What do you do if you tell your husband you want a divorce and he just won't accept it?

Question

i forgot to mention we've been separated for a year.

Answer 1

You instruct your lawyer to file the divorce petition and go ahead with the divorce anyway. Your husband does not have a choice whether to accept it or not. My ex-husband initially did not want me to file my petition and told me "I will fight you every inch of the way". I told him to go ahead and fight me if he wanted to but it would be an expensive and pointless thing to do. I told him I knew how to force the divorce through and I was quite prepared to do it. He decided to do the sensible thing and co-operate.

Hopefully yours will, too, but if he doesn't, just let your lawyer deal with him.

Answer 2

If you can't talk to him on an adult level without him being very upset about it then you need to try and go to counseling so he can see just why it is you want a divorce. Because unfortunately some people feel that even though you know the marriage is in trouble it's really not that bad. And by going to counseling you can speak up about the reason you want a divorce and maybe it might sink in to him that your right. But on the other hand if it's something he's doing it might even make him be more aware of it and change and maybe y'all can work things out with professional help. Good Luck!

Answer 3

That depends, are there kids involved? What is the reason you want a divorce. Maybe counseling first would help (both of you). Then, if you truely want a divorce, proceed with an attorney, and begin living your life without your husband. I have an acquaintance who has forced her husband out of the home and says she wants a divorce, but is calling him constantly and asking him to run errands and stuff for her. So, if you want him out of your life, then keep him out if you get him there. But if you don't know/aren't sure, listen to his reasons for "not accepting it" and seek counseling. That piece of paper between you should be more then just a piece of paper.

Answer 4

Have you threatened him before with this? Unless you go to an attorney and they serve the papers he won't take it seriously.

He may feel the marriage is okay and that you will get over it. You need to speak to him and both get counseling to be sure a divorce is the only alternative.

Good luck.

Answer 5

You file for divorce. If he won't sign the paperwork, serve him through alternative means dictated by your states Rules of Civil Procedure.

Please don't think it is romantic that he wants to stay married. Some people think that a divorce is failure so would rather stay in a bad marriage than leave.

Answer 6

Get you a good Lawyer and start pro ceders right away. When he is served he'll realize you want out. but first get you a place of your own, you keep staying and he thinks your just joshing him around. He'll never take you serious if you keep just asking, get a move on.

Answer 7

If it were me, I'd make arrangements to proceed with the divorce. If he contests it, it will prolong the process, but if you stand firm, the courts will eventually award the divorce.

Answer 8

In most states , this does not matter...
Only one party needs to file for divorce..
You can divorce him whether he wants to be divorced or not....
He has no choice...
The court will grant you a divorce ....

Answer 9

You dont need him to accept it. You can go to court, file paperwork...start the process. He might not think you are serious. On the flip side....make sure that's what you want!

Answer 10

Get a divorce, it's not your job to make him accept it.