evaluating my husband's actions?

Question

my husband tries to put me down all the times. His expectations are too high from me. From the first day of our marriage, he's done enough to ruin me. I was unlucky enough that i married such an asshole. He has all the bad things in him such as he cheats, lies, financially weak, verbally abusive, has an inferior complex, ,,I feel so dead around him. I feel like getting rid of him. I can't bare his stupidity anymore. We both come from 2 different worlds, he is asian and I'm american. He wants to come to the land of opportunities, america, where he can spice his lust for girls and money. I'm yet lucky enough not to take him there. He doesnt want to do anything on his own behalf. I'm just worried after the separation how things will turn out. One more thing, when i have my periods, he sits online, talks sex with girls, views live webcams, by excusing that i can't give him sex during those days so he just sits online and spice his sex desires. I still believe its cheating. wt do u say

Answer 1

If he knows that he's doing something that would hurt you, that places someone else above you or otherwise makes you feel uncomfortable, he's being an inadequate spouse. Never let any doubt into your mind that talking to another person about your sex organs and/or staring and talking about theirs is cheating. Any kind of sex-related activity not between the two of you that you don't approve of is.

He sounds perverse. Nothing fixes perversity except for growing up, and it usually doesn't happen. Perverts and liars of all kinds can talk enough to "substantiate" anything, but if it feels wrong to you it is, and you have to stand on your laurels and steer around the diversions he makes.

You only get to live once. I hope you get to fill it with real desire and love. Good luck.

Answer 2

This is called emotional abuse. You deserve someone who will respect and love you. You will have to take the first step though. You must divorce this weirdo so you will have a chance at true and complete happiness. Don't waste time. Believe me, time has a way of getting away from you and then before you know it you've invested too much time on an unworthy cause.

Answer 3

Yes it's cheating, and yes you should get a divorce. There is not one single reason why you should remain in such a dysfunctional and damaging marriage. Your life partner should make you feel like the best person you can possibly be, not the worst.

Answer 4

Don't waste anymore of your time with this loser.
The longer you stay, the harder it will be to gain back your self respect. Get on with your life and have some fun.
You know in your heart the answer to your problem. Read your question and pretend it's from your sister, best friend, etc. What would you tell them to do??
Just be glad you have no children involved and can walk away without ever having to see the jerk again.

Answer 5

I would consider his online sex/flirtations definitely wrong. all of his actions, if truthfully described, seem very wrong. consider counseling. try and find out why he wants to be unfaithful. ie: are you giving him enough sex? sex is an important part of marriage. also remember to focus on what you could do better as a wife since you really can only change yourself, and hopefully in turn he will want to change himself. if he still doesn't want to change, then... find someone else

Answer 6

What are you doing staying with such looser anyways.Not along having sex with him.How are you turned on by him?Watching enything sexual is so disrecpectful,that it feels like cheating.Yes it hurts that much.You seem to hate him but there is something that keeps you from divorsing him.Loose the looser.

Answer 7

it is not clear if you have a child or not.i suppose that you dont. then you must break free from this man. he only thinks for himself.he doesnot care for your feelings. online sex is as good as sex. only pathetic people do it. you seem to be a strong and bright young woman. you have your entire life ahead of you. dont spend one more day with this loser. build your carreer and future. dont worry, divorce is scary but loneliness in a marriage is unbearable.

Answer 8

sorry honey i have been in your shoes when i liveds in montana leave . don't put yourself throu the pain and mental abuse . get a divorce and don't ever let anyone knock your cofident down . i was convinced no one wanted me . but i showed the *** hole he weas wrong . i have been divorced 13 year's its lonely sometimes but i got a dog and a cat and found i don't need a man in my life to support me . you deserve better . could tell you lots of storied like the ones you just talked about . you do deserve better . cause it won't get any better only worse .

Answer 9

Hi Mind, This is terrible. I feel sorry for you. Tell that B A S T AR D to get the HELL out of your life. You don't have to put up with that kind of behavior. Sounds to be this JERK is out for one person hisself and will hurt anyone in his way. KICK HIM TO THE HURB. THE SOONER THE BETTER.Women all over are getting tried of the way men are treating them.Thank GOD they are starting to stand up for themself. I myself got out of a terrible marry and i feel great about it. no one should be make to live with someone who only care's about themselves. A Friend.

Clowmy

Answer 10

Get a divorce. If you dont want to be with someone you shouldnt have to. I have never been married, but Im seeing what everyone else sees. If you is cheating, lieing, and all leave him.