Yesterday, my exstranged husband, who claims am the only woman in the world he loves and trust; left he's cell phone over my apartment yesterday. Being curious i looked at his text messaging inbox and outbox. I was horrified to what i saw. He had just asked me for sex not just moments ago mind you. He seeing more than three woman sexually. He had numerous affairs, but i believe that he understood that our relationship couldn't continue like this. Should I confront him with this or face the fact it's not going to get better.
2006-11-02 02:21:43 · 31 answers · asked by much2deep 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pack your stuff and leave that bastard......he may not only break your heart but give you a disease!!!!!!obviously he does not care about anything but himself.
2006-11-02 02:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by INSANE SUGARPUFF 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need too just face the fact that It's not going too get any better and move on with your life,. A life that does not include your exstranged husband. He's been seeing all these other women and probably telling them,also, that they are the only one he loves and trusts. Tell him what you have found out but also let him know that It's over between you two, for good.Because one this is for sure..You can not trust him, and you sure as heck can't believe anything he tells you. Move On..and find someone to truely love you and will be faithfull too you..There are plenty guys out there!!
2006-11-02 02:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even having sex with him if he's estranged? Of course know what the worst part is? Think of the times you did have sex with him (while estranged) and guess where else he's been sticking that thing?
If I were you I'd get an inspection done if you know what I mean. I also would suggest that rather than "confront" him about this you stop putting out for him and seriously consider the fact that being faithful is not his strong suit.
I think you can see where YOU stand in the grand scheme of things.
2006-11-02 02:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Face it...you can't change the leporads spots so there is no point in continuing with the relationship. For your own piece of mind move on and if you feel that you have to be honest with your husband explain why. And don't back down. It seems to me he has the benifit of using his marriage to you as a means of an easy out if things get to much out of hand with one of his women. And that is what men who have affairs do. They want to stay married not really because of the person that they are with but because the marriage is used as an excuse to end an affair. I think it is time that you stop being used and move on and make your life happy like you deserve it to be. Good luck to you!
2006-11-02 02:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think enough is enough already. This is a clear sign for you to walk. What more do you need to hear or see? However, there is one little thing you should know before looking for another. Men will always be on the look out for other women to have sex with. No matter how much he claims to say he loves you. It's nature. Sex has nothing to do with love.
2006-11-02 02:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jayme C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definitely confront him, at least to get this out in the open and make yourself feel better. This isn't going to get any better though. You are better off breaking off with him altogether. He sounds like an ***! He obviously doesn't care about your welfare since he wants sex with you while sleeping around. Do YOU think he's ever going to change, Do You think it's worth trying to save the relationship? These are questions you'll have to ask yourself. Good Luck.
2006-11-02 02:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by Astro 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stomp his cell phone into little pieces, put it in an envelope with a note saying you know about the others and to leave you alone. Put the envelope outside the door and keep it locked. Block his phone calls, don't answer the door, return his mail. Ooooooh I hate men that lie like that.
2006-11-02 02:25:26 · answer #7 · answered by blondee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's really no need to confront him - he's just going to lie or acuse you of snooping. Just divorce him already and move on to someone who does not play games. This is not going to get better, I promise you that! It can end now with you or go on like this for years. Do you really want all that drama and pain?
2006-11-02 02:39:35 · answer #8 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think confronting him would really change anything. He'd either deny it, come up with (what he'll think are) valid excuses, or get defensive and argue with you. You have an apartment, which means that you moved for a reason.... I don't know you, what you've been through, or your threshold, but you'll know when 'enough is enough'... good luck.
2006-11-02 02:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by monie0078 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would definately say enough is enough. You deserve better. Whether he loves you or not he certainly doesn't respect you. There are plenty of men out there and you can find one who will treat you like a queen. If he wants to be stupid let him go waste someone else's time.
2006-11-02 02:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by sschro9131 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you confront him he will just lie to you again, unless you catch him in the act he will just lie to your face and spew the bulls*** about you being the only one for him. Just find the strength and do what you know you need to do.
2006-11-02 02:32:29 · answer #11 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋