I broke up with my boyfriend of several years and started seeing someone soon after. I broke up with him because we were fighting all of the time. He is a good guy though. Now I find myself thinking about my ex all of the time. I haven't heard from him in something like seven months. I broke his heart when I broke up with him. I am still seeing the new guy but I always think of my ex. Is this normal? Has anyone else been through this? What should I do?
2006-11-17 04:55:33 · 8 answers · asked by forgot my real name 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You didn't allow yourself enough time to heal after you broke up with him. I've done that before too. You can't change the past, but I suggest you break off any relationships for now, and be SINGLE. You need time for YOU, time to understand what you want in life.
2006-11-17 04:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by two_kee_kees 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got right into a new realtionship immediately (or kind of during) a break-up of a relationship of 6 years. We started dating in high school when I was 15 and by the time I was 21 I had matured and he basically hadn't -was very possesive and distrustful, didn't wnat me hanging out with friends, male or female, etc. It had been going downhill for some months before I finally made the move to end it, and like your situation, he was devastated. Let me just say it was the best thing I ever did, and my life has on ly gotten better since. I haven't even so much as seen him since we went our separate ways almost 7 years ago, and even though we may have had some good times while we were together, in the long run it wasn't worth it. Life doesn't come with a rear view mirror, so why look back? All that matters is that you are both happy and have a healthy relationship. Good luck!!
2006-11-17 13:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by My Dog Rowdy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 months is a long time but since u were with him for years it may take some time to get out of your system completely. everybody can think of a reason why they should have done something or shouldnt have done something in a relationship but if you were together for so long and ended the relationship it had to have been for a good reason. Looking back on things is never as bad as when you were goin thu it but would you be happy reliving all of the relationship again the good and the BAD? just keep in mind what drove u away from ur ex and mabey it will help you get over him. you will always remember him but he shouldnt hold your heart if you have someone new
2006-11-17 13:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by just askin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should decide what you want before you end up hurting more people, including yourself. Its hard to get over an ex, but you have to remember why you broke up with him in the first place. I think when relationships get hard (like with the guys you are with now) your mind starts to drift to the past, and to him, because you kinda forget the bad stuff that happened.. you need to remember the bad.. not just the good.. and if your mind and heart are some place else, you need to end it with the current bf
2006-11-17 13:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by Candi J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal, because we never miss a good thing until its gone. if you care for this guy that your with then you need to try to focus on that relationship. But if you dont care for him and you really think its not going to work because you and left your ex and you are going to keep thinking about him then you need to leave him before you hurt him. Becasue maybe it wasnt meant for yo and your ex to be. Something things happen for a reason. Because you really need to take some time to your slef to think and get your ex out your head. Its not right to keep going around hurting people feelings. You have to be real careful doing that someone can get physically hurt. Take it from me. I was going to leave my bf for this guy I was seeing because of some issues we had in our relationship but now we are still together but the other guy feel I played with his feelings and he wont leave me along. Its real tough. thats why when you are in a long term relationship you have to learn to work things out. You are going to have arguments and fights but you will still have love. Its normal for couples to fight and argue. Now if cheating is involved thats a different story. But you have to follow your heart and know what it is that you really want you have to be stable.Because all this back and forths and different relationships are not good for you.
2006-11-17 13:24:23 · answer #5 · answered by Kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe what you need is figure out what true love is before you go near the opposite sex again.
hint:
it ain't a feelin' and
it ain't some magic cloud that sorta lifts you up only to let you fall on your head when the feelings dissapear.
2006-11-17 13:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stand back and search your heart and see where it truely lies. It sounds like it lies with the ex but you need to do some searching within you..
2006-11-17 13:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some me time to get yourself and your feelings together.
2006-11-17 13:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by bifgrl31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋