i have a question, im getting a divorce because i got drunk one night and cheated on my husband well i came clean and told him the truth well the guy i cheated on him with is still in my life well he hasnt left his wife yet and he is because me and him is trying to have a baby.this whole situation is hard to tell u right now what do you think
2006-11-17 01:44:25 · 6 answers · asked by faithsalyers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok, lady i am not really sure how to awnser this because as you said you haven't stated everything...if you want my opion...follow your your heart! if you aren't in love with the man your married to, then by all means you should leave him. but on the other hand you need to know that this other gentlemen is willing to do the same for you and truely loves you as much as he says....does he feel that his wife and him no longer have any love conncetion either? or is he just playing both of you for the benifits of it? i don't know the guy so i couldn't tell you...also has he told his wife yet? and you should also think how your husband and his wife will feel if you both leave them for each other...this is something you should really think on and don't make a rational decision that you might regreat later in life...Like i said follow your heart where ever it may take you...just don't let others break it on you. i hope this helps you....any other questions or advice, feel free to email me!
2006-11-17 01:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by scorch572004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are blunt in admitting whatever u did,thats the good part here.Are u aware what cheating is? Do u know u are being a reason for the breaking of two families.You have created the situation,in ur full conciousness( u say u came clean and told ur husband what u did,tho drunk).Having a baby needs being a responsible mom /spouse.Not just admitting the faults and facts.
2006-11-17 09:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infidelity is not cool... but you are doing the right thing by getting a divorce... you just should have done it before you cheated,
especially since if you cheated, you knew you could before you were drunk, so drunk just means, "Careless" and that means ,
you just did not care at the time, you could have not done it.
You are now talking about having a baby with this other person,
I hope it's meant to be, Cause that's a very very Big risk.
You should feel like this is Jerry springer.
2006-11-17 11:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by marnold7714 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleeping with a married man while you are married and trying to have a baby?! Are you nuts? The two of you need a reality check. Should he decide to leave his wife and go to you what makes either one of you think that you will remain faithful to each other? You have destroyed your marriage for your own selfish reasons. I feel sorry for the other two people in this equation. Your husband and this "man's" wife.
2006-11-17 09:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this situation has bad news written all over it. what if you were watching a tv show and the characters were in your situation. try looking at your situation with a little common sense. i wish you well but all i have to say is you made your bed, now you have to lay in it.
2006-11-17 09:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by WreckinShop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cheated, he cheated. Who is to say that if you end your relationship and he happens to end his that either of you will not cheat on one another. How could you trust him and how could he trust you as both of you broke your vows?
2006-11-17 09:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋