Marriage & Divorce - 11 November 2006

Prior to our marriage, my husband and I had a turbulent relationship. We were constantly breaking-up. It was a constant roller coaster ride. For example, he constantly wanted to be "alone", to by himself for awhile and so we broke up....and when we got back together, he kept on getting calls from this woman. It's obvious he was playing the field. This insane woman kept on calling and he eventually changed his number. He denies ever dating her, but I know he did! While this happened during our break-up which was only 3 weeks to a month, and it's not "technically" cheating....I'm still so angry that he was not forthcoming. I'm angry that he kept on using the excuse that he wanted to be "alone", when in fact he just wanted to date others. This is all in the past.....but I cannot get pass it. Somedays I'm fine, and somedays I'm just so angry with myself for getting back together with him. I feel I have to punish him in some way. I know it's juvenile, but I get sooo angry.

2006-11-11 03:04:49 · 32 answers · asked by Snowflakes 1

45 yr attractive female. Divorced. Kids grown up and on their own. I dated/lived with a man for 5 yrs. Left due to verbal abuse, fighting, sucking my soul dry. 2 yrs later we are dating again. He's changed(really!) and wants to get married, buy a house, travel, live happily everafter....EVERYTHING I wanted when we were together but he wouldn't commit. Now he says he doesn't ever want to lose me again, emotionally available, basically everything a woman would want.
I am torn between being 45...I should have the husband, house, etc.
I like him but don't love him the way I did before...maybe too much pain. I'm not excited, just okay. I don't laugh or smile much with him..I'm bored.
I could pay off my debts, help my kids(college), get a new car desperately needed, house, etc. Everything I want. Everything soceity thinks I should do. Or I can keep it the way it is and live payck to payck and be alone in my apartment and maybe meet someone new eventually.
Advice/thoughts??

2006-11-11 03:01:51 · 9 answers · asked by ltsha44 1

Hi about 2 weeks ago when I was very desperate I consulted a tarot reader on ebay I paid $10 she told me that she could help me with the problems of me and my mother in law that it cost $250.00 and that I had to do this or she would ruin my marriage I was stupid enough to send he the money, she sent me bath salts and candles& told me to call her after 1 week now I called her back and now she is saying that now she needs to work anither one for me and my husband that because our relationship seems distant! but I dont think that true. that I have to send her another $250. I'm not gonna do this. Im soo scared that she might want to harm me for not sending her more money.. but she doesnt even know my husbands name b-day, and she only knows my name. Do you think she will do something? I feel so bad for calling her to start with.

2006-11-11 02:56:34 · 23 answers · asked by ♥*´`*•. mommy♥*´`*•. 1

How many of you think it's likely that other people are just playing a game of seeing who can get to the top, in yahoo answers... even if it means their answers are chosen>>> "by-hook-or-by-crook?"
Examples of by-hook-or-by-crook>>> to buy votes (barter/persuade/beg)... or to cheat to gain votes (possibly use a different ID & vote for their own selves).

2006-11-11 02:50:44 · 12 answers · asked by ? 4

2006-11-11 02:46:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

1 year ago he got an affair with a nightclub girl from china. i forgive but so hard to forget. i don trust him anymore. he gamble secretly and bet soccer also. no money to clear his debts and stole my card and fraud my signature etc. i still can take it and recently he pawn all my diamond jewellery and again steal my atm card when i was asleep.i really don know what to say about it. God where are u. why am i still suffering. he don play with our kids and he only know how to destroy me. teach me or guide me please.

2006-11-11 02:44:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

i was accused now i asked her and she just cried and now wont answer me does this mean she did

2006-11-11 02:43:36 · 13 answers · asked by POPPIE 1

My partner is a full time external UNI student, currently unemployed and I work full time as a nurse. We fight over insignificant things like housework. I feel that if her studies dont take up 40hrs per week, that she should contribute to the housework. I feel that her study and housework together wouldnt equal 40hrs, but she thinks I just want her to "be a little housewife". Which isnt true. I just want things to be fair and equal. If the roles were reversed than I would still feel that this would be fair. Please help me.

2006-11-11 02:43:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

If that wasnt devastating enough for me, reading his 'profile', I noted he listed his marital status as...separated!!!
This has left me gutted (to the point I cant tell if Im over- or under-reacting). I havent been able to approach him on this...still shell shocked).
We've argued numerous times about his chatting online which consists on explicit sex talk with women who send XXX rated photos of themselves.
When we got our computers we discussed the topic of chat rooms - a Pandora's Box best left closed fearing the (unknown at the time) potential harm that could manifest.
We've been married 6 years and are great friends. We spend alot of time together, and always socialise together - because we enjoy each others company...
Or did?
I want to save my marriage. And ask is anyone has similar story, what do they suggest. Would be curious to hear from those who identify with spouse's position and how they overcame cybersex addiction.

2006-11-11 02:36:16 · 12 answers · asked by daisy 1

If you feel you've never been loved, Can you really be inlove with someone. If you don't know what the feeling of being loved is

2006-11-11 02:35:39 · 17 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6

being divorced with two little ones, i had been single for many years b4 i met ex and that only lasted 2 years and now i am single again, i am not sure if i believe in soul mates

2006-11-11 02:30:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-11 02:30:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend asked me to buy a house with him. I, like an idiot, do because I love him and want to marry him. He loves me but isn't sure that I am the "one" and wants to think it over so that he makes the right decision. He's been thinking about it for weeks and still doesn't know how he feels. I say that if I was the one for him he would know already and his heart would be screaming that he couldn't live without me. I don't want him to have to "convince" himself to do it. He says that he isn't "convincing" himself and he just wants to make sure he makes sure he knows what he wants and makes a decision with a clear head.

Girls: What would you do?
Guys: What does this really mean?

PLEASE HELP I am going insane! I love him so much and am trying to be patient but his logic and reason go against everything that I think love/marriage should be. I don't know what to do.

2006-11-11 02:29:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband left me and my 3 kids because he said he could tell I didnt love him anymore.(he just quit his job, stopped paying the bills) .. He was right! But its not that I had absolutely no feelings for him... Him and I just drifted apart... after 21 years of marriage, him being and intravert and me just the opposite... we just stopped talking about 10 years ago.. and then all of a sudden he wants to be close.. well I started full time school and being busy with that,, we really didnt talk..
me and the kids came home one day and he was gone!... ok it took me a couple months to get through the anger... But now he wants to get back together... hhhmm I just dont know... weve been seperated for about 6 months... he lives 2800 miles away from us.. Im seeing someone, that has great potential.... and as for my husband, I dont know if hes seeing someone, I suppose he is. Although he would never tell me... What do you think.. Should I give it another try?

2006-11-11 02:26:22 · 27 answers · asked by donna 1

Last week my husband had two dozen roses delivered to me at work. He then had sex with me over four times during the week. Which isn't normal for him...Me I like it. Is he up to something?

2006-11-11 02:21:34 · 10 answers · asked by wisehahn 2

when they work a full time job take care of 6 kids and the house.

2006-11-11 02:19:26 · 15 answers · asked by wisehahn 2

I had this funny dream ages ago that I was a guy and it got me thinking what I would want to look like if I was a guy permanently.

Pretending you (weren't so lucky and) were born male, answer these questions :D

1) What height would you be?
2) What colour hair would you have?
3) What body type would you be?
4) What skin colour would you choose?
5) How big would your penis be erect?
6) What would your sex drive be like?
7) What occupation would you choose?
8) How much time would you spend at work?
9) What work would you do around the house?
10) What car would you drive?
11) Would you play sports? If so which?
12) Would you work out?
13) How would you treat women?

hehe. well here are my answers anyway.

1) 6'3
2) Black waves
3) Muscly toned med build - great abs
4) Chocolate/black still
5) 8" and girthy
6) High
7) Stockbroker
8) All day - chill out with 'the boys' at night
9) Bare minimum
10) Mercededes
11) Basketball
12) 3x pw.
13)w respect!

2006-11-11 02:16:05 · 6 answers · asked by Honey78 1

I divorced my ex-husband about 3 yrs ago. We divorced thinking that we would get back together. Since then, we have remained in contact. He lives 3000 miles away. He has custody of my 14 yr old daughter.
My daughter came to visit me this summer and I promised her I would come back. My ex needs help with her on a daily basis. I did not go back as planned, but am not able to focus on my life here.
I feel depressed because I let my ex and daughter down. I did not go back because I saw his controlling and abusive behavior continuing. He is also very money-minded and I thought that this would continue also.

Now, I am constantly in two minds what to do. I have thought of going and living separately in the same state that they live, but he will not let me do that also. He will say you are wasting money, come stay with me, etc.

Now, based on reading my past e-mails, he says that I am selfish and its all about me and me and me.

2006-11-11 02:04:47 · 36 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

2006-11-11 01:53:42 · 15 answers · asked by Stephen C 1

2006-11-11 01:52:46 · 14 answers · asked by chubby 1

Is that possible? What's the timeline?

2006-11-11 01:52:30 · 5 answers · asked by funnyface 2

Here's the thing I'm 26 years old as is my husband. I have been at my new job for about 4 months now. I'm a security dispatcher for a big company 80% of the people i work with are men. I love my job it's fairly easy excellent benifits and good pay. Here lately i've had a secret admirer who leaves me notes and flowers i have know idea who it is but i'm very faithful to my husband i've been cheated on and i know how that feels, i love my husband very much and we've been together for 5 years,ok the thing is he wants me to quit my job. I told him no that it wasn't my fault that the things at work were happening i have a child from previous relationship he is 7 and i have to support him to. He's a good husband and step-father don't get me wrong but he is really pissed about this and i'm afraid of what will be next. Do you think i was in the wrong????Thanks

2006-11-11 01:44:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

thats right, u heard me right. the sad thing is, noone else will ever believe it is possible for these 2 so-called "up-standing" individuals to be doing this. to top it off, sister's husband is a preacher!! im so numb, but deep down i always knew it, just didnt wanna believe it was possible. where to go from here?

2006-11-11 01:28:57 · 27 answers · asked by lanna 2

2006-11-11 01:25:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

If your mother stayed with a husband she knew molested young girls...would you leave your children with her even after he died?

2006-11-11 01:19:52 · 10 answers · asked by foulweathercatcherman 3

U C i was told that in so many words it was not really feassible 4 me 2 completly trust. u reasure me. i will do it now. thanks again my friend. twisteditstrue@yahoo.hueoooooooooooooo

2006-11-11 01:16:27 · 4 answers · asked by twisteditstrue 2

My husband died four years ago. His brother asked me out and I'm definetly interested, but I con't know what the familiy will say.

2006-11-11 01:09:42 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

Flowers, my hubby does every week, and has done for 20 years of marriage, if not what else does he get you?

2006-11-11 01:01:29 · 31 answers · asked by ? 2

1)She never kisses her husband but always kisses on her dog.
2)She prefers to sleep with her dog more than her husband.
3)Its hard for her to take care of or spend time with both so she considers divorcing her husband.
4)She lays down with her dog at least 2-3 times a day
5)Her and her dog are bound to each other, dog follows her every where....like a literal shadow, waits outside the bathroom while she pees, sleeps under her feet all day, every step she takes the dog is right there.


Is this a little obsessive?


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2006-11-11 01:01:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been planning a bus trip for months to go upstate. I have 50 paid guests going on the trip. We recently found out that my husband's grandmother passed away and the funeral is the same day as my bus trip. My problem is that I want to be there for him but I can't cancel the trip one week before the date. The bus company does not give refunds this close to the trip and it is a full bus. One of my relatives was going to drive 9 hours to come on the trip to help me out as my assistant. She said she would host the trip without me but she doesn't know anything at all about the area and I can tell she is uncomfortable doing so but just willing to help. I am pregnant with my first and been going through quite a bit of stress lately. This situation is stressful because I feel I have a duty to my husband but also to the 50 people going on the trip and my family going to help out. My husband told me to stay and do the trip since it was planned. What would you do (serious replies only pls)?

2006-11-11 01:00:24 · 9 answers · asked by Lia 1