I 've been married 9yrs. My husband cheat on me twice in a yr.I for gave him. Both times was no sexually in counter, So he say.
He say he loves me and he mess up bla bla bla crap. Do i belive no. Do i think i can't trust him no.So why is it hard for me to just say enough. Why can i just walk away. I know I'm not in love with him anymore, but I love him. I hope that makes since.Anyways my other question is why do I deal with his mental stress he always finding something to point out i do wrong. This man complex me.cry out help
2006-11-17 08:56:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The problem is this, why do you put up with it????? Do the right thing and leave him, for your sake and sanity.
2006-11-17 08:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by Wibble 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heather, go back to school! I mean you came across with enough intelligence to barely get your point out. This irritates people! If you don't want to grow mentally then just leave. It would probably be best for both of you! Really I don't mean to be a jerk, but, if this is the way you speak, HELL, I can see why your husband corrects you all the time. A mind is a terrible thing to waste!
2006-11-17 17:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the love and not in love thing makes sense..
He is trying to manipulate you with his constant complaints by making you feel bad..and maybe trying to shift the guilty feelings away from himself..not sure on that one; cuz doing it twice(cheating) just doesn't indicate he has a conscious..
I agree though with others..it may be time to say good bye..
once you do I promise you'll ask yourself why you didn't do it sooner
2006-11-17 17:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by sophia4470 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably BECAUSE he complains about everything you do that you don't have the confidence to walk out. You say 'this man complex me' - how about walking out for a while so that you can sort things out in your head. Have a break and see how you feel then, and then decide what to do next.
2006-11-17 17:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are able to decide that you're wasting your life, you will make a choice to BETTER your life, WITHOUT him.
I wish you the very best that it will happen before you go insane.
Think about it. How can you actually love someone who treats you like dirt. It's fear of the unknown that keeps you a prisoner.
2006-11-17 17:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell yourself that this relationship is only hurting you and that you need to get out of it now so you can start a better life without him. The first step is to maybe move out, and then divorce.
Take care, you have the strength inside you to do this!!
2006-11-17 17:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by layla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love him because you have been with him so long, and there will be a part of you that will always love him. but if you are no longer in love with him and your not happy, then walk away. you have your whole life ahead of you to move on. don't allow your self to stay with him if your heart is not in it, or before you know it 5 yrs. have gone by then 10 and so on. as for him cheating and there was no sex, please!! tell me you did not fall for that? move on!!
2006-11-17 17:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a low self-image and are co-dependent. Therefore you are putting up with his abusive behavior because you don't think you deserve any better. Let me tell you this, you DO deserve better than that. Find a "Celebrate Recovery" class near you. It will help you to gain the strength you need to walk away and help you to see that you have worth. You can do it!
2006-11-17 17:05:29 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get out while you can...no one deserves to be put through mental stress every day of the year. That can be considered mental abuse.
2006-11-17 16:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by shywiz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is cheating on u, and to make himself feel better he finds falt with u, and treats u bad. when he focus's on what he sees wrong in u, he can avoid any looking at himself. u can walk away and do better also. we don't walk away because we fear the unknown, we fear the future, and trye we don't know what lies ahead, but it could be better than what we left behind.
2006-11-17 22:49:50 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need some self confidence. you don't need to be taking his crap. he is the jerk that cheated on you. you have to move on with your life and find someone who loves you for you and stop making you feel the way you do.
Get out before it is too late
2006-11-17 17:32:37 · answer #11 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋