Marriage & Divorce - 17 November 2006

My husband and I have beeen married for a year now, we just celebrated our one year anniversary on the 15th, but I can't get him to have sex with me or to do other sexual acts with me. I am 19 years old, I take care of my body and am in fairly good shape and my husband is 33. When we were dating we used to have sex everyday, if not multiple times a day. And for the first few months we were married we had sex all the time. Now, I am lucky if we have sex once a month, and when we do have sex, my husband refuses to look at me. He only wants to do it when it is doggie-style or when he is laying down behind me. The only sexual thing we do on a regular basis is me performing oral sex on him. And when I am doing that he always has his eyes closed, but when we were dating he loved to watch me do it to him. Don't get me wrong - I love to do that to my husband, but sometimes it would be nice to get that in return, but that has not happened since January 2006. Why is he like this now?

2006-11-17 05:47:54 · 31 answers · asked by Krisie 2

When my younger sister's 25 year old husband died from a car accident (he got hit and killed instantly by a drunk driver on Valentine's Day. They found a bouquet of flowers with a note that said "I love you my darling, my soul mate" in my sister's husbands car so he was going to give them to her when he came home from work but he never made it home. And when my sister found out that her husband passed, my sister collapsed and had heart failure. And she died the following week. I believe her body just shut down because she didn't want to live anymore. Her and her husband have been together since they were 12 years old. They were definately soul mates.
I had a dream about them and in my dream they were together and happy and when I woke up I felt an overwhelming sense of peace.

2006-11-17 05:46:43 · 15 answers · asked by choosinghappiness 5

I have been married for almost 8 years and I want to show my man that I love him without the sex. Sex has become so routine and sometimes inconvienent (aka 4 kids) that I need something else. Any suggestions?

2006-11-17 05:42:58 · 25 answers · asked by Brat 1

My parents have been married for 19 years this September. My mother is a perfectionist and nothing is ever good enough for her. I'm 16 and I'm the most responsible of all of my friends but she never sees any good in anything.... everything is always wrong. My dad is more passive and just takes the yelling along with everything. They are complete opposites and I'm not sure why they got married in the first place. My mother has decided she's moving out soon as a trial seperation. Is it wrong for me to want them to get a divorce? This whole mess is affecting my younger siblings lives more than mine because I grew up with it. Any advice?

2006-11-17 05:41:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Lots of post on here about the idea of being in or out of "LOVE" and sex issues. I have been married for 11 years. I think too much gets made of sex issues in marriages. It is important but is it a measuring stick of a good marriage. I also think that sometimes the "feeling in love with someone" get blown up so much no one could live up to it. At all times during our marriage I feel a bond with my wife. Maybe a combination of trust, caring, dependability, familiarity, friendship, sex but I do not always feel that intoxicating feeling of “LOVE” for her. At least for us marriage is not always easy thing but we have been able to make it work so far. So what do you think are the keys to a long marriage?

2006-11-17 05:41:00 · 16 answers · asked by Brian 5

2006-11-17 05:36:54 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is the many people advising it just throwing it out there as a last ditch effort.

2006-11-17 05:31:52 · 7 answers · asked by Honest Injun 4

How long does it take?

2006-11-17 05:29:09 · 21 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4

My fiance and I had a great sex life till we moved!!!I dont know if its the stress from the wedding planning or the new place? Whenever we start having sex...either i go completely dry or he stops performing....its really weird...I dont know what to do??What happened to out great sex life?????????Please tell me what i can do to make it better?? or doesn anyone getting married have the same problem??

2006-11-17 05:25:59 · 22 answers · asked by Babe 2

If so, what are the problem(s) in your relationship? Give a list if you have to.

2006-11-17 05:23:58 · 5 answers · asked by choosinghappiness 5

our relationship has changed, and I am not happy with it, I didnt leave my husband because of him I left because my husband abused me emotionally and physically,

2006-11-17 05:23:19 · 27 answers · asked by Tianna 1

I used to do all the laundry. I especially enjoyed laundering my wifes undies because I would sniff them. Some days it smelled good, other days it smelled better. Now we are divorced and I can no longer do this. Is it wrong for me to miss her because of my olfactory obsession?

2006-11-17 05:16:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

when you woke up this morning,can you truely say you were happy and appreciate life,and gave thanks for all you do have and not dwell on what you do not have?

2006-11-17 05:15:42 · 14 answers · asked by wisdom 3

While browsing through our pictures folder, I accidentally discovered old pornographic photos of my husband and his old girlfriend. The pictures are from before my husband and I got together, so this is not an indication of infidelity. I am not opposed to porn, so the porn is not the issue. It's one thing to see some attractive strangers have sex. It is another to see images of your husband having sex with another woman. I feel hurt and betrayed because he had five years to get rid of those pictures.

I confronted him as soon as he came home from work. He took responsibility for his actions and apologized. He is genuinely sorry to have hurt me. But I still feel unattractive and insecure about our relationship. Is there a non-religious book or website that might be able to help? Most of the readily available advice is religious in nature, but that does not apply to me because I am not religious. I am looking for a secular approach to dealing with porn-related issues within marriage.

2006-11-17 05:15:25 · 8 answers · asked by ConfusedWife 2

I am suffering due to an awful marriage, all my (old) friends, and even my family are two faced. A stay at home mom, I have no job skills(yes, I'm adamently trying to get back in school, even though I'm pregnant) I don't have time to make new friends, I'm in marriage counseling to no avail so far. Help, help. I need inspiration to even go on!! I love my two girls, the only reason I wake up in the morning!!

2006-11-17 05:15:12 · 17 answers · asked by sky 1

I see get counseling advice a lot .Wonder if it really helps.I dont just mean to stay married.Made the marriage worth saving for both husband and wife.

2006-11-17 05:12:26 · 5 answers · asked by Honest Injun 4

How do i get him to want to french kiss me? Its only during sex. im sick of the pecks. When i talk to him about it, he says he just doesnt like to french kiss. We used to do it all the time! I mean, im a great kisser! What can I do?

2006-11-17 05:08:36 · 26 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4

If so, whats the problem(s) in your marriage?

2006-11-17 05:04:50 · 4 answers · asked by choosinghappiness 5

recently my boyfriend and I have been at each others throats..he yells at me consistenly caling me names c**t and stupid b***ch and when i start crying he yells at me more and ignores me and says I am a big baby. He always puts himself first and he is always right.
From both male and female perspectives how should i deal with this angry man.

2006-11-17 04:59:36 · 25 answers · asked by Heather B 1

Married 6 years , have a 2 year old and a 6 month old. Was in a long distance relationship ONLY with my spouse before we got married. I am on parental leave from work until January. Feels like I am a housecleaner , errand boy , babysitter , cook , cleaner , slave etc... but not a husband. I resent her very much and I am tired of living this way... She denies there's any problem and scoots around my idea of marriage counciling. Any suggestions are appreciated.

2006-11-17 04:57:39 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

I recently found a email dated in August that my husabnd forgot to delete telling his ex-wife how much he loves her and thinks about her everyday, they do not have any children together, their marriage only lasted a little over a year. I confronted him about the email as I was very upset, he said he wants to be be with me and that he knows it would never work with her. We have been married for 5 years, is this some kind of emotional affair?

2006-11-17 04:56:21 · 20 answers · asked by LadyNaomi 1

I broke up with my boyfriend of several years and started seeing someone soon after. I broke up with him because we were fighting all of the time. He is a good guy though. Now I find myself thinking about my ex all of the time. I haven't heard from him in something like seven months. I broke his heart when I broke up with him. I am still seeing the new guy but I always think of my ex. Is this normal? Has anyone else been through this? What should I do?

2006-11-17 04:55:33 · 8 answers · asked by forgot my real name 1

I haven't been in the same room much less same bedroom with my husband for a year now. I'm trying to save money for a divorce, but it may take another 4-5 months before I get the money. I just want to know if it's wrong to start a relationship with someone else?

2006-11-17 04:43:30 · 24 answers · asked by kelsmo1971 2

Ok, so I have an issue. I'm not really sure what to do....any advice would really be great. I am married with 2 kids (3 and 20 months). I've been married for about 4 years now, together for 5. We were kind of forced into getting married a little bit. I wasn't ready to I was only 21, but I did anyway. I ended up cheating one time, but it wasn't just a one night thing, we actually reallly liked each other. I could say that I loved him. We stopped talking and just started talking again. I really like him still and I know that the feelings are REALLY mutual. I don't know what to do. PLEASE HELP!!

2006-11-17 04:37:18 · 27 answers · asked by cutie25 1

a woman is at her mother's funeral. there is a strange man there she's never seen before, but she falls madly in love with him and knows he's the one! she doesn't have the guts to talk to him, so after the funeral she has no way to contact him.

a month later the woman killed her own sister.

why did she kill her sister?

2006-11-17 04:34:32 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am so pissed off right now...would it be immature of me to put a card in the door of his apartment that states "Thank You...for the STD?"

I want to damage something...but I know that it's not worth it. Would a card work? He has a roomate and it would be possible for him to see it...That would be funny to me...

2006-11-17 04:32:58 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

he responded... what do I get? and she wrote back " ha ha..." Earlier this year my husband admitted to having an emotional affair with a co-worker. We have gone through counseling and I was under the impression that he is really working hard at saving this marriage and then I found this.... What do you make of it. Am I getting upset over nothing?

2006-11-17 04:32:26 · 23 answers · asked by gowiththegut 1

2006-11-17 04:32:06 · 25 answers · asked by i have a taste for waffles 3

I have been married for 4 yrs. My husband and I each have a seperate account and a joint account , we also have seperate credit cards. I am a spender , my husband is a saver. He took my personal credit cards as well as personal debit card because he said I was spending too much money. We both work full time and are by no means hurting for money. I feel he is treating me like a child. Do I have the right to be mad??????

I did ask this question earlier but i see there r different people on now.

2006-11-17 04:29:35 · 48 answers · asked by DEBBY'S BABY 4

2006-11-17 04:29:14 · 33 answers · asked by valentina 1