He went out with his cousin and some friends. There was a girl involved. My husband and his friend is married. Two other guys (including his cousin) are single. Apparently the girl liked my husband but "he didn't want her or like her" so she turned to the single guys. Between all four of the guys, 3 of their stories collaborate. His cousin's story goes like this: She was sitting on top of my husband in the back seat of a truck.
But then the next day, he said he lied to me so I would get off his case. So I don't know if they already made up a story to give me or if he (the cousin) really is lying. I don't know who to believe. My husband is angry with his cousin for lying to me but he isn't trying hard enough to contact his cousin to confront him either.
What should I do?
2006-11-17 02:46:34 · 15 answers · asked by m l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Update
Well I told him that I believe him (my husband) from the bottom of my heart but there are still those lies from his cousin. I confronted the cousin again the next day and he told me that he doesn't remember telling me any of those details. And he says that he only said those things so I would get off his case and let him go home. He's been avoiding both my husband and myself. I think he has mental issues....
This only happened over the past weekend so it's still a really tender subject. And I need all the advice I can get. Thank you all for your comments. I really appreciate the help.
2006-11-17 08:00:19 · update #1
If your husband is letting a woman sit on him in the backseat of a truck then, sweetie you have some real problems. He shouldn't let any woman sit on him. this would be my concern I see you wrote, she wanted my husband and he didn't want her or like her, well did you realize what you wrote, like its not big deal. Of couse he shouldn't want her or like her. Maybe he did if she is sitting on his lap. Good luck with this one.
2006-11-17 02:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get over it.
If he was telling the truth in the fact that your husband didn't want anything to do with her then forget it. Just because the girl was sitting on his lap doesn't mean they were making out or otherwise. She might've gotten drunk and stupid.
If you trust your husband no matter what then you should disregard the whole situation and not worry about what you want to do.
On the other hand, if you don't trust him and you think that he may have done something w/ this girl then you should confront him - tell him it's a disrespect to your marriage that you were hanging around this girl and you don't believe what he has said. Let him know that you won't tolerate him having women sitting on his lap or otherwise and that he needs to get his priorities straight or get out!
2006-11-17 10:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by Niko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only real choice is to confront your husband with how you feel. The story doesn't sound good for him.
If he truly rejected the girl he should have no problem telling you what happened. If he tries to evade telling you then you must find out why.....don't just drop it.
While you can forgive him if he slipped but is honest with you it is very hard to always suspect something but not know. It will always be there and never go away. And the next time he wants to go out you will always worry about this.
Make him tell you what happened.
2006-11-17 11:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out who the girl is and ask her yourself what happened. Tell her what you've heard. If she's sleazy enough to go for a man she knows that is married, then she's sleazy enough to cause some drama by possibly busting him out. If you can't find her, or don't want to talk to her, then get all of the guys and that includes the cousin in one place.
It would be nice to be able to believe your husband, but you probably should weigh what it is the "lying" cousin has to gain by telling you what he did.
2006-11-17 11:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by Teresa Dagger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it, and trust you man. if you go on and on then your trust will go and once that goes so does your marrage. your man will be hurt that you dont believe him. and what if you found out the truth, what if it hurts. next time go with him !!
there again maybe she was sitting on him, so what people do silly things when drunk and if this lady is a slut why is your husband getting a hard time. listen to your heart, if it says something did happen then you have no trust left and it is only a matter of time your marrage ends as when ever something happens or if he is late you are going to get susicious and that will do his head in to a point he leaves you or he does cheat on you.
2006-11-17 11:01:44 · answer #5 · answered by azmondo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it isn't appropriate, I don't think a woman sitting in your husband's lap is the end all of end alls. Was there any other room for her to sit? Maybe, she pushed herself on him. Some guys forced in an awkward situation don't know how to excuse themselves from it.
Basically, he might have just been a gentleman and didn't think two blinks about it, but because it was somewhat inappropriate his friends feel they should cover for him.
2006-11-17 11:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're all a pack of liars. Men are all coyotes from the same mountain, That is they would rather die than to rat out a buddy, Especially when there is a woman involved. I scratch your back today, you'll do the same for me tomorrow, See what i mean?
2006-11-17 11:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jayme C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe your husband, and then tell him to keep his a** at home and stop hanging out with single guys! BAD NEWS!
2006-11-17 10:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as a point of marriage, he has already promised heaven and earth to you. you should believe your husband cuz he said he did not like her but that does not mean he would not be lying I would say you should keep an eye on him for a couple of days.
2006-11-17 11:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is yur husband shouldn't had been there. A ND USUALLY WHERE THERES SMOKE THERES FIRE. you have to make up your mind whether to let it go as to what your husband says,[this time] but if I were you , I would keep a close eye out for next time.
2006-11-17 10:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by nh220572004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋