My wife has had sex with me then the same day or next day ask me to pay a bill for her. I started to notice a direct correlation between love making and her past due bills or bank overdrafts being placed on my pillow, computer etc.
I confronted her about it and she said YES, she did make love to me to soften me up then ask for me to pay a bill or give her money. Is she using me? Is this deception?
2006-11-02 03:18:30 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She sounds like a prostitute
2006-11-02 03:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your wife for goodness sake! You married her because you loved her and hopefully still do, right? If you did then paying some of bills is not that big of a deal. Helping each other out is a good thing, it also shows her that you love her in a way. The sex part, well, I guess that is a bonus then. Maybe she feels guilty asking you to help her. It shouldn't be like that, marriage means best friends, you should be comfortable with each other.
2006-11-02 03:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by Niemand 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I AM Woman. and no it isn't right. u two r married and everything is in one supposely. if she is making those overdraft consistantly w/o business being first then u need to be over the money. if this is free money that she can do what she will with it, don't pay her bills. it her personal problem. get a plan or something
2006-11-02 03:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she is using sex to get what she wants from you as most women do. You may have also noticed that she seemed to desire sex much more prior to your marriage she has you now but still uses sex to obtain rewards. On the other hand she is your wife and typically her bills are your bills so at least you are getting something out of it.
2006-11-02 03:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by dano 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What do you think, what happens if you don't have the $$ to pay the bills.
Prostitution is not a crime, but the solicitation is. IE I do..... for 50$. Once that agreement is made she is a HO. Same deal man. Play the game then if that is what you want just remember she is using you. Just make sure that you get your monies worth and make her earn every darn cent she gets, no exceptions.
2006-11-02 03:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by SRC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is like a chocolate in marriage! Its there to enjoy between 2 person! Once its used as a tool its wrong & i call it manipulation which comes to mind control & mental exhaustion. Dont let her do it to you my man.....next time she puts a bill on your pillow leave it there and plead insolvincy! If the sex declines because of it well...then i hope you the best!
2006-11-02 03:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it deception--she's been pretty obvious about it, or so it sounds. (Leaving bills on the pillow is not exactly subtle, is it?) LOL! We all use each other in some way, but if it bothers you then you should just talk to her about it.
2006-11-02 03:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I trust you completely. I continuously pronounced that i wouldn't in any respect enable intercourse to develop into much less as quickly as my husband and that i've got been given married, yet in spite of the reality that it hasn't have been given much less it incredibly is by capacity of no capacity as sturdy because it replaced into interior the 1st few months we've been mutually. i've got faith it incredibly is often me making the attempt on a similar time as he in basic terms lies there and we could me do issues to him. i think of if i did no longer make the attempt, he'd extremely fortunately roll over and circulate to sleep each and every night. it incredibly is totally complicated as i artwork long hours now and am drained yet nevertheless experience I ought to make the attempt. It scares me somewhat nevertheless, as i replaced into in a sexless dating numerous years in the past the place intercourse had completely floor to a hault and we ended up going for 5 years (particular certainly) with out intercourse and we've been given previous the factor of even discussing it anymore. He replaced right into a lot older than me, and interior the tip i've got been given it someplace else to be straightforward. I had to as i replaced into going insane. i'm unsure if there is an answer on your question, yet what i'll assert is that it incredibly is a incredibly uncomplicated element in marriages regrettably. i wish you artwork issues out x
2016-10-21 03:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is using you, and it is deception. A woman should not use sex for power. Sex should be something loving between two people, not a weapon.
2006-11-02 03:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of them do, but it's not okay. They think that they are doing some favor by letting us have sex with them. Next time if she uses you , stop having sex with her for sometime ( become self -dependent - I mean you can masturbate ). Soon she will understand that it is not going to work anymore.
2006-11-02 03:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by long_joy_stick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No!!!!! Making love should be something that is special and done out of mutual love and respect. The only thing that should be gained is the mutual fulfilment you both recieve. Not money or material things.......good luck
2006-11-02 03:24:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋