Marriage & Divorce - 2 November 2006

Husband left me while pregnant to attempt to have a life w/his ex-wife. She just used him for all he was worth and sent him on his way. We got back together. I have forgiven him to the extent that I can and work on it daily. At times I feel he loves me and really feels remorse and tries to ease my pain, but...

My question is this, is it unreasonable for me to demand that he not speak w/her on the phone when I'm not around. He was on the phone for over 20 minutes w/her supposedly arguing yesterday. A lot can be said in 20 minutes. If he's over her then he should let her go and not feel passionately enough about her to argue like that! Am I wrong? I know I'm insecure and it hurts so badly. I want to let the past go but there she is ...in our lives! They have a child together so there is no hope for her to ever just be gone.

2006-11-02 03:23:43 · 25 answers · asked by Just Me 4

stars"? last night my wife had dancing with the stars on. i much rather would have been watching boise state play fresno state. on espn. i was going to go down in the basement and watch it but i didnt . although i think tonight i will boycott and go down in the basement to watch west virginia lousville. do a lot of other guys find themselves in this situation where they feel guilty watching television in another room than your wife but cant stand what she is watching and would much rather watch football?

2006-11-02 03:18:59 · 8 answers · asked by Mark 1

My wife has had sex with me then the same day or next day ask me to pay a bill for her. I started to notice a direct correlation between love making and her past due bills or bank overdrafts being placed on my pillow, computer etc.

I confronted her about it and she said YES, she did make love to me to soften me up then ask for me to pay a bill or give her money. Is she using me? Is this deception?

2006-11-02 03:18:30 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

Let's assume for purposes of this discussion that it is unrealistic to expect people to be faithful for 50 years. You have kids with your wife, you have alife together and you love her and the kids. Can't you see other women but at least try to hide it from her? It seems to me that to be brazen and obvious is to deliberately hurt your wife.

Are there men that have had affairs throughout the marriage, kept it from the wife and the marraige remained in tact? If I just had to have something new, I would keep it out of town and history. Thanks.

2006-11-02 03:18:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, no "smart answers" please! I am just trying to find out if how I feel is normal. I've been married to the father of my two and a half year old daughter for almost three years. However, he has a history of drinking, abusing alcohol, and making me and my daughter upset. Also, I bring in all the income and do everything around the house . I have left him several times and keep on comming back because the only place I have to go is my fathers house and I can't stand it there either. Recently, my ex-boyfriend and first love had contacted me. All of the sudden feel like I love him again and gave up on him too easily. My husband found out I had been talking to him again two nights ago. He said either stop talking to him or end our marriage. I said I would stop talking to him. Ever since that night he has been helping me with our daughter and helping around the house. Maybe I have made the right choice, but I still feel like I love my ex, why???

2006-11-02 03:15:47 · 11 answers · asked by Torturedsoul 2

I dont like my wife anymore, but I dont want a divorce since we have a 2 years old daughter.
How can I minimize house contact with my wife so that I can still see my duaghter everyday but without having to deal with my wife(at the least minimal contact)?
any ideaswill be appreciated

2006-11-02 03:15:07 · 12 answers · asked by resimc 2 2

communication? faithfulness?

2006-11-02 03:14:50 · 9 answers · asked by jozwiak36 3

They make demands to you after they have been caught having an affair but they do nothing to gain the trust back. My wife is doing just that she tells me what I need to do but when I ask her to do things so that I can gain trust back into her, she will not do anything. Why are some reasons why she would not be willing tom compromise at all?

2006-11-02 03:11:43 · 15 answers · asked by ACE 1

Being a Filippino,it is in our tradition supporting our parents when they get old.But my in-laws have other sons and daughters aside from my husband and they are not giving help at all,instead,sometimes they even asked us to help them finanacially.We are not rich and I am working so hard.I'm getting tired of supporting their whole family,aside from the fact that my husband has another daughter to support(from the first wife,he is widowed).I want to save money for the future,but if this situation don't stop,I'm sure I can't save even a penny,How can I tell my husband that I'm not enjoying this situation without hurting him ??

2006-11-02 03:10:09 · 11 answers · asked by amie_esprit 2

2006-11-02 03:06:16 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

it has been 10 yrs. since i last seen my daughter, her mother took her and haven't seen her since don't know if she is still in the states or did her mom take my daughter back to korea where she is from. the city i think she is in has about 6 middle schools i could check in to see does my daughter attend either of those schools, or do i once again take the legal approach?

2006-11-02 03:00:14 · 9 answers · asked by KOOKIEES 1

it has been 10 yrs. since i last seen my daughter, her mother took her and haven't seen her since don't know if she is still in the states or did her mom take my daughter back to korea where she is from. the city i think she is in has about 6 middle schools i could check in to see does my daughter attend either of those schools, or do i once again take the legal approach?

2006-11-02 02:58:54 · 4 answers · asked by KOOKIEES 1

We used to have crazy, kinky sex. Two kids later (both under three years old), she has slowly got away from the toys and the games. Its like I am haveing sex when I was 18 years old. I still want to explore and play with my wife. And NO, I am not wanting a orgy by no means, I want to role play, she wear lingerie under her clothes when we go out, talk dirty...etc... But now she just wants to feel me, my breathe on her neck, soft touching...etc....OK.. I do these things that she wants. Now, for a year, it has turned into how she wants it everytime we have sex. What about how I want it? I find myself noticeing other weoman and fantasizing. My sex drive is in high gear and I constantly want to take it to different levels. She knows how I feel and think on the sex thing. We had a talk that turned into a fight last week about it. She said talking dirty made her sick, toys (excluding vibrator) made her sick, she thinks she is to fat for her lingerie. So I baged up and thru it out. What to do?

2006-11-02 02:57:54 · 12 answers · asked by aubreytaegan 2

I been married to him for over 11years, we three kids , more bad times than good times, but i don't want just give up on him. I left him because he just can't be faithful. He not even good at cheating. He always gets busted. Yet I am growing tired and know I deserve better. He believes all man cheat, it nature. What do you guys think? GET USE TO HIM CHEATING CAUSE THEY ALL DO IT.

2006-11-02 02:56:00 · 38 answers · asked by much2deep 1

why is make up sex so much more 'out of this world' than just everyday...'i love you so deeply sex'? Makes me want to argue with my wife all the time! Female responce will be great..

2006-11-02 02:46:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

This year I would like to start my own traditions for my family . Here is the problem my husband has always went to his mothers for christmas because he never had his own family well now that we are married and have kids ( three step and one biological) he still wants this tradition . I like the idea of starting our own with me making dinner and letting the kids enjoy there gifts all day around the house . I should also say that there tradition has you up and at her house by nine that does not even give the kids time to really even look at there gifts . I keep trying to tell my husband that my oldest is fourteen and he will be off to college before we know it and i want him to have traditions of our own. is there any one who can help??

2006-11-02 02:43:35 · 14 answers · asked by SAHM and proud of it 3

2006-11-02 02:38:39 · 41 answers · asked by marmalady 2

2006-11-02 02:35:59 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-02 02:34:56 · 4 answers · asked by shante w 1

what should I do?

2006-11-02 02:33:08 · 28 answers · asked by Roc 1

I've been with my girlfriend for 5 years (since age 18) and I've always maintained that I wanted to marry her but I wanted to be financially stable abd able to support her. I could not respect myself as a man if I could not provide for my wife, so I've always said wanted to wait to get married till then. I am starting grad school and am about 2 years away from having a stable career; However my GF is getting impatient, and it is causing alot of of stress in our relationship. We are both students scraping by, should I just give and head down to the courthouse?

2006-11-02 02:32:25 · 20 answers · asked by James F 1

I live in NJ, my wife lives in MD, At first we were great together then suddenly she changed her mind to move down to NJ, and she wanted me to move there. Now she aggreed to move with me but she's making conditions. We aggreed that my credit is not so good so we will use her credit as well as mine to purchase a condo, she agreed at first and now she disagrees, and she really being real mean about it. I think this marriage is just so ****** up, she changes her mind so much and she is so disrespectful, things she says and does really hurts my feelings. i tried to work things out but everytime i do less than a week later she's gotta bring up all these demands and conditions that basically can't be fullfilled on my part what should i do?

2006-11-02 02:25:28 · 13 answers · asked by Ankit 4

I live in NJ, my wife lives in MD, At first we were great together then suddenly she changed her mind to move down to NJ, and she wanted me to move there. Now she aggreed to move with me but she's making conditions. We aggreed that my credit is not so good so we will use her credit as well as mine to purchase a condo, she agreed at first and now she disagrees, and she really being real mean about it. I think this marriage is just so ****** up, she changes her mind so much and she is so disrespectful, things she says and does really hurts my feelings. i tried to work things out but everytime i do less than a week later she's gotta bring up all these demands and conditions that basically can't be fullfilled on my part what should i do?

2006-11-02 02:24:45 · 4 answers · asked by Ankit 4

I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy. Actually he is a father of two boys, but having his marriage problems for years. And his reason not giving up the marriage one is because of his wife's disagree and the other is the huge cost to get divorced in US. One month ago, it was his wife brought up the point to get divorced, and he went to the court already and is waiting to sign the seperation sheet, the whole process might take at least 1 year for him to be single again!I can understand it's not a easy time for him now, but at least he should let me know what he plans to do or if he does care about me, he could just tell me sth like: though he is not sure when all the things could be figured out, but he hopes I could give him some time, just sth. But he didn't, only worried that he'll have his life lost after then!

I know from the bottom of heart that I should just get out of the relationship, but it's hard to and I think I've got depression now. Do need some advice now!

2006-11-02 02:23:35 · 6 answers · asked by jennyleeyang530 1

Yesterday, my exstranged husband, who claims am the only woman in the world he loves and trust; left he's cell phone over my apartment yesterday. Being curious i looked at his text messaging inbox and outbox. I was horrified to what i saw. He had just asked me for sex not just moments ago mind you. He seeing more than three woman sexually. He had numerous affairs, but i believe that he understood that our relationship couldn't continue like this. Should I confront him with this or face the fact it's not going to get better.

2006-11-02 02:21:43 · 31 answers · asked by much2deep 1

my mom n dad are giong thru a nasty divorce right now but are still living together, so obviously things at home are a little tense. i dont live at home anymore. my boyfriend finally proposed to me the other day after 2.5 years of dating and i said yes (yay!!). the date is not for about two years (until i'm out of college).

how do i announce it to my parents? especially my mom, who has been very bitter about the divorce, telling me advice like "never get married." and stuff like that. i want to tell her. both of my parents really like my fiance. what do i tell her? do i set them both down and tell them? has neone else ever dealt with a similar situation?

2006-11-02 02:19:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

If a dad has to pay 400quid a month to CSA, and can barely live on rest of wages and is planning children with his current partner how can he do both???? and why is it fair that the other mum can claim never get off **** and work properly but work on side?? why is it fair that the responsible one has to suffer?? can someone please fill me in on the poxy CSA who leave off the arsehole dads who work and are compleate pricks and never see there kids, they get off scott free! whats happening?

2006-11-02 02:19:16 · 12 answers · asked by FINN 3

I told her I was moving back to Michigan from NC and she told me I needed to stay here for the boys 16 and 17. I sold my house now she is letting me stay with her. The past two weekends we have gone out dancing, dinner and a movie. And we have been kissing a little here and there. But she acts like there is nothing between us. Is she messing with my head again? She said we will talk, but I am still waiting.

2006-11-02 02:17:02 · 16 answers · asked by Adam 3

Not a bad guy, just a terrible husband and father.
I really want my husband out of my life so that I can get a fresh start and give my daughters a better idea of what being in a relationship is all about. Married 17 yrs, 2 early teenaged kids, no cheating (at least I think not!), 13 years w/o ANY physical contact. Think I'm pissed off and ready to move on.....you bet!

He leaves at 6am & comes home after 10pm after a 80 min commute. Years ago, I thought this was a phase - hard work to advance on the corporate ladder. Things got better but since moving to NY he's become a total workaholic. He manages a sm. dept. Manage is the wrong word, because usually he is the only one there and work manages him. He's had addiction issues in the past (smoking, adderall-my daughters, cocaine-years ago). In front of other's he DENY's that he works those hours. He GETS ANGRY if I EXPOSE him. He BREAKS COMMITMENTS, he calls to say he's leaving shortly & doesn't. ADDICT. How do I get him out??

2006-11-02 02:12:24 · 11 answers · asked by flopsybunny99 1

not asking as a pervert. Really and truly trying to understand so that I can get over it. Is this normal?

2006-11-02 02:06:42 · 13 answers · asked by hoopluvr29 1