If my partner does not fulfill my sexual desires, can I go ahead and use toys, would this be hurtful to my spouse even though they know that there is a problem and I don't want to get involved outside our marriage?
2006-11-11 18:22:32 · 13 answers · asked by Trinity 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes I support it, if you are thinking of straying I'm sure your partner would prefer you use toys instead of look outside of the marriage. Marriage is sacred you are lucky you have found someone who has pleged their life to you. Please remain faithful your whole life.
2006-11-11 18:31:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should invite your partner to experiment or use toys with you. Your partner might feel a great sense of relief and satisfaction also if they can learn how use these toys to satisfy you. Toys are not something you have to use alone, although you can. Toys can be fun even if your sexual desires are being met.
You might be surprised on how much your intimate relationship might change for the better. Your partner would probably feel a great sense of relief if you were the one who initiated this conversation. If you truly love your partner and do not want to get involved outside of your marriage, I would suggest telling them.
Good luck, hope this helps.
2006-11-12 03:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Wizard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try more foreplay. Read Kama Sutra or other books of that type that might help him learn what else he can do other than the old in out. Watch some erotic movies soft or hard porn.
You could introduce the toys while you are together helping him to use them on/for you, but that might make him feel worse. Try anyway, as it could be very exciting for him to see you orgasm. If he feels more inadequate then use the toys when he's not around. Of course you might find yourself sending him on lots of errands.
He might have other issues that need to be addressed which could be resolved in couples therapy.
Men reach their sexual peak around 18-21 while women reach it around 35. Good luck.
2006-11-12 03:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by chillsister 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just find it too common to make love with your partner....
try to explore things! talk to your partner about new things with sex. Do some experiments... pretend that you're in an adult film
& do something new & creative... this way you'll both be excited about your newly found "bed activity". Why would you settle for a toy if you already have the real thing?
2006-11-12 02:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this can be difficult to answer...
Try doing some foreplay and teasing to get you both more turned on... you can even have the foreplay go as far as just before orgasm for you, before you switch over to actual intercourse... that way, you'll be sure to be 'fulfulled'... Using toys will make your partner feel unwanted and unneeded and that he's not valued anymore. To make him feel loved, and if you want to use toys... why not use them while he watches, or even better - have him use them on you! Some friendly advice there :3
2006-11-12 02:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Biblically speaking, probably, but realistically - no.
And don't be ashamed, you can use the toys, find out what you like and how you like it. Then maybe introduce them to your partner, if you do it in such a way like, hey, look at these, I want you to help me use them, than he will not be offended as you arae making him a p art of that toy.
It may perk up his libido as well to know you're in to that.
2006-11-12 13:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jax 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its okay to use toys to fulfill your sexual needs.
2006-11-12 02:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally okay to use toys, but I would do it when he's not around unless he's very open about these things and wants to share the experience. Maybe you two could talk about it.
2006-11-12 02:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely
2006-11-12 02:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by raven dismukes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ought to let him use the toys on you. That should be exciting to him. Get him a subscription to GQ also. They have articles every month on sex ideas for men and how to be better lovers.
2006-11-12 02:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by elthe3rd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋