singledom- is there really a special someone for everyone or is that something single people are told?

Question

being divorced with two little ones, i had been single for many years b4 i met ex and that only lasted 2 years and now i am single again, i am not sure if i believe in soul mates

Answer 1

There are many special someones for all of us. Falling in love is the easy part. Doing and knowing what it takes to make a relationship work is the hard part, and that requires two emotionally mature people (and that leaves out about 90% of the population).

I think if you take the time at the end of every relationship to evaluate what went wrong, then move on and work on making yourself happy, and then start to think about what you really need in a mate (and most people are terrible at putting together these lists. I used to be. They were very specific lists often, and they tended to overlook the basic requirement a mate would have to posses in order for a relationship to work).

The fact that you are asking this question makes me wonder what it's going to take for you to mature emotionally. You have two kids, two marriages, and some baggage you need to work through under your belt, but you are asking a question that makes me wonder how much you have learned along the way.

I know that when I thought that way, I was on the wrong path, and every relationship ended, and they all seemed different, and I was at a loss to explain why they failed.

Maybe you should start asking yourself what men and women have to do in a relationship to keep it alive?

Answer 2

I believe that it is possible to meet a soul mate in the romantic sense but it does not mean that you end up with him.

There is no such thing as the perfect person. It is a myth. Once you get that Cinderella notion of the Prince Charming out of the brain, there are endless possibilities for love. No person can be all things to another. If you expect that kind of love then you are doomed to be disappointed.

Answer 3

Not everyone is meant to marry. Some people enjoy being single and others do not. I think if it is meant to be it happens and if not it doesn't.

Answer 4

I think the there is. My thinking is the person that you think of all the time and cannot get them out of your head, and that person thinks of you all the time and can't get you out of their head. That is your Special Someone.

Answer 5

There is someone out there for everyone. You can't give up because you will find that someone oneday.