My partner is a full time external UNI student, currently unemployed and I work full time as a nurse. We fight over insignificant things like housework. I feel that if her studies dont take up 40hrs per week, that she should contribute to the housework. I feel that her study and housework together wouldnt equal 40hrs, but she thinks I just want her to "be a little housewife". Which isnt true. I just want things to be fair and equal. If the roles were reversed than I would still feel that this would be fair. Please help me.
2006-11-11 02:43:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well if the smaller issues are a problem, God forbid what big issues would create. Maybe consider counseling to come to agreeable terms, if this doesnt work then maybe it's time to move on
2006-11-11 02:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't start to equal it out to 40 hrs. week. forget that. What you need to do, is sit her down, and say I miss the fun we use to have, now I want it back, I want us to try and communicate a lot better, and respect each others feelings more. what ever one of us is doing and the other does not approve, say it. and we can try and see, if together we can come up with a better solution, Now what I want to say about the house work is since you are home, more then me, that it would be logical for you to try and keep the house clean. and when I can I will do my part. Please lets try and work together. Tell her I much you love her, but the fussing is upsetting, and you just want to come to some solution, or ask her what does she suggest? I hope that everything works out for you!
2006-11-11 03:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her why she doesn't contribute to the house work? Is she too tired? depressed? Is something bothering her?
Have you tried setting time aside where you both can do the house work together?
"Hey Jane, what if we both do the dishes tonight?"
Make it a partnership activity.
Good luck.
2006-11-11 03:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by Irma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry to tell you this yet i think of it somewhat is time for you 2 to take a destroy from one yet another. struggling with 24/7 isn't stable for a relationship. He ought to be basically a sprint extra taking good care of your emotions. i think of you 2 want a destroy from one yet another for a whilst to think of approximately issues desire this helped =] ?Cookie Monster?
2016-12-10 07:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by bustamante 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might cut your except but try and get a maid.Plus you two might start haven fun again if you know what I mean.That way both of you can start to love again.
2006-11-11 02:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your partner or go to couple's counseling.
good luck
2006-11-11 02:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sabine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she cant understand what your saying maybe shell understand SEE-YA?
2006-11-11 02:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by wrfab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋