Marriage & Divorce - 17 November 2006

She's just been nagging and nagging and nagging. Heck she's 16 years old. She should know better.
But if I do, what do I do about the 3 kids. She says they're mine but I'm not so sure. One of em looks just like Earl from the gas station.

2006-11-17 10:04:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Fiancee is battling to get her two boys back from the CAS. We have known each other for a year, and intend to get married so we can be together as I live in the UK, and my Fiancee lives in Canada. We intend to approach the CAS about our relationship and intentions, because she has been told anyone who is to be around the kids needs to be approved, and background checks done etc., which I have no problem with but my Fiancee is worried it will cause problems and delays in getting them back. If anyone has any information that might help, it would be greatly appreciated. Kind Regards, Davie.

2006-11-17 10:04:02 · 1 answers · asked by davie_1971 1

2006-11-17 10:01:19 · 36 answers · asked by kelsmo1971 2

2006-11-17 09:59:16 · 4 answers · asked by Angelique 1

my ex got custody and can take my kids anywhere in the world if she can prove that they MAY have a better life
the currunt system is wired for the mother (so dads for justice have a point)

2006-11-17 09:55:48 · 11 answers · asked by toon_tigger 5

My husband looks at porn a lot and it really bothers me..I feel like i have tried everything I try to have sex with him as much as possible and he doesn't want to sometimes I try to watch porn with him but he says he doesn't need it though when I'm gone he looks at porn everytime..I really need some help..I want to understand him..I know that how i feel about it ITS MY FAULT..he tells me that its my fault cuz i have insecurities its true! i understand that..but i still feel angry that he looks at porn..i feel so depressed and undesireable..I even have sex with him whenever he wants even if i don't want to because i fear that if i don't have sex with him he will go and look at porn. I want to know how to get rid of this feeling..can someone help me??I want to be comfortable saying to myself "porn means nothing to him, and it doesn't bother me"...Do i need counseling because i feel this way about it..i feel weird because my husband says i should have no feelings about it..that its normal

2006-11-17 09:51:49 · 22 answers · asked by Ana R 1

I am 33 i have been with this man know for abut 2years i do live with hem i have 2 kids not his but he is a good dad ever thing is good with all of us.But me and my man i try to make love to hem but it's like he runs from me i try asking him is it me you do not like what you see or am i to fat i try tilling him i do not like this all i get is i stop it i love you i am just witching this or i am tiered or it's to lent i try to were something sexy the only time we have sex is wan he is drinking and i just do not know Y all i want is to make love to my man help me

2006-11-17 09:50:00 · 12 answers · asked by oh_so_playful2000 1

whom are all grown with the exception of 1 16 year old.My daughter and her 2 kids live with us as well. I have wanted to go to couseling for a long time,he won't go.He works alot and NO he is not "messinng"around.We have alot of family issues that are not EVER going to be worked out.He drinks alot but he says he's not hurting anyone because he is not a violent person or anything so he thinks it's ok but it makes me sick because he comes in EVERYDAY with beer.He will make promises about lets do this or lets do that but then he forgets because he is drunk when he makes the promises.FORGET getting help with the drinking,not going to happen. At this point my only concern is my 16 yr old who is a jr. in h.s. What will this do to him if we split? I know it won't be easy but he is already having some problems with grades/school eventho he is very athletic. My spouse makes good money and I only work 30 hrs a week so my income is limited but I can't do this anymore,I am miserable.

2006-11-17 09:43:28 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

The husband or the wife?

2006-11-17 09:41:49 · 22 answers · asked by Cindy S 4

married 7 years together 14 with four kids involved and hit a bump in the road and an illegal has her hooks in my husband trying to get everything thats mine. he doesnt want to be there but she just had a baby 3 days ago and has been hanging it over his head for ever noe that she will take the baby to hondorus and never see his daughter. shes been in legal trouble here. gets benefits i cant even get and thinks she is legal because her baby was born here. does that make her legal. she left 4 kids behind over there. i have literally been through hell this past year trying to get my husband back i love so much and he obviously loves me but is very messed up in the head. there is obviously more to this story but those are the high lites can somebody please shine some lite on my situation. please help

2006-11-17 09:37:18 · 10 answers · asked by ASHAMED 1

My divorce settlement in Virginia states I must pay an additional $250 per month for extended day for my two children. Two years post divorce they have not done extended day for over a year (there are no other child care expenses) but I still pay the additional $250 per month. Do I still have to pay this? Does the settlement have to be rewritten? What happens if I just stop paying the $250? I have offered to put the $250 in a college fund but she has ignored this suggestion. Appreciate your thoughts on this. Thanks, Jim

2006-11-17 09:36:51 · 8 answers · asked by Jim 1

I found out in May she says she never meant for it to go far, it was an emotional phone connection first. She says she wanted to work on the marriage. Through 3 therapists she lied about not seeing or speaking to him..come to find out after 5 months of me trying she was always still speaking and seeing him. Now she blames me for stuff I did 5 years ago 15 years ago and even when we were dating 28 years ago..stuff she never complained about before. I JUST CAN'T BELIEVE MY 30 YEARS..DIDN'T HOLD UP TO 5 MONTHS WITH HER FIRST LOVER AT 14 YEARS OLD

2006-11-17 09:33:07 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do you look for in a mistress? Have you ever cheated on your wife?

2006-11-17 09:32:53 · 8 answers · asked by wildladyreba 2

How many women out there are dissapointed in your husband's job? Why do you think they stay at that job and would you leave your husband if employment was the negative issue?

2006-11-17 09:25:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I thought I had a very good frienship with a guy, so caring and understanding he was. Then to my SURPRISE one day Emailed me and said, he was not going to correspond with me no more. This person was not married, but did have a few women he had dated at the time he was talking with me! Please "ANYONE" give me your advice....he could make me "SMILE" when I was way down in the dumps....THANKS for all your answers! He didn't even give me a GOOD reason and I wish he would have just been HONEST with me. It HURT me DEEPLY!! Rosie47

2006-11-17 09:24:02 · 20 answers · asked by a_moyars 1

It's been 3 yrs. since our divorce, he has been through a lot of women and there has been a lot of drama with each of them. He and I talk regularly b/c we have a six yr. old. About a month ago, he started calling me and asking personal questions about my love life and a week ago he said he wanted to try and work on our relationship. He said he was tired of these women and if he was going to spend money on women and get sex he'd rather do it with me. Then he says how no one has gotten his true attention since me. He came over last night and we did have sex and we had so much fun together. We did not talk about where we were going to go from here though. He wanted to talk about it, but his friend came over and we couldn't. He kissed me slowly on the lips and left. I'm just wondering if this is normal for ex's to want to get back together after going through a divorce? What exactly does he want?

2006-11-17 09:20:18 · 14 answers · asked by precious girl 1

My husband suffered verbal and emotional abuse at the hands of his father. His father always called him a spazz and wouldn't allow him to play sports because he would "get hurt." He, however, allowed my husband's brother to play and encouraged and rewarded him for it.
He also called my husband an idiot and a klutz and did other obnoxous things.
I've heard that this type of truama mixed with any sort of marital discord can put a man off sex with his wife because he is so out of touch with his own body and sexuality.
If you have been in this sort of boat, or are in it, please respond.
It hurts so much that my husband never initiates sex with me.
And, no joke, I'm quite beautiful and have a knack for being sexy. It is so hard on my self-esteem to not be treated as if I am.

2006-11-17 09:16:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-17 09:14:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband works for his Dad right now in a construction company and he makes $25 an hour with no benefits whatsoever. There are times when my husbands payroll check has bounced, times where he gets paid 2 1/2 weeks late, and he is stressed because none of the workers are very compitant. He recently quit because of the workers complaining all of the time and the pressure on him because he is the only one who really knows what hes doing. He went to work sidejobs with my uncle in construction and has been happy during this time. My uncle offered him a job in the union where he would start out at $35 an hour full medical and dental for the whole family, $3000 a year vacation bonus, etc... We are in hard times finanically but my husband instead of taking this job with my uncle that would greatly help our family he would rather go back to his Dad because he said he is happier there. I am upset that he is making this choice and he gets angry when I question his choice.

2006-11-17 09:12:28 · 14 answers · asked by Bellas Mama 1

2006-11-17 09:08:07 · 15 answers · asked by J H 1

what you have to understand im a girl in a realationship with a girl, however my girl at the time lives with her exgirlfriend, like i said shes with me all the time and like one week in the relationship she got my name on her arm. shes unable to get out and move, but shes trying to move now, how can, or what should i do, im trying to be cool about it

2006-11-17 08:59:47 · 4 answers · asked by robin r 1

I 've been married 9yrs. My husband cheat on me twice in a yr.I for gave him. Both times was no sexually in counter, So he say.
He say he loves me and he mess up bla bla bla crap. Do i belive no. Do i think i can't trust him no.So why is it hard for me to just say enough. Why can i just walk away. I know I'm not in love with him anymore, but I love him. I hope that makes since.Anyways my other question is why do I deal with his mental stress he always finding something to point out i do wrong. This man complex me.cry out help

2006-11-17 08:56:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for a long time. With in the last year, my wife has put on 25 lbs. I don't find it attractive so our sex life has slowed down. She ask me if I mind her extra weight and like an idiot I said she could stand to lose a few pounds. She says I should love her unconditionally even if she gained 100 lbs. I do love her but I don't find her very attractive. I know you'll ask what about you! I am 6-2 and weigh 200 lbs, I exercise regularly. So I should not mind because I love her uncondtionally. If this true for both partners? I wonder if I came home and said I quit my job, I just don't want to work anymore. And by the way, we are going to have sell the house, sell her BMW and live in a crappy apartment. And you will have to get a job. I know that is tough because I have busted my hump off so she could stay home and raise our kids. So if I quit my job, shouldn't she still love me unconditionally. Men are visually atracted to women and women are more attracted by security.

2006-11-17 08:50:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

And it was the wife's idea to lets say take an equity line of credit out of the house to do some remodeling to the house. Ultimately as husband or wife you come together to make decisions and respect each others opinion regardless of what choice you ultimately make. Is it fair to blame the wife since it was her suggestion in the first place if the financial choice made them go through hard times money wise? My husband is blaming this on me even though he didn't even disagree in the first place with the choice. What do I do? This seems unfair to me and it hurts me that he is putting all the weight of our financial choices on my shoulders instead of us going through it together.

2006-11-17 08:50:11 · 13 answers · asked by Bellas Mama 1

are getting married

2006-11-17 08:47:53 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

my parents are divorced and i live with my mum. my dad called maybe a month ago saying he won't be able to pick us for christmas when my mom has been having us for christmas for the 3rd time now. this is a man who lies ...to his mom ..to his children and just about every one. im not sure i like this very much. he jst now this year has started to pay his child suppport. what should i do? i won't to say somthing but...to scared

2006-11-17 08:47:23 · 9 answers · asked by littlered102012 1

My husband recently confessed to a short lived affair that occured back in July. He cried, begged me to forgive him and stay, showed remorse, agreed to marriage counseling, has treated me like a princess since, and when we're not focused on the affair, its like our marriage has never been better. Not that there is a ever a good reason to cheat, but I can clearly see that I was part of the problem. (Constantly refusing him sex and treated him poorly). My question is, can a man make a mistake like this, and learn from the guilt and pain its caused and be truthful when he says he wont do it again and be sincere when he says he wants only me and to focus on making our marriage survive this and be better than ever? I do see it in it his actions every day that he is sorry and that he does love me, but I'm afraid to commit again. The betrayel and the destruction of trust is taking its toll. Is it possible to stray once and realize everything you could loose and vow not to do it again?

2006-11-17 08:47:13 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need to talk with a lawyer about my situation. He want to divorce, but he want me out in my own. I cant take care of my self, i dont have a job, i dont know nobody here.

2006-11-17 08:41:35 · 9 answers · asked by Sophia 1

My husband has been very weird latly and i dont no y i think he is cheating!

2006-11-17 08:38:25 · 24 answers · asked by angela m 1

I am in such a messed up situation. I am divorced with two young kids. My ex got involved in hard core drugs while we are married, then he caught HIV/Aids disease and almost gave it to me while i was pregnant, but did not, then he cheated on me with several people. We are now divorced, and because I was so worried for the kids safety, I have the divorce agreement with supervised visitation for the kids. I also felt that if I went for full child support, he would make my life hell, because he could not see the kids alone and would be paying all this money. ( he makes a lot of money). So, now I only take half but because of it I have to work full time, so my kids barely see me. Would you go for full child support but let him visit with the kids more with his family as the supervisor? That is what he would do or would you give up the money for you and your kids and work full time? I just totally freak out on top of his problems,he will have blood accident & infect the kids!! Help!!

2006-11-17 08:38:18 · 7 answers · asked by Bet L 1