I thought I had a very good frienship with a guy, so caring and understanding he was. Then to my SURPRISE one day Emailed me and said, he was not going to correspond with me no more. This person was not married, but did have a few women he had dated at the time he was talking with me! Please "ANYONE" give me your advice....he could make me "SMILE" when I was way down in the dumps....THANKS for all your answers! He didn't even give me a GOOD reason and I wish he would have just been HONEST with me. It HURT me DEEPLY!! Rosie47
2006-11-17 09:24:02 · 20 answers · asked by a_moyars 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also if I hadn't cared SO much about our Friendship...I definetly would give out his name, So My Friend You Are " LUCKY "!! At least I'am "HONEST" and it's your lose.
2006-11-17 09:36:51 · update #1
Sounds like he didn't value your friendship as much as you did. Friendship is like love in a way, sometimes we get burned, and there's nothing we can do other than just move on and keep going. I hope you have other friends to bring joy back into your life.
2006-11-17 09:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rosie, Internet friendship is a weird bird indeed! The problem it offers is that one can (as in your case) disappear at any moment in time and without regrets. The problem is that some people develop real lasting friendships. And it rips apart the soul when you realize the other person doesn't care or feel the same. Your in a good place for finding caring people though. There is a bunch of us out here. Unfortunately sometimes we just don't come across that way. I just answered a question where the person sounded so illiterate that her question was barely understandable, I told her to go back to school. It was in retrospect a harsh thing to say but I still stand by my advice. She however called me a jerk, and you know what...she was right, I could have been nicer about it and rephrased my answer. Oh well, another one bites the dust! I probably won't get any extra points on that one!
2006-11-17 09:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about that. Some of them are just jerks. I met several guys on the net, and married the last one! Don't let one of them make you dislike all of them, and remember, there's more where that one came from! Do, however, make sure you're safe. Don't meet someone at your house, or in a secluded place. If you decide to meet, meet in a very public place (shopping mall, busy restaurant, like that) and don't do it at all till you've corresponded for at least a couple months. The more you relate to each other, the easier it is to tell what they're like. This one just showed you.
2006-11-17 09:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was just an online persona who may or may not have been honest. He was dating women in real life, and getting more serious with one was probably his reason. You need to take these online things for what they ares an email address and some type up words. It's tempting, but expecting anything more without ever meeting isn't smart.
PS my name isn't Violet Pearl, so you see you just don't know about online people.
2006-11-17 09:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had evidently an emotional affair with the man. An emotional affair is defined as expressing thoughts, ideas, deep feelings, emotions, or sharing intimate experiences.
Emotional affair like any affair will created an attachment.
Maybe this guy was involved with someone much closer then you realized, and had to choose which way to go.
He is loosing friend i am sorry that you were hurt but now is time to heal wound.
2006-11-17 10:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear you met a dud,but some internet friendships do work out,i met my wife online over 7 years ago we have been married nearly 5 yrs,those have been the best 5 yrs of my life and i found my true soul mate and the love of my life.so dont give up on internet friendships just be careful and i hope you find that special person
2006-11-17 10:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by slaine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rosie, I've been on Yahoo for 5 years. I've talked with many many women. Most of them tell me the same story you just told. The internet is full of men and women who don't ever intend to meet each other. They just want to have fun on line. I know how your friend is feeling though. It's happened to me. You make good friends with someone and the next thing you know they have feelings for you. They talk about meeting. Talk about moving to your town. Talk about moving into your home. They want more and more of your time. Sometimes not allowing you to talk to other friends. Getting mad when you do. He obviously didn't want more than just being friends. He got scared and ran from you. He emailed you so he didn't have to talk about it. I've been on both sides of the issue. I'm sorry for your pain Rosie. I know it well.
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2006-11-17 09:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its his choice and if something in his real life was being affected by your emails and chats, and he had to cut it off, then all you can really do is understand. If the roles were reversed and someone you LOVED asked you to stop typing or msging someone on the internet that You've never even met... Wouldnt you stop?
2006-11-17 09:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are not what they seem on the internet. You don't know them. All you know is what they let you know. This guy could have been writing from prison; he could be a pedophile or have a criminal past. He could have a wife and 6 kids. Consider yourself lucky. Remember what your mother told you. "Don't talk to strangers."
2006-11-17 09:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will meet someone new maybe you got too clingy or maybe he met someone in REAL life and was respecting his new womans wishes not to correspond,we dont know why these things happen,just quit being so co-dependant
2006-11-17 09:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by eternallygrateful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋