Marriage & Divorce - 17 November 2006

2006-11-17 02:55:59 · 34 answers · asked by Nettle 2

Yes I lost all of my pregnancy weight!
Yes I take great care of my body... I eat right and work out!
I have tried things like touching him etc.... He says we don't have any time! God Forbid sex cuts into our watching tv time!
We still do things together... We go to dinner...We go to sporting events... We still get along like we used to... BUT sexually we aren't there!
I guess he is not in to me anymore! He hasn't told me I look beautiful (or even nice) in atleast 16 months!
I do not think he is cheating because he doesn't go anywhere. He goes to work then he comes home!
I don't think he'll do counciling... I can't get him to chuch with me once a week... I don't know how I'll get him to counciling.
He feels sex is very personal. He would faint if he even knew I was asking for advice!

2006-11-17 02:55:57 · 14 answers · asked by Help_Me 1

I am hurt but we fight verbaly and t just get's worse and worse and it's not about money, It's us I am upside down with worry,
in one point I don't want to go further and start arguing in front of my kids, my son 3 y old has been there and already he is telling us to stop yelling at 3, It's killin me. what to do

2006-11-17 02:50:36 · 9 answers · asked by marnold7714 1

they read the questions you have posted on here?

2006-11-17 02:49:58 · 59 answers · asked by Lotus 6

He went out with his cousin and some friends. There was a girl involved. My husband and his friend is married. Two other guys (including his cousin) are single. Apparently the girl liked my husband but "he didn't want her or like her" so she turned to the single guys. Between all four of the guys, 3 of their stories collaborate. His cousin's story goes like this: She was sitting on top of my husband in the back seat of a truck.

But then the next day, he said he lied to me so I would get off his case. So I don't know if they already made up a story to give me or if he (the cousin) really is lying. I don't know who to believe. My husband is angry with his cousin for lying to me but he isn't trying hard enough to contact his cousin to confront him either.

What should I do?

2006-11-17 02:46:34 · 15 answers · asked by m l 1

Has anyone heard of this quiz you can take that will kind of help tell if your marriage will last?
I am looking for information on marriage so I can try to save mine. We need to better understand eachother. I don't know what to do.
I just need to understand where he is coming from and he needs to understand me better....

2006-11-17 02:46:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Whats the difference between being content in a relationship or being happy in a relationship?

2006-11-17 02:46:13 · 7 answers · asked by mrhappy1171 1

love breaks the world it distroys familys and leaves us with nothing why/

2006-11-17 02:36:11 · 15 answers · asked by butter 1

2006-11-17 02:33:56 · 35 answers · asked by Amhed Z 1

My husband and I have been together off and on for 27 years but an ex fiance is my TRUE love and he wants to try to work things out. I have a 15 year old daughter with my husband. He's been moved out for 7 months, nothing to do with my ex. We just don't have anything in common other than our daughter. Since he's been gone, my ex fiance and I have toyed with getting back together. Do you stay with the one you've been with for so long or do I follow my heart and try to work it out with the man I truly love?

2006-11-17 02:33:43 · 21 answers · asked by georgiarose_01 4

Last year I contacted my hs sweetie through a website. I wanted to apologize to him for things I’d done, that got him into trouble with my parents who had forbid me to see him. We’d gone out for 6 months before he got sent away to live with his father… hours away. One day, our relationship ended with a telephone call, and a misunderstanding. I eventually moved away to a different state, and grieved for the guy for two years. What we have discovered is that there was never an official breakup between us, and that we loved each other very much back then. I I was never able to “feel close” to anyone after him. I have been in an unhappy marriage for 13 years. My husband knows I talk to my ex on the phone. You can imagine how he feels about that. There is no way I can leave, I’ll lose my children. I’ve explained all this to my ex and he still calls, and I still call him. When I don’t call him, I feel heartache. Do I have to let go and start the grieving all over again?

2006-11-17 02:27:38 · 27 answers · asked by :-) literary cappy 4

My ex and I divorced about 3 years ago. He was controlling and abusive. However, he blames me for the divorce. He says that I should feel ashamed at where my life is and how much I have hurt him and my child.

We don't have similar values - his main focus is money and he always works to conserve money. He does not have trash service or home insurance. He buys things from the store, uses them and then returns them. He also used to change the price tags on items before buying them. I did not agree with any of his habits. He also is verbally abusive and did hit me many times during the marriage.

However, when I talk to his side of the family, they blame me and say that I took things out of the family. I talked to my parents and told them what was happening. They tried to pull me out of the marriage.

I don't know if these are good enough reasons to divorce or if I should just blame myself.

2006-11-17 02:23:09 · 22 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

My wife and I are going to Retrouvaille on December 1. I asked her to
do it because I felt we owed it to each other after 8 years of marriage
and our 2 beautiful children. She agreed, but only if:
1. We had separate rooms at Retrouvaille.
2. If after attending, she still wanted to end the marriage, that I
would not contest.

I agreed to the conditions because I at least wanted to get her there.
From my readings on Retrouvaille (I have
spent countless hours researching), both individuals have to be open to
the program. I asked her to go with an open heart, open mind, listen,
participate, and let whatever happens happen. I am concerned that she says she will go with an open
heart, open mind, listen, participate, and let whatever happens happen,
but does she mean it. She is putting up her armor to try and protect
herself. Does/can something happen at Retrouvaille that will break her
armor?

I am interested in anyone's personal feedback and would like to email.

2006-11-17 02:19:49 · 2 answers · asked by J.V. 1

I'm still married and want out, but spouse is an attorney and threatens me every time i bring it up, he says he'll get custody because he is an attorney and the judges would be on his side.
so if it isn't kidnapping i need to take my child and go while he's at work please help

2006-11-17 02:17:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

all of you the way you talk act like you have never done anything wrong in your life people make mistakes,

2006-11-17 02:16:14 · 5 answers · asked by faithsalyers 1

If I live out of state is there still a 3 day waiting period for a marriage license? What is the cost for the Justice of the Peace to perform the ceremony?

2006-11-17 02:13:53 · 5 answers · asked by j 1

If so, what's the age difference?

2006-11-17 02:13:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a married guy who has always been and will always be true to my wife. My wife tells me I am good looking and she says her friends think so but I have never had women treat me like I was, so I always imagined that my wife was just being nice to me because she loves me.
Tuesday at lunch a woman at another table made it clear she was interested in me (making excuses to walk past the table and smile, getting up from her table and paying for her meal even though she hasn't finished eating yet so she could stand next to me, read my name and stuff off my work ID badge, kept getting in front of me trying to get me to look at her). My coworkers laughed about it and I admit is was a HUGE ego boost.
That night I went to the grocery store with my now puffed up ego. I must have had six girls in there giving me the eye. That NEVER happens to me. Is it possible that confidence was all I ever needed? I am not going to misbehave now, but really - does it mean that much to you ladies?????

2006-11-17 02:13:19 · 7 answers · asked by fucose_man 5

Ever since I have been pregnant he won't have sex with me. He is loving and cuddles, but for the seven months I have been pregnant he has not been able to get an errection. Help! I am in desperate need of some action! I want it all of the time!!

2006-11-17 02:01:35 · 43 answers · asked by jessica c 1

thank you to all those how have given such good replies to my first my wife question even though i love her as much as i do i still let her have her fredom and independence if she wants it i just drive myself crazy thinkin about her all the time ive just loved her since the day i met her and will for a thousand lifetimes to come
I LOVE YOU MY BEAUTIFULL WIFE

2006-11-17 02:01:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

after my divorce i contacted him.he was married(not happy)but left his wife for me.been dating for 6 mons.he tells everyone(family,freinds,work)i'm his gf and whenever i meet any of them they tell me how he brags about me all the time.we will spend hours just talking about old times and he will say things like"i can't believe its you",'i love you so much you make me complete" i could go on forever with the one liners.he even gets teary eyed when write him a love letter telling him what he means to me.he also spends tons of money on me.sounds perfect right?well just found out hes been cheating on me with a coworker for 2 mons(like 10 times)and shows no signs of stopping.after i leave at night she comes over.when i asked him if something was going on he looked at me like a was crazy and said hell no and i just droped it(i know he is to long to expain how i know)i know he told her that he would never leave me for her.how can a man say he loves you but cheat on you even if its just for sex

2006-11-17 02:00:39 · 20 answers · asked by kellywoods0909 1

I need help... My marriage is ending fast! My son was born just over 8 months ago. While I was pregnant my husband was turned off by the whole thing, We had sex once. Since my son was born we had sex twice... once in August and once in September! I have tryed wear something sexy while just running around the house... Even walking around in nothing! NOTHING WORKS! I just don't know what to do. I'm feeling very bad about myself now and I don't know how to approach him about this! I'm not even sure if there is any hope of fixing our relationship... I feel like it's been too long! Please help... I'll take any advice I can!

2006-11-17 01:59:48 · 13 answers · asked by Help_Me 1

Young boyfriend already has a great career, financially independant and has his own place. So he doesn't rely on his parents for anything. He also is a great cook. He treats me well and he loves me to death. He makes me feel young and I'm so happy when I'm with him.
Any of you women dating or married to a younger man too?

2006-11-17 01:56:31 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

they have split up and my brother has the kids here withme, 2 little girl's, the mum said se didn't want them, my problem is, that my brother an his wife, well soon 2 be ex wife, always fight andbring the kids in on t, along with me. i'm getting sick an tired of it, but they won't stop, i tell them im not interested in their fight, as long as thy learn to keep the kid's out of it. kid'have been through enoug as it is, along with counceling, cant spell i no lol. can you give me any advice on what i can do. the really stress me out, but it;s the kids i worrie aout, 1 is 4 an the other is 6,they try tellin eacher tha they r seeing someone elce, an tell the kids to an they then cry.

2006-11-17 01:52:25 · 5 answers · asked by louise 3

i got married last december and im now getting a divorce well me and my husband was having to many problems and one night i went out with a friend of mine well i asked my husband to go and he didnt well me and my friend was going to a club with some people we worked with, well i got drunk before i made it to the club well this one guy i was with kept me with him because i couldnt go in the club well my friend and her date gave the guy i was with his key to go back to his place well i went well the thing about it is i had feelings for that guy and one thing led to another and i cheated on my husband i told my husband the truth and i left him well im still seeing that guy i cheated on my husband with. and now we are trying to have a baby but the thing is im in love with him and the big thing is he has been married for 20 years well he comes all of the way from he lives to see me and spend the night with me well i went up to where he lives and spent the 2 nights with him what do u think

2006-11-17 01:52:02 · 8 answers · asked by faithsalyers 1

So my ex borrowed quite a bit of money from both me and then my daughter's college account, promising that he would pay back every penny of it...( I know I was naive to believe this one)...but of course never did. This part happened during our separation and I did it out of good faith bc I didn't think that he would go as far as not paying her back. In the divorce, I let him have everything and only asked for full custody of our daughter (which is the only thing that mattered to me). However, we had a truck that I had co-signed and to which the title was in my name and I allowed him to keep that too bc I didn't want it but he changed the plates on it and I don't see how he did it without forging my name. Now obviously I want the plates to be changed but I only agreed to sign the title over if I got a notarized letter saying that once he sold it he would give back $1,000.00 to our daughter's account (hes borrowed far more then that combined from both me and her)...and he didn't like tha

2006-11-17 01:49:43 · 8 answers · asked by sicofitall325 1

My boyfriend and i have been together a long time nearly 9 years, he has been talking about marriage, the thought terrifies me i dont know whether i should, i need advice. We argue quite abit. Do you think i should marry him?

2006-11-17 01:46:55 · 8 answers · asked by susie ooozzz 2

i have a question, im getting a divorce because i got drunk one night and cheated on my husband well i came clean and told him the truth well the guy i cheated on him with is still in my life well he hasnt left his wife yet and he is because me and him is trying to have a baby.this whole situation is hard to tell u right now what do you think

2006-11-17 01:44:25 · 6 answers · asked by faithsalyers 1

My husband is an officer who choose me because I was the ideal choice for him, having come from a rich and respectable family. Since our marriage 3 years ago he has never shown any romantic fellings towards me and he never likes to kiss or hug me. Sex is for his own pleasure only, with total disregard for me. He never takes me out for dinners, doesn't spend on me except my food and never buys me any presents. I am Moslem and divorced once before and asking for a divorce a second time in my community is frowned upon.

2006-11-17 01:43:03 · 8 answers · asked by HM 3

my family is hurting because of this senseless act.... I have 4 little children. And niether of them though about their loves ones. He didnt think about his wife and family and she didnt think about her man in IRAQ.

2006-11-17 01:35:21 · 13 answers · asked by Kimberly S 1