I am 33 i have been with this man know for abut 2years i do live with hem i have 2 kids not his but he is a good dad ever thing is good with all of us.But me and my man i try to make love to hem but it's like he runs from me i try asking him is it me you do not like what you see or am i to fat i try tilling him i do not like this all i get is i stop it i love you i am just witching this or i am tiered or it's to lent i try to were something sexy the only time we have sex is wan he is drinking and i just do not know Y all i want is to make love to my man help me
2006-11-17 09:50:00 · 12 answers · asked by oh_so_playful2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He likes his bottle of booze or beer which ever .....and that's as far as he can see. It's time for you to leave because for him it's over. There are men out there just wanting and waiting to find love, lovers what have you. You don't need to stay in a loveless marriage go have fun and find your self a new love one that loves you and not the bottle.
~Best wishes~
2006-11-18 09:08:42 · answer #1 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First does he work a long stressful tiring job? If so take a holiday.
Second get him checked out medically for health issues.
Thirdly he likes to have sex when he's drinking is that because he loosens up how could you get him to loosen up more (and I don't mean get him drunk)
Forth he loves you but you feel undesired talk to him about this it is hurting your relationship.
Fifth have you heard of horny goat weed for men try it.
Sixth but some sexy nightgowns and under ware and start walking around in it with your hair done, lip gloss with that I want you look and don't ask him for sex don't come onto him just tease.
Seventh if that doesn't all check out or work get a lover or a new man because if you want sex and he doesn't it won't work out other than fixing the problem.
2006-11-17 10:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has some hang ups you don't know about. By drinking his walls and inhibitions are down. The more you chase him, the more he'll run. I'm not saying sit on your thumbs and wait for him.
Has he always been this way? Then it may be some deep seeded unresolved problem. If this is new behavior. I would start investigating.
A friend of me has the same problem. She has to initiate sex whenever she wants it, her man never does. Worse, when she tells him what she wants. He acts they same way when she asks him to take out the trash. Real ego boost huh. Check the web for answers they have answers for everything. Questionnaires, how to spice things up, how to talk to your mate about these issues. Good luck.
2006-11-17 09:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may feel uncomfortable. Not any easy answer because we don't know the whole situation. Some men are just plain lazy and it's easier to pleasure themselves in 30 seconds without all the work and worry of the other person. VERY SELFISH I might add. I know I have one of those. It's a decison you will have to make for yourself. If your not happy and he isn't willing to change anything then you will have to choose.
2006-11-17 09:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by dribble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he always been this way? Might be some kind of a medical issue, like low testosterone levels. If it changed suddenly and dramatically, I don't know what the reason could be besides him messing around on the side.
2006-11-17 09:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you prepared to live the rest of your life without the intimacy? If you are then stay in your relationship...if not then it is time to find a man that gives you everything that you want out of life.
2006-11-17 09:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by troll_house_kookies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to find a new man if
you want a normal happy satisfying life...
2006-11-17 09:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st thing is to grow up and learn the English language
2006-11-17 11:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by old man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wash yourself!!
2006-11-17 10:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by besitos2610 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl start fixing you grammar and we will help you. gizzle
2006-11-17 09:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋