My husband is an officer who choose me because I was the ideal choice for him, having come from a rich and respectable family. Since our marriage 3 years ago he has never shown any romantic fellings towards me and he never likes to kiss or hug me. Sex is for his own pleasure only, with total disregard for me. He never takes me out for dinners, doesn't spend on me except my food and never buys me any presents. I am Moslem and divorced once before and asking for a divorce a second time in my community is frowned upon.
2006-11-17 01:43:03 · 8 answers · asked by HM 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why would you marry some one that you knew ahead of time didn't have any feel ins you can't make a man love you nor want you even after marriage. So while your waiting on his feelings to change what do you do in the meantime (be miserable)
2006-11-17 01:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by shirleypowers1953 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget what the community thinks about that.
Now, as for the marriage,I think you deserve to be happy no matter what religion you are or your morals or whatever it is. You want to live a happy life and you arent right now, so divorce would be the best thing to do.
Next time, wait a while for getting married and make sure both of you are happy. I know your Moslem, but maybe you can just be a more casual moslem instead of traditional. Try to still stick with your morals, but when it comes to your relationship, you look for happiness instead of what others think you should do, like your community.
2006-11-17 09:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry the jerk in the first place..? Who cares if divorce is frowned up on where you are living.. Get rid of him and find someone that will make you happy and give you the respect that you deserve.
3 years is enough of a sentence to be with a jerk with no feelings.
And for as for him getting sex from you until you are out of his control.. make him pay for it.. he is using you as his whore so charge him like one.. atleast you will have the money to move on.. get a job and your own place.
Make it your own christmas present of being out on your own and starting a new life. File for that divorce immediately..
good luck.. And start your new years fresh..
2006-11-17 09:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you come from a rich and respectable family why don't you move to the United States and divorce the jerk?
2006-11-17 09:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you talk to him about this??? Sounds like your looking for more attention...and not just in the bedroom...
If he's not an affectionate guy, maybe you'll have to be with him.
Its your personality and how you grow up that makes you the way you are....maybe affection wasn't something he grew up with...
Good Luck to you.....I can see how you wouldn't want to divorce again...hope it works out for you!!
2006-11-17 09:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's too bad YOU chose to marry him - where was your free will? No one can force you to marry someone if you really don't want to. IIf you knew he didn't love you...that's your bad choice. Now you feel stuck.....you need to make a choice.
2006-11-17 09:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM NOW!!!!!!
2006-11-17 09:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by bad boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋