Ladies, does confidence make a man that much more attactive?

Question

I am a married guy who has always been and will always be true to my wife. My wife tells me I am good looking and she says her friends think so but I have never had women treat me like I was, so I always imagined that my wife was just being nice to me because she loves me.
Tuesday at lunch a woman at another table made it clear she was interested in me (making excuses to walk past the table and smile, getting up from her table and paying for her meal even though she hasn't finished eating yet so she could stand next to me, read my name and stuff off my work ID badge, kept getting in front of me trying to get me to look at her). My coworkers laughed about it and I admit is was a HUGE ego boost.
That night I went to the grocery store with my now puffed up ego. I must have had six girls in there giving me the eye. That NEVER happens to me. Is it possible that confidence was all I ever needed? I am not going to misbehave now, but really - does it mean that much to you ladies?????

As a side note, my wife and other women tell me that apparently I was a very late bloomer. I got together with my wife when I was 21 and a scrawny geek but now I am 33 and do bodybuilding and have a great career, nice car etc. Apparently I am just missing cool clothes, so says my wife? I guess I am so accustomed to being a scrawny geek I never really noticed it change and always felt like a dork.
I am not going to run with this. Like anyone else, I just like to feel good.

Answer 1

You probably have been the subject of numerous advances over the years, but didn't feel like you were attractive to anyone other than your wife. When you and your wife began this talk, I'm sure you decided to pay attention more. That in itself will boost your attentiveness thereby boosting your attractiveness. Being handsome is also something the ladies love. Rugged, manly type men are the choice of the day. Boyishly good looking is okay, but women want someone who will treat them like a woman not a buddy.

Good luck with your new found attractiveness...make sure you keep your head in the right place...

Answer 2

Confidence is the ability to read a womans emotions and to act on them. If she is sending signals that she wants to be with you, you better step up and notice that and do your part. If you go on a date with a woman and you act afraid and are unwilling to make a move even when your chance of success is obvious then she will put you in the friend zone. Guys have a tendency to want to try to change this particular dynamic by saying that women act harshly when they reject men who are aggressive. This is a result of the guy seeing something that wasn't there and it's one of those things that will always be present and at times you will fail. The question is still open as to whether women sometimes set men up to make a move so they can reject them. This does happen and it's usually with a certain type of woman that has been damaged by other men in their past.(the statistics on child abuse,molestation and rape are high which would explain strippers). For the second part of your question the answer is yes and no. Yes a man has more power ECONOMICALLY if he is the bread winner in a relationship. This is a power that a man should never even consider using. The reason is because a woman provides her time doing things that make a mans life easier and more fulfilling in these situations. Usually she'll clean and cook and take care of your children. So using your power of money is an enormous breach of trust no matter how a woman acts. In these situations you don't own your money and neither does she. The money becomes your family money. You take from the family money to buy things and then it belongs to you. Even if she doesn't take care of your children you don't have more power. If you love her then she is more valuable than money. You can replace her but it's not like buying a new television. She's a unique and special person and when you come home and she gives you a big hug because she feels safe and warm in your home that's priceless. The world is a tough place and if you can make a woman feel like you will take her fear away and that you will protect her from harm no matter what happens,the feelings and love you will get will keep you toghether forever. Instead of being worried about who has more power or what she has to do just worry about you. If you try your hardest to really give love to a woman it's not something that you put on a scoreboard. It isn't about doing something then pointing to it so you can persuade her do what you want. You do it because her happiness is more important then your happiness. When you have that concept in mind and actually mean it you'll find that everything you need you will get and a lot of the things you want.

Answer 3

yes, a men with confidence says that he is assured of himself and that he doesn't need a women to validate that he is a "true" man. Plus no one wants a man who is a doormat, they want their intellectual equal, who isn't afraid to question their thoughts (constructive of course)and tell her what they feel and think. Too much confidence makes me sick and It annoys me, i mean how big can a person's head get?. Too much confidence would turn me off a man.

Answer 4

Self-confidence in a man is important. It makes a woman stop and take note. It should not be arrogance though.

Answer 5

This is like the THIRD time you have asked this very same question. What the hell is the matter with you? Do you feel THAT lowly about yourself??!! Whatever!

Answer 6

yes, confidence is a must.

Answer 7

YES!!!! YES!!!! YES!!!! " Self confidence" is very sexy!!!