Ever since I have been pregnant he won't have sex with me. He is loving and cuddles, but for the seven months I have been pregnant he has not been able to get an errection. Help! I am in desperate need of some action! I want it all of the time!!
2006-11-17 02:01:35 · 43 answers · asked by jessica c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He probably thinks hes gonna stab the baby, you take the upper hand, he'l soon remember what its for when you got 2 hands wrapped round it
2006-11-17 08:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go visit a doctor with him. If he is has E.D. it is not really his fault. Other than that he could be scared he will hurt the baby, the doctor should be able to him what positions are safe for the baby (like spooning). Also even if he won't have intercourse with you, he can still perform Fore Play on you to give you some type of release.
P.S: If he won't do these things for you, go buy you a Vibrator or a Dildo. Just remember always be gentle while pregnant.
2006-11-17 02:23:10 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you have one of those men who think that they are going to hurt the baby or something! If he didn't find you sexy he wouldn't even cuddle so that is not the answer. Take the hubby with you to the doctor and casually let the doc work it in the conversation on how good the sex can and will be and maybe he will feel safer and get an erection knowing that its perfectly fine and healthy.
2006-11-17 02:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Deep down he feels that he would be hurting you. Another reason could be that he finds it 'strange' to do it with the 3rd little person 'present'. A lot of men get like that, don't get upset. It will pass when the baby is born. Then it could be your turn not to want to do it for a while. Patience on both sides.
2006-11-17 06:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 main reasons for this in my opinion -
1 - He may be mis-informed and believe, as many others have mentioned, that he could potentially harm you, the baby or both. Pregnancy is a stressful period at the best of times without worrying that you could cause complications.
2 - He may not see you in the same light as before. You are now a mother-to-be and, as much as I hope that this isn't the case, he may not see you as an object of sexual desire in your current condition.
I hope for your sake that it is the former as this can be remedied by you taking matters into your own hands and assuring him that no harm will come to either of you. Initiate an intimate moment and slowly relax and entice him into enjoying your once, evidently, active and enjoyable sex life.
I wish you well honey.
2006-11-17 03:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
aww huney its a psychological thing
guys get this feeling that they will hurt the baby if they have sex with you - crazy right ? but its true they feel that way !
and deep deep inside their heads they also feel that it was 'their doing' that you are in this state so they refrain from doing it again.
most guys see women in a different light after they find out she is pregnant.
i think you just need to discuss this with him in a mature way and maybe buy him some books that will help convince him that it is perfectly safe to have sex during pregnancy (except the last certain weeks i believe)
visit www.bbc.co.uk and click on relationships or parenting, there is some good info on their somewhere about this.
good luck
2006-11-17 02:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some men have a mental block after a woman becomes pregnant and have the false assumption that they will injure the baby. You can begin by telling him to relax and sex will not harm the baby. Also try giving him head to get him up.
2006-11-17 03:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by unionjack07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its very difficult for a man to see his wife pregnant. In fact, the birth of a child is probably one of the biggest passion killers ever! Not only is he probably scared of hurting the baby or finds it a bit weird and gross that your little baby is inside you somewhere but he is also probably seeing you in a totally different light now. you're no longer just his wife, you're the mother of his child. The best thing to do is talk about his concerns and get them out in the open. Reassure him that every things OK. Good luck.
2006-11-17 02:57:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband didn't feel comfortable having sex with me either when I was preggars. It's normal for husbands/boyfriends to feel that way when their woman is preggars. They think that having sex with you will hurt the baby. This is a myth. Reassure him that it won't hurt the baby and the baby is protected. Have sex on the side and have him go slow. Make him kiss your neck and touch you everywhere. It should turn him on some.
2006-11-17 02:18:38 · answer #9 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really normal, the reason why i don't know,but the fact that he tells you his feelings,loves you and your child,gives you cuddles and kisses I'm sure you will get back to a normal sex life,may be shy or worried about getting you pregnant again but as i said that side of it i don't know I'm not expert
2006-11-17 02:16:22 · answer #10 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it might be the hormones. seriously the male sometimes gets the hormones, not the female. i am pregnant and i didn't want sex at all. ever. my ex, on the other hand, well, being that he is my ex, you tell me. ANYway, if this doesn't clear up before the baby is born, it should after, assuming that this is the problem.
2006-11-17 02:14:36 · answer #11 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋