Marriage & Divorce - 11 November 2006

53, and wondering where to go from here, any one got anyu sensible ideas.............

2006-11-11 19:07:20 · 19 answers · asked by donua1022 4

My husband and I have been married for nearly 2 years (anniversary this month, Nov) I met him when I was 21, I am 26 now, it was the strongest most intense love ever. Our wedding day was the most amazing and I always thought that we will be together forever no matter what. Then, over a few months my life has turned upside down. We've been living thousands of miles apart for over 6 months.

My husband had a breakdown in april this year, I thought everything was under control but he was facing many financial troubles he couldn't handle. I wasn't working but looking for a job at time. Although I didn't contribute financially, we were both living at my parents flat (a holiday home, they live in the middle east) and that I saw as my contribution. bottom line is he asked me to leave and said it was over and cut contact, now i got a job and a car and he wants me back but i have another man in my life who loves me and takes care of me. I have to choose. I care about both, what should i do?

2006-11-11 19:07:12 · 18 answers · asked by Acid 2

2006-11-11 19:06:22 · 13 answers · asked by Goombul! 2

I just want to know is it legal or morally ok to have your husband that has been cheating on you with another women and has now filed for a divorce to be with her, and now all of a sudden he brings the kids home from his weekend w/the kids and they are telling me all about this day that they spent with their dad and his female "friend". They seemed to be somewhat bothered by it. They are 7 and 11. I am really bothered I am trying to teach the kids that we are still married and this is wrong. It doesnt help that I still love this man im sure but after this I couldnt have him back if I it was an option. I feel that was just wrong as upset with this whole divorce things the kids are having to deal with already. I mean this is still really fresh for them. I has only been 6 mths. But my husband thinks he LOVES her. She left her husband also.

Help is this legal? Can he have her around my kids if we are not even divorced? I mean I know he cant have over night after divorce what about now?

2006-11-11 19:06:04 · 14 answers · asked by cdsmiles024 1

My huband works alot. Really alot. He works almost 16 hours a day. with 2 days off a week. I work too. but only mon-fri and 4 hours a day. We also have 3 children and I go to school at night. See we have this plan and if we do this for one year we will be able to put it into action. I will graduate soon w/ B.A. and then he will be able to condense his hours to only 10 hrs.He is a good man and has always taken care of us. But i am so lonely. when he is off he is so tired that he practically sleeps all day, and I want him to have his rest. we have not spent much time together in the last 3 months. when I feel like this I want to fuss at him and then it makes matter worse. I want to be patient but I have needs too. ( not sexually intended) I just want him to realize that we don't have to lose us while building us you know. So am I selfish?

2006-11-11 18:52:27 · 12 answers · asked by want-my-advice 2

2006-11-11 18:40:54 · 23 answers · asked by dar p 1

I am about to be married in 1 month. its an aranged marriage. my would be is the only son of his parents. his mother is overly protective of him; she does not allow him to even drive to office. he seems to be either ok with his mothers overbearing nature or has resigned himself to her nature--- i dont know. 2 times my would be proposed to go out with me (sponteniously, not with the permission of his mother) and both times he did not. he did not bother to inform me whether he is coming or not and when i called him the the evening (5.30) he said he would come surely but cannot given me precise time of his arrival.To save him embarrasement i said he maynot come if he is busy and i will attend to some other work in the market meanwhile.he agrees. next day early in morning his mother calls and asks me to go out with him to attend some mutual work in the market. this happened twice. he indirectly blaims me to have massacred his plans of going out. the message of his mother clear.

2006-11-11 18:31:22 · 6 answers · asked by xyz4 1

2006-11-11 18:23:24 · 42 answers · asked by injesu 3

I'm sure my husband (we are separated now and have been for a week.. his want, not mine) is cheating on me and has been for a little over a month. I'm not sure how to go about catching him. I've found things like a comb and hair tie that aren't mine. Those aren't the only reasons I think he's cheating but I'm also wondering if women sometimes leave things like this behind on purpose?Any suggestions?

2006-11-11 18:23:16 · 14 answers · asked by ckp1234567 1

If my partner does not fulfill my sexual desires, can I go ahead and use toys, would this be hurtful to my spouse even though they know that there is a problem and I don't want to get involved outside our marriage?

2006-11-11 18:22:32 · 13 answers · asked by Trinity 4

Is it ok to chose to be single and wait for the right person while your ex choses to get over you through a casual relationship? Should I be getting out there more or is it ok to take time to be single?

2006-11-11 18:20:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I mean there is no concrete proof but I have a gut feeling. like he is always over there to spend the night. even when I am at home. I was just wondering what is the best way to confront them?

2006-11-11 18:09:13 · 38 answers · asked by Keshia K 2

but we never been together.everyday,i plan on telling him,it needs to be over,but when we talk,its like i cant.and we both know,what we were getting into.we knew it was a bus with no destination.still,we jumped in for a trip.and now we cant get out.he dont want to end it,i dont want to end it.but i feel,we should set each other free,so we dont hurt over this anymore.while he believes that one day,we will finally be the way we want to.we call each other,we text each other.we just find each other no matter where we are.how can i get that knot out and finally tell him im hurting and i need to stop it?that we are just having an emotional relationship.

2006-11-11 17:59:44 · 6 answers · asked by super girl 3

2006-11-11 17:53:36 · 14 answers · asked by Ruby 3

my husband tries to put me down all the times. His expectations are too high from me. From the first day of our marriage, he's done enough to ruin me. I was unlucky enough that i married such an asshole. He has all the bad things in him such as he cheats, lies, financially weak, verbally abusive, has an inferior complex, ,,I feel so dead around him. I feel like getting rid of him. I can't bare his stupidity anymore. We both come from 2 different worlds, he is asian and I'm american. He wants to come to the land of opportunities, america, where he can spice his lust for girls and money. I'm yet lucky enough not to take him there. He doesnt want to do anything on his own behalf. I'm just worried after the separation how things will turn out. One more thing, when i have my periods, he sits online, talks sex with girls, views live webcams, by excusing that i can't give him sex during those days so he just sits online and spice his sex desires. I still believe its cheating. wt do u say

2006-11-11 17:42:39 · 28 answers · asked by mind 1

boring. do you wish you were not married and free???

2006-11-11 17:42:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 23 yr. I married when I was 18 after having dated only my husband from the age of 15.5. After all these years I still cannot get used to my husband screaming at me and always telling me I am "stupid" if he gets even slightly irritated. I have tried everything I know to convey to him how hurtful this is but it never stops. help me somehow to find a way to cope with this. I am the type of person who will laugh to keep from crying. I am an internalizer. It's just the way he makes me feel when he talks to me 80% of the time. Like I am a low-life. And yet at other times he is kind too me, tells me how much he appreciates all that I do for him. Whats your take?

2006-11-11 17:31:12 · 24 answers · asked by cindybd 2

we got married in Nevada in 2002 and i have not seen him since the fourth day after we got married. We do have a child that is now 4 and he knows nothing about her. Not even that she is a girl.

2006-11-11 17:26:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im married and have a daughter...however, unknown to my wife, i met and feel in love with a girl, and have a relationship for more than 5 years, she's now 27 and im 35. A couple of months ago, we agreed to end our secret relationship for good. I told her to find for a right guy among her suitors..and she told me take care of my wife too. We're not seeing each other now and minimizes phone calls too. I tried to be busy with my job and my family so I can forget her...by the way, divorce is not allowed in our place.

2006-11-11 17:23:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my husband now for almost 8 years, but we just recently got married. We have five children 14, 10, 10, 8, and 6. My two older childrens' father is not in the picture but his 2 older childrens' mother is. Our problem is is that there is constant fighting and ganging up on each other. I know it is common for children to fight, but it just has gotten out of control to the point where we end of arguing. I love him and his children very much, but I also love my children and I know it is wrong to have them grow up in an environment where there is stress and fighting from their parental figures. I need for this marriage to work but how can it. We have my stepsons 3-4 days a week usually. When they are here if they do something wrong, usually, they don't get in trouble even if I explain I think there should be consequences for their actions. But they don't get any, so I feel disrespected. Also, my 14 year old stepson and I just don't see eye to eye but I want to. What to do?

2006-11-11 17:11:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

what can I do to get him up and going again? We have lost that loving feeling. I know he is not cheating, I didn't gain any weight, what is the problem??? Are all husbands like this?

2006-11-11 17:10:33 · 27 answers · asked by serendipity_siren 5

I need an idea to make a centerpiece for thanks giving. It needs to be home made. Help me please i only have three days.

2006-11-11 17:08:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

The problem is that he is wearing them! Why doesn't he understand?

2006-11-11 17:07:39 · 37 answers · asked by littlegoober75 4

I have been in a relationship with him for a year and a half. I love him with everything in my heart and he feels the same. Someone told her and now everything is crazy. I am not sure what to do and what to expect. My husband knows as well, though our relationship was over before I got involved with the married man. We were seperated but living in the same house in different bedrooms. It was for the kids. The married man however was not in the same situation. I was not his first affair either. There were several others over a 15 year period, but he never told any of them that he loved them. He continues to call me even though the wife knows now and she wants him to see a shrink and go to marriage counseling. What do I do. Help. I am not a bad person, but I fell in love with him and I can't imagine life without him. Do I tell him that or keep my mouth shut and see what he does? He doesn't want to lose his kids. Help...

2006-11-11 17:06:00 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, I asked out this girl, named Ashely, she said yes and we had a great relationship then she got real mad at me and broke up with me the night before homecoming, she was so mad at me she broke up with me! Plus she slow danced with one of my best friends and he is going to take her to a movie yada yada yada and all. I thought I was ok, but I still like Ashely and I want to go out with her. What do I do now?

2006-11-11 17:00:30 · 15 answers · asked by zktnl27 2

I am happily married. My wife still does not know that I have an affair. The girl that I have an affair with is also married and does not want to end this affair. I enjoyed having this affair but I want to end this affair, I do not want my wife to know and also the husband's girl...
What should I do?

2006-11-11 16:57:35 · 24 answers · asked by Goombul! 2

My boyfriends parents and I had a lengthy dispute, and i decided its best not to go over..... much anymore. We are trying to get married, however job situation prevents us. Yesterday he said to me "no one should have to choose between their parents and their girlfriend" Its not like i refuse to see them, and ist that kinda what marriage is? If you didnt choose your girlfriend then you wouldnt be married. couples should be #1 to each other. However i feel like im #2 sometimes. What do i say to him to make him realize?

2006-11-11 16:49:55 · 18 answers · asked by Krystina C 1

I don't want to marry another loser, like I did with my ex, and I don't know if my bfr. worth it. he's 19 yrs.my senior, has 3 children from previous marriage, sold his house, and his wife took half whatever he had. But he still has his business and staff. I have to stay with him for another yr and half, so would it be better for me to spend this time as a married woman and see how it goes or I shouldn't bother???

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Look at the situation businesswise. i have to attend school and don't want to waste time in my personal life. I want my time be productive.

2006-11-11 16:46:33 · 7 answers · asked by Mistyfog 1

I would assume that the vast majority of marriages that end in divorce have had violence and/or cheating going on, but there's got to be a few where that wasn't the case at all. What else could be so bad as to get divorced?

2006-11-11 16:39:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

We've only been married 2 years less a week, and we've suffered 3 pregnancy losses, we gave birth to a stillborn 21 week old daughter 10 dyas ago, had to put my 17 year old cat to sleep this morning. Our personalities are similar and if not for all this trouble we'd be happy, but I'v very depressed, we show our depression in different ways. Also I don't want to adopt (long story - please just understand and not try to talk me out of it) and I think I'v given up on trying again to conceive (4 losses) but he really wants children. Do we stand a chance? I want to still be with him forever, what can I do to make it happen and be happy with him again?

2006-11-11 16:32:47 · 33 answers · asked by stripedbook 5