I am suffering due to an awful marriage, all my (old) friends, and even my family are two faced. A stay at home mom, I have no job skills(yes, I'm adamently trying to get back in school, even though I'm pregnant) I don't have time to make new friends, I'm in marriage counseling to no avail so far. Help, help. I need inspiration to even go on!! I love my two girls, the only reason I wake up in the morning!!
2006-11-17 05:15:12 · 17 answers · asked by sky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just hang in there, keep trying and wait awhile, the only constant in life is that everything changes. If you work at it long enough and hard enough it will change for the better. Trust in yourself, learn from your mistakes, be careful and don't repeat them. Those two little girls need you, do your best, don't let anyone bully, mistreat or abuse you or them. Mother, don't let yourself fall, if you do, find your strength, get some help, get back up. In the long run don't let yourself or them down and you will never be sorry.
2006-11-17 05:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe a lot of stay at home moms feel that way. Go get some job applications anywhere, get out there and be around others. It will make you feel better. If you get a job, you can go to college at night or on the weekends, they will work with you! Keep your head up, it will definately get better. P.S. cheer up you have a little bundle of joy on the way, that will bring you lots of happiness. Also, you sound like you are sort of depressed, your children will pick up on that, so you have to do something about it. If you are staying in this aweful marriage "for the kids", DON'T! You aren't doing them any favors, trust me, been there! Everyone will be much happier if you get out now, because I'm sure there is a very high stress level in the household. That WILL cause problems for the children in the long-run. Noone wants to live in all that animosity and anger. You can make it on your own, believe it or not.
2006-11-17 05:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by Loola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break the curse!!!! You have the power and choice to do so.
How old are your girls? Are they in school? The reason I ask, is can you find the time to go and volunteer at a homeless shelter, library, teenage pregnancy center, senior citizen place, etc.
You were put here on this earth for a reason and you need to use your gifts and talents. Take your kids with you. They will see their mom helping other people and making life better for those around her. What inspires you? Music, cooking, reading,? Bake some cookies for someone, make a CD for someone, read a book to someone. There is so much you can do to make this and your world a better place.
Be a role model for your children. Make them proud to have a mom like you. How do you want your children to view the world?
I am challenging you to take your mind off of your problems. You just might find your inspiration and purpose! :-)
2006-11-17 05:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way, how you feel today cant get any worse. Every day that goes by will get better. If you focus on yourself by setting goals that will make you happier, you will evetually become happier. If you constantly stay busy, you will have less time to reflect on your unhappiness. I suggest quitting the counseling, they just seem to mess people up more. Take that extra hour to go out with the kids. Imagine what you can buy with the money youre spending on counseling. I bet it will be much more theraputic too. It sounds like your kids are enough reason to stay strong and move forward. Keep them as an inspiration.
2006-11-17 05:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't cursed just in the wrong place right now. Remember those less fortunate than you (the hungry and the sick and the dead). Focus on your little girls and your new baby. Get counseling just for yourself. I know you may seem that you don't have job skills but you can work anywhere (swallow your pride if you have to). There are social services to help you until you get back on your feet and through school. I'm sorry you don't have family to back you up but even if there is a distant cousin or aunt that you have always connected with remember they are there for you. Good luck.
2006-11-17 05:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you don't need job skills to get a okay job.I've alwaysed work retail(target,Payless shoes) and i never had office exsperience and I tried for an office job and got it they just put me trough 2wk paid training,and now I make alot more then befor and have weekends off.You can do anything just try,and don't stay in a relationship if your unhappy it's not worht it to you or your kids are the other person.Good luck and just try.
2006-11-17 05:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try www.doersoftheword.org The pastor there will counsel you (for free) and pray for you. There is a toll-free number you can call.
You can also try reading "Power of a praying woman" by Stormie Omartian. Very good. It helped me very much. Prayer is very powerful.
I pray the best for you.
God Bless!
2006-11-17 21:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep on keepin' on. Do what you do to inspire your girls to be empowered in their own lives. Teach them to be self-sufficient and never give all the power of their lives to a man. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, empower yourself. If you have a positive outlook and goals set for your future, you can accomplish everything you need to.
2006-11-17 05:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry! That sounds horrid. I hope this helps!!
Keep going. It sounds like your already turning your life around. You might meet new people, or even a new special someone if you get into school. I wish you all of my luck!!
- Trying to Help
2006-11-17 05:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by Lo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are always hiring at Walmart, you don't have to have skills to work there. I know cause I worked there before.
You haven't mentioned what was awful about your marriage so I can offer more advice.
You can also divorce your husband and he will pay alimony (aka spousal support) and child support.
2006-11-17 05:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋