1 year ago he got an affair with a nightclub girl from china. i forgive but so hard to forget. i don trust him anymore. he gamble secretly and bet soccer also. no money to clear his debts and stole my card and fraud my signature etc. i still can take it and recently he pawn all my diamond jewellery and again steal my atm card when i was asleep.i really don know what to say about it. God where are u. why am i still suffering. he don play with our kids and he only know how to destroy me. teach me or guide me please.
2006-11-11 02:44:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i hope someone answers this question who can give you a little comfort and peace of mind. things sound pretty tough for you right now. i could tell you things will get better. and they will have to change before they get better. have you talked to him about it? is he willing to change? are you willing to hear his issues? what do YOU want to do? it sounds like you better confront him now or you will both be broke soon. i wish you all the luck and happiness in the world. and remember, God always hears you, and always answers prayer. sometimes just not like you'd like Him to.
2006-11-11 02:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by mott the hoople 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morning? I would be gone tonight. Get a friend to sit with the kids and start packing you things. Make it out like an adventure to the kids. Get gone and don't look back. Keep anything that will prove what he is doing because if you have the money and credit, he is going to try to sock it to you in the divorce. People like him disgust me. Kids are better of without him and you will be a happier person and be able to raise them better. Somewhere down the road, you will find someone else, just be more particular next time. God loves you.
2006-11-11 02:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you say you dont want to divorce because the kids want him. And then you say that he never plays with the kids, so how could they even miss him? Trust me, kids are more adjustable than you may think. It is better to leave and make a happy loving home for your kids than to live in a home where there is fussing, fighting and where you are depressed and worried all the time. The time that you are putting into being depressed and worried you could be putting that time towards your kids. Leave the sorry loser. If he doesnt choose to visit the children then it is HIS loss, not yours
2006-11-11 02:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there. I found out that I needed to change my thinking. Thank God that you are not like him,doing those things but look at your self and you can find something wrong with you too if you don't have the Holy Ghost. God can not look at sin.That is why He only sees our faith,not us. God is there where you cry out to Him. He will appear. You must cry out to Him tho. That is what He is waiting for. He already set you free at the cross. Now you need to read His word and see what you do next. Turn your life over to Him. He gave life to you and you are keeping it like it is yours, it is not so give it back to Him. He can handle it,you can't. You are spirit and you are trying to handle spirit things in the natural. It will not work .Your spirit loves God and wants to rule but your flesh is still ruling over your life. When we get born again our spirit comes alive,or is suppose to. Most people don't let that happen. They say words from their mouth but we must pray from our heart or God can't hear it. He will change you. Then you will see things in a new light. The devil wants you to get a divorce because God ordained marriage. Spend time with God and let Him put you thru the process. You will never be lonely if you have the Holy Ghost with you...divorce the devil and keep your family together. The devil is just doing his job,you are not doing yours. God will fight all of these battles for you. They are spiritual battles. They are within. You worship God and watch Him fight for you...
2006-11-11 03:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by MSNRY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, listen to me! No matter HOW hard it is...you need to leave him and don't think twice about it. You are hurting and what he is doing to you is totally NOT acceptable! You don't really want your children going through this and wittnessing this do you? God is here through everything. He never promised us that life would be all fun and laughter...he promised to be there through the times we were struggling. Believe it or not God is closer to you now that he ever has been so reach out to him and he will help you through this. Don't let him destroy you anymore....get out of a bad situation before its too late!! Hopefully this helps you! Remember, you are an awesome woman who deserves the world so take it by the reins!!
2006-11-11 02:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all he does not really understand that he is an addict, who is out of control. contact your creditors explain what is going on ask them to cancel your credit card accounts under that number and issue new ones,
secondly file for divorce, the younger the children the easier it is on them in the long run.
have your husband served when he is not at home, at work, while this is happening if renting have landlord change the lock on the unit, if you own it have locksmith come in and re key so he can not gain access. because if he is that desperate he might try to harm you and the children.
let him know that he if changes his life style , and gets help for his problems you might reconsider, but his actions alone will dictate what you will do. that way you are giving him a chance to redeem himself and encouragement to straighten out his life.
you must do this because children learn more from what we do then what we say, you keeping your children exposed to his life style implies that it is acceptable, your writing this shows us that its not.
2006-11-11 03:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you suffered enough? have you made up your mind to change? do not blame God for what has happened. things will not change as long as you do not change it. make up your mind and make a resolution to treat yourself better. tell yourself that you deserve a better husband. pray for courage.
if he is so bad then why don't you pack your bags and leave him? take your kids along. they can have a better father than this. go meet up with your local counselor. i am sure they can help you and arrange for a temporary shelter. get help from the professionals. if you are a christian, go seek help from your church.
the point is, the situation will never change if you do not work on the change. prayer will only work if you accompany it with action. God will never help those who doesn't help themselves.
Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-11 02:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by caterpillar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want you to take a moment and read what you just wrote.why would you want to be with a man who wont even play with your kids?A man taht treats you this way?
I am avictim of a broken home and i turned out just fine BUT only becuase my mother put her foot down and left.This gave us the confidence to grow up expecting the highest level of reespect for ourselves.
my dear pack up and leave.Protect/shield your kids in everyway even from a father that has no time for them.shield them from the slightest ounce of disappointment.
goodluck
2006-11-11 03:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by ashaxxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may need a couselor to help him overcome his gambling addiction. Otherwise when Singapore IR starts, it will be worst. But resolving your marriage through divorce is not a good solution. Do pray and consider carefully.
2006-11-11 16:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by AH HA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well My parrent's got divorced when I was like 6 or so and I turned out just fine but at first I did lots of crying because I didn't know wht was going on.
2006-11-11 02:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by music is my life {itz m33gan} 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋