2006-11-17 04:32:06 · 25 answers · asked by i have a taste for waffles 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It would depend on the lie. If he cheated on you, then that's hard to forgive. But if it's about a lot of stupid things, just to impress you or get him out of trouble with you, then you have help him tell the truth, by showing him the truth is more forgivable than a lie.
2006-11-17 04:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Awwwwwww Now thats the hardest part when your spouse constantly lies to you. Now thats a one way relationship. But Emerald thats not the end of the world here. He is the one with the constant lies to a strong person like you trying your hardest to keep this relationship moving by remaining patient and hopefully wishing and wasting your time the he for once tell the truth! I say it's difficult to even forgive a lier because you dont even know if they tell the truth half of the time at all! Once a lier.. i think your spouse has a habit of lying because he is so use to doing that now he knows how to lie so bad! As for you.. you have so much patience being with a compulive lier. Sorry to hear your spouse lies to you so much...
2006-11-17 04:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Damzel in distrust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some lies are worth forgiving and some are not. Cheating is usually an unforgivable one. However if he is lying to impress you, lying about his past so you won't judge him, or for other silly reasons, try and forgive him and get to the bottom of it. At the end of the day everyone lies. Some liars are worth forgiving and some are not. It all depends on the lie and the person. Can you honestly say you've never lied in your life?
2015-03-17 21:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your spouse, of course you will forgive. Heres the deal, you got to draw a line in the sand and ask that it stops. You should also ask him to seek help. Well if he refuses then you have a serious problem. If he loves you, he will do whatever it takes to straighten himself up. It's OK to forgive but forgiveness comes with a price. He has to understand that he is compromising your trust so be firm and let him know. Lying is not acceptable but forgiveness is.
Good Luck
2006-11-17 04:48:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Em...you don't. If he lies repeatedly he won't change, he won't. I have been there and done that and it took me way too long to understand that nothing I could do would change the snake and his lying. It ended up costing me tons of $ and emotional stress that landed me in hospital.
I am no spring chicken and really have been in your shoes, I thought it would make me good to forgive...but over and over and over, don't wait for the final straw...you already have met it.
Get a lawyer and get rid of him, start making copies of any and all financial records, he'll lie in court too, protect yourself. It'll be okay, just don't wait till he gets you so broke up that yo never trust anyone again....good luck.
2006-11-17 04:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to forgive the spouse. If you keep forgiving, the spouse will keep lying.
If my spouse exhibited that behavior, they would soon be an ex-spouse.
The liar is the one who is ruining the marriage, and most likely will never change.
Good luck.
2006-11-17 04:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by festus_porkchop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive a person for lying to you because it helps you. Forgiving someone though doesn't mean to continue being with this person. Get rid of him.
2006-11-17 04:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't! If you say it is repeatedly then he/she obviously hasnt learnt that you are not a doormat to be trodden on. You need to take control and work out what you really want. To carry on being in a fake relationship where you cant trust him/her or dumping then and moving on with your life. Im sure you could find someone that appreciates you and treats you right!
2006-11-17 04:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you truly love him, yes. marriage is all about forgiving and being able to accept. a good marriage would be one that has gone thru many storms. if you cannot condone his mistake, or probably pardoned his mistakes repeatedly, perhaps...a divorce could solve you and this person from lying.
2006-11-17 04:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by `teeveebee- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that there is a way nor a reason to do that. If they have been caught lying then that is what they are. I would say either dump the person or go into therapy for it.
2006-11-17 04:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋