not asking as a pervert. Really and truly trying to understand so that I can get over it. Is this normal?
2006-11-02 02:06:42 · 13 answers · asked by hoopluvr29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The thought of my wife with another man makes me sick. I do not know why you have these thoughts, but I cannot imagine you would be happy if you saw her in bed with someone else.
2006-11-02 02:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What a fantasy is all about is something that you normally wouldn't want to do or/unsure of doing. I have a fantasy of having sex with three guys at one time....but I sure as hell know that it would never happen. Don't worry this is normal. My husband has the same fantasy with me. But like he says if it would happen in real life he would beat the crap out of the guy and divorce me. He knows that he would be way to insecure handling a situation like that. You will get over it. And probably come up with something more kinky.
2006-11-02 02:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this something she's brought up to you - a fantasy of her own? I've heard that this is something that some men get off on ... it sounds like you might, although whether or not you ever get to experience it is probably in doubt, unless it's something she wants. Maybe you're thinking of a 3-some, her, you, and another man. This is another fantasy she might have shared. Or it might be one you could actually ask her about, if she's ever wondered about it.
2006-11-02 02:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mary C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have this same fantasy and the wife will not act upon it. There is nothing wrong with you we all have fantasies some are just better not fulfilled. When my wife told me about her affair recently all I wanted to know was can I watch you too do it. Funny thing is I have no idea why I want to watch her with another man.
2006-11-02 02:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude, I feel you on that one. A couple of years ago, I asked my girlfriend, now my wife, about her past Sexual Relationships. Bad Idea. From then on I had her in my head doing all sorts of things with dudes I never seen before. Then when she told me about her and one of my old friends, who is known for his large "Johnson", the images got worse. And me being a person who likes to watch people have sex just as I like doing it, I could picture them just as goods if I'd actually seen it. Best thing for you to do is just Pray about it and work on getting it out your head. I still think about it sometimes. It doesn't hurt me as much now. When I used to watch Porno Videos, it would block those images of My wife and others and replace them with random other people. But now that My Wife doesn't like me watching Porn or real people (non Actors) Sex, I just work on my own head and make love to her like normal, and sometimes dream about Lucy Liu or Meagan Good. Just make your Woman happy and put your feeling s aside, because at the end of the day, all that matters is how she feels.
2006-11-02 02:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this a door you really wanna open? Do you wanna share your most special toy with other guys? What if she prefers his/thier company to yours?
Seems like the potential for alot of emotional issues.
No ... I don't think sharing certain toys to be the norm.
love ... work out the definition of that one.
Lust ... define that one.
Fantsy.....made up, can't happen, not possible ... I'll give you that definition.
2006-11-02 02:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by John 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You obviously have something about wanting to watch your wife enjoying sex but in a detached way... Lots of men have the same fantasy... Some men go so far as arranging it, if their wives are interested in it... I've known white men invite black men round to have sex with their wives, just because their wives want to have sex with a well hung black man (or men)...
If your wife has someone in mind that she would like to have sex with, then ask him if he is interested and doesn't mind you watching/filming...
2006-11-02 02:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think about it too. You are not alone, there are a lot who feel this way. And I have seen it first hand and it lived up to my every expectation. Usually those who cannot handle the thought are possesive and insecure.
2006-11-02 02:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
yes it is normal to think about it,how ever i don't think most men could handle it
2006-11-02 02:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, it is a fetish...Not too common...
Not a good idea in my mind...
3somes with man & 2 women are much more common and
much less likely to damage the marriage...
2006-11-02 02:12:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋