My fiance and I had a great sex life till we moved!!!I dont know if its the stress from the wedding planning or the new place? Whenever we start having sex...either i go completely dry or he stops performing....its really weird...I dont know what to do??What happened to out great sex life?????????Please tell me what i can do to make it better?? or doesn anyone getting married have the same problem??
2006-11-17 05:25:59 · 22 answers · asked by Babe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i had the same problem and i reccomend reading cosmpopalitan in order to have some great tips. have about 20min foreplay. kissing and snuggling. this worked for us and now we have great mind blowing sex.. also try differnet techniques. instead of missionary try getting it from the back side its not in the Rearend its still in the same spot but actually better... good luck, when you ahve sex try putting your legs on his shoulder while you are lying down.
2006-11-17 05:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The situation you are about to face creates a great amount of tension, whether you are conscious of it or not.
Stress, comes in many forms and manifestations and has a direct effect on the libido and all the conduct that can branch from its influence.
You are both preoccupied with the planning, preparation, and execution of all the things necessary to make your wedding ceremony the best possible. The two of you also have the burden of all the unknown things that await you in your new civil status. Don't forget that you are going from a single entity to a couple. All these things add up and create stress and lots of it.
Don't trouble yourself too much over it, you don't need any additional stress, and try to involve yourself in things that take you away from all the activities that are causing you two to be experiencing this situation. Everything will get back to normal once the wedding is over and you two can concentrate your minds and bodies to each other.
And by the way, CONGRATULATIONS AND THE BEST WISHES TO YOU BOTH!!!
2006-11-17 05:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is surprising behavior. We have been married 11 yrs this October, hubby is 42 and I am 39 and no one has lost interest in sex yet. We go out, we stay in, we have a good time. Hubby watfches porn sometimes too, but it sure doesn't keep him out of the bedroom. Does hubby have an issue he is not sharing--such as resentment, anger, feeling unattractive or unimportant? I think you will have to take the bull by the horns, plan some romance and tell him it is time to step up and have some fun in and out of the bedroom. If there was sex before marriage and none now, I would watch for an affair and if that is not an issue, tell him you want his body so give it up. I find his lack of sex drive very odd. I would for sure tell him you need more time in the bedroom and make it happen. Strange.
2016-05-21 23:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...planning a wedding can add stress to all aspects of your life, and I remember that there was a lot of arguing about the time I was planning our wedding.
First of all, stop worrying so much about sex. If you worry "am I going to be dry", guess what? You will be. Take a break from the actual intercourse and concentrate on the foreplay. Do this for a while without actually having intercourse...finish each other, of course!! I think that you'll be amazed at the results once you do finally have intercourse.
Good luck!
2006-11-17 05:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My spouse and I only have great sex once in awhile and we're ok with that. Before, we used to have sex often but it wasn't that great and I would also be dry or the sex would be uncomfortable whenever I had unresolved issues with him.
Stress and unresolved issues can impact your sex life. So that's why you have to have lots of communication.
Maybe you and your fiance should try getting away for the weekend rent a little cottage somewhere by the lake or go to Hawaii to get a little R & R (rest and relaxation)
and you will end up having great vacation sex.
2006-11-17 05:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our sex life has always been slow, from the day we met... So no, marriage didn't change anything, although getting married WAS pretty stressful for both of us. I would give it some time before starting to worry TOO much about it. Everything has highs and lows.
2006-11-17 05:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a nut shell......Welcome to becoming an responsible adult and having adult sized stress in your life......It only gets worse....Just wait and see what happens when you guys start having kids....
Generally this is the routine that happens in life, sometimes the months are good and sometimes bad, but for some, sex is always good, and some, always bad....I can only give you my experienced advice.....Communication helps....sometimes you two might be in different places in your life....dont get discouraged, work through it because you have a life together that involves more than just sex......
2006-11-17 05:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by aubreytaegan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try new things: roleplaying, foreplay, etcs. You at least are capable of realizing there is something wrong here. Most women just think its normal and stop having sex after a while... that when cheating begins.
Realizing this is an issue its the biggest and hardest step to take, the rest its downhill.
Try to find out what he likes, ask his friends, like just as if you were jocking around...
2006-11-17 05:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its prob the stress the two of you are going through. You should try and have a real romantic evening dinner wine champange bubble bath. create anticipation but hold off until you cant anymore
2006-11-17 05:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by 10 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have never had that probelm. But I would suggest trying new & different things, you both just may be bored. The same ol' same ol', can get boring and not something either of you may want. Its not a bad thing, i would just try new things together.
2006-11-17 05:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋