you.
Good luck with your affair!
2007-04-07 20:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any relationship can lead to more. THink of how you got married. You started off as friends, then dating, then being intimate then getting married. So, it is the same with an affair. The two people probably got together as friends. They found out they both were in poor relationships and they started sharing more and more information and got closer. Now, they are in an intimate affair. Of course it can progress and lead to destroying both marriages.
2007-04-07 20:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is would could happen and end the end you will never trust the new person because you both are cheaters. So the relationship you will have will have no trust. And the percentage of these relationship if they marry have even less that 50 percent chance of making it last. It never pays to look outside your marriage when your marriage is not going well. You need to look inside your marriage and fix it or get out.
2007-04-07 20:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Dance 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can lead them to be together, the real question is - will it last? I have learnt the hard way, that you can not build any steady healthy relationship until you are free and available. People, who lack intimacy in their marriage, are still in this marriage and the whole thing just gets even messier, than before. Very often people, who cheat, are miserable and desperate, which means that it does not really matter who they end up cheating on their spouses with. They lack any sensible thinking until it's too late and very often they regret that they ever cheated. So, no, it's not the way of dealing with issues.
2007-04-07 20:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by Alyssa Macey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing affairs lead to in marriages is
DISASTERS, so if you want to stay married,work
things out with your partner and if both of you can
not fix it then get divorced and have all the affairs
you want with all the single people you want.
2007-04-07 20:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely...it does occur...of course, people who cheat are more apt to cheat again so both of these married cheaters could cheat on their new partner and of course he or she would have no right to complain, since not only is their partner a cheater but that's how they met.
Bad karma...what goes around, comes around. End one relationship before starting a new one...it's not worth the negative energy...not to mention anyone with a conscience would be filled with guilt.
2007-04-07 20:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, it could lead to more. Broken families, divorces, custody battles in court.....and in the end, Karma landing on you like a ton of bricks!
2007-04-08 01:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a little bit of a reach. How ever if it did would you ever know if you could trust this person? After all this person cheated on their spouse for you how do you know this person won't get tired of you and cheat on you.
2007-04-07 20:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kathleen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, sugar, but think about it: y would u want some1 who u know cheats? could u ever really trust that person? if both of u were cheaters, what's 2 stop either of u from doin it again?
2007-04-07 20:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by Aurora Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋