Im married and have a daughter...however, unknown to my wife, i met and feel in love with a girl, and have a relationship for more than 5 years, she's now 27 and im 35. A couple of months ago, we agreed to end our secret relationship for good. I told her to find for a right guy among her suitors..and she told me take care of my wife too. We're not seeing each other now and minimizes phone calls too. I tried to be busy with my job and my family so I can forget her...by the way, divorce is not allowed in our place.
2006-11-11 17:23:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well it is no surprise, you had a long term relationship with this "other woman" and you are simply mourning the loss of that relationship. Just as anyone else would when breaking up with a girlfriend of 5 years.
Now I have to point out, it's very difficult to feel sorry for you, given the nature of the situation. You have cheated on your wife for 5 years and I'm sure lied to her many times in the course of your other relationship.
Give yourself time to heal and reflect on that other woman and how she affected your relationship with your wife negatively. Because it did, and now you are even worse off now than you ever were before you resorted to being with the other woman. Think long and hard about what you did and feel this emptiness for awhile, as long as it takes for you to realize how much pain and emptiness you caused your wife for giving her a loveless marriage.
2006-11-11 18:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still talking with the other woman on the phone? Difficult as it may be, you need to make a clean break, including phone conversations. Give yourself a little time to mourn. You have done the right thing, but you will grieve for awhile. It's only natural. Life will seem empty and dry for weeks or months, but you will get through it, and when time has done its healing work, you will remember this woman with love and think of your happy times together, but she will be part of the past.
You are keeping busy with your job and family, and that's exactly what you need to do. Be patient with yourself, with your aching heart. It WILL get better. Best of luck!
2006-11-11 19:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by ragged 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don do that 2 yr wife n daughter ull regret! or maybe not if u r selfish. Trust is the most imp thing in married life. What if your wife would cheatin on you for the same period of 5yrs n later on she feels the same. What would u feel? There is lots of happiness in yr own family than anyother thing. Extra marital affair is jus bull ****!
2006-11-11 17:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try working really hard to be a good father, and role model, for your child and a faithful, loving husband to your wife.
Spend time working being a family. That should pretty well take up your extra time and energy if you do do a good job at it.
2006-11-11 17:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from my point of view yes divorce is allowed in every place you are scared your wif will get everything on the grounds of [adultry]. ..my opion?
2006-11-11 17:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Focus all in your family.God bless you.
2006-11-11 18:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
funny, your chasing dreams. leave your wife before you break her heart apart you looser
2006-11-11 17:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by dwill604 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are simply reaping what you sowed.
2006-11-11 17:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No gain, no pain.What did you expect?
2006-11-11 17:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by MindFul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jack....ur a jack ***!
2006-11-11 17:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋