My husband and I have been together off and on for 27 years but an ex fiance is my TRUE love and he wants to try to work things out. I have a 15 year old daughter with my husband. He's been moved out for 7 months, nothing to do with my ex. We just don't have anything in common other than our daughter. Since he's been gone, my ex fiance and I have toyed with getting back together. Do you stay with the one you've been with for so long or do I follow my heart and try to work it out with the man I truly love?
2006-11-17 02:33:43 · 21 answers · asked by georgiarose_01 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband and I have been seperated 50+ times (along with divorcing once) in 27 years, there have been problems for awhile. I left my ex-fiance due to health problems of my husband, which are under control now, but I can't stay for just this reason. We were already seperated when my ex and I saw each other and realized we still had strong feeling for each other and only recently did we decide we may want to work things out. My daughter loves my ex and she doesn't think her father and I should get back together. I am skeptical because I know how much it is going to hurt my husband to know there are feelings between me and my ex. Such a long history for us, I don't want to hurt him, just be honest about whether there is a chance for us to be happy together.
2006-11-20 01:16:50 · update #1
All you can do is follow your heart, be true to yourself and take care of that child.. I really am skeptical about the ex, do you really need to back up instead of move forward?? I think what you really need to do is take a much needed vacation from any relationship for at least a year (27 years of married life) and see how you really feel.. Don't let unresolved issues you may have with the ex put you right back in a relationship.. Please take plenty of time to fall in love with yourself.. If we don't love ourselves we can't love anyone else..
2006-11-17 02:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by john316tdh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with all you people. You are talking to your ex fiance. Can you not remember why he is your ex- there must be a reason for that. You are going to give up 27 years without a fight? You really need to try to fix your marriage and not worry with making it work with a man who ISN'T your husband. You are married, you made a vow and now you want to throw it away for an EX. You must be crazy. Work out your marriage or at least give it a shot and then if all else fails then you can go and try it AGAIN with the ex.
2006-11-17 02:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-29 05:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't really understand why you left you ex-fiance' if he was the one that you are truly in love with. But, if he is the one that you are deeply in love with, then I would go back to him (and stay with him). You don't stay in a relationship with someone just because you have a child together (people may totally disagree). If you are not compatible then what is the point in the marriage.
Do what your heart says (and your mind) and go back to your ex.....and stay with him!
2006-11-17 02:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well sounds to be your husband never was your true love so after 27 years you call it quits because this man walks back in your life makes you feel special no luggage of a 27 year relationship, gives you the school girl feeling over again, something new.......yes divorce your husband then follow your heart and if this true love blows up in your face do not call your ex of 27 years; allow him to pursue happiness and find his true love because you are not her!
2006-11-17 02:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you truely want to be happy, follow your heart. You only live once. If your happy, your daughter will be happy. Your husband will also realize he really hasn't been happy and hopefully he will find a true love too.
2006-11-17 02:43:49 · answer #6 · answered by justheretohelp 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People don't fall in love therfore they don't fall out of it. People choose to love someone so if you don't love your husband of 27 years then you didn't love him in the first place. He did the best thing by moving on instead of staying with someone who desire is for another person and has always being for another person.
2006-11-17 02:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by dkp6 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are separated. That means to me you are NOT together so you are free to test the waters to see if you want to make the separation permanent. So go ahead and date the guy and find out that you don't OR do want to get back together with your husband.
2006-11-17 03:38:42 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I contend you don't even know what love is if you are willing to hurt your husband and child to be with this ex-fiance.
Love is not a feeling. Love is something you do.
If you have "fallen out of love" then that means you are not doing what you are supposed to do as one who has pledged to love, honor and cherish your spouse in sickness and in health....
None of those vows mentioned "in love feelings" they are about your actions.
If you are not in love, then you must look inside yourself and ask, what did I promise and what did I deliver to my husband.
Love is NOT about what the other person does. It is ALL about what you do.
I don't believe you really understand true love at all.
2006-11-17 02:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Follow your heart, your daughter will be off doing her own thing soon...she'll have her own life and you will be stuck in a miserable relationship regretting what could have been.
2006-11-17 02:49:58 · answer #10 · answered by Ceajae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋