recently my boyfriend and I have been at each others throats..he yells at me consistenly caling me names c**t and stupid b***ch and when i start crying he yells at me more and ignores me and says I am a big baby. He always puts himself first and he is always right.
From both male and female perspectives how should i deal with this angry man.
2006-11-17 04:59:36 · 25 answers · asked by Heather B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me like this guy has some mental issues.
I agree with the majority here, get out now. He will only continue to beat you down until he has control of you mentally. The longer you stay in it the harder it will be for you to leave. Don't second guess yourself.
2006-11-17 05:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Govt45 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those are very very strong fighting words & the only people that usually say hurtful things like that are insecure, immature & don't deserve to be in your life ... someone already said he's one step away from smacking the sh*t out of you & I would really take that to heart ... I would never - ever LET a man talk to me like that ... I don't care who you are or how much you love me ... that's ridiculous ... !
How should you deal with this angry man ... either tell him to get some anger management or you're hittin' the road ... that's how bad I think you have it ... I couldn't imagine my man saying something like that to me ... it would hurt my feelings so much I couldn't even look him in the eyes ... take care of yourself ... and remember you have the right to leave, stay & take it or try to change him ... your choice ... good luck & I hope whatever you choose makes you happy in the long run ... !
2006-11-17 05:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I would never tolerate ANY man calling me names like that. It's just completely disrespectful.
Second, if you constantly at each other, why not take a break from the relationship. Time away could be eye opening.
2006-11-17 05:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By kicking him to the curve and try starting over again. Listen life is to short to be stuck with such a an insensitive num-nut. Love or no love just do yourself a favor and just start over again with someone that is a little more caring and not so controlling................
2006-11-17 05:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are tired of ______ you are not going to take _____ any more. You are going to find someone that loves you for who you are, not for who they want you to be. Tell him not to call you, do not try to see me. If you do... I'll get a protective order against you.
Wake up every morning, look into the mirror and tell yourself, you are a strong, passionate, beautiful woman. Take care of yourself, use lotion on your skin, fix your hair and don't over do the make up. Be confident about who you are, and the right man will notice you.
We, the right men, like a woman who knows what she wants in life. Sets goals and works to achieve them, shares her thoughts about the world with us. We like a woman who takes care of herself. We like a woman who does not settle for so-so. We like a woman who first loves herself enough to know when enough is enough. We, the men with a real heart, like to love our women in a way that makes them know, there is not another man on this planet that can love them the way we can.
We are out there! NEVER GIVE UP LOOKING!
2006-11-17 05:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by 35 goodlookinmalefrombalt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him- I was in a similar relationship and it only gets worse. He won't ever change- if he doesn't respect you now he won't respect you later. A mature relationship doesn't involve emotional abuse like that. It's really hard to leave, but I'm so glad I did. There are guys out there who will respect you and never call you names- ever.
2006-11-17 05:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by damnnatzis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, your boyfriend is not willing to change his behavior. And him calling you names to wear you start crying is just toxic. Being around negative people or being in toxic relationships can literrally affect your health- physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
You can't change a man. But you can change yourself. You have a choice.
You can tell yourself "I am strong. I am worth it. I deserve a man who will respect me and love me" OR you can tell yourself "I am weak. I want to be sick with this man. My spirit is broken".
It's better to be a lone and healthy than to be sick in a relationship.
2006-11-17 05:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT NOW. There are other fish in the wide blue sea. If he is treating you that way now while you are just dating, it will NOT get any better the longer you stay with him--it could indeed get physical and more abusive.
2006-11-17 05:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by HowdyThere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let him know how you feel about the name calling, but it seems to me that there are other issues with him and he may be looking for a way out of this relationship and just isn't man enough to tell you and is hoping you will break it off with him
2006-11-17 05:05:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Split up, obviously neither of you respect each other and without that, you will never have a lasting relationship. Respect yourself and respect others.
2006-11-17 05:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋