My husband for 14 months keep disrespecting me. When he gets mad he has a habit of cursing me out very bad?

Question

what should I do?

Answer 1

listen to me.all other answers r bullshit plus bullshit.NVR leave him till he hits you.keep that in mind.try and comfort him,he mite have alot of pressure by working outside.hlp him by listening to his woes n talk calmly,calmly till the last second.He will feel stupid scolding u if u look and him and talk calmly.dont ever keep quiet and walk away,it is the worst thing u will be able to do.If u have children,i beg u not to abandon ur family.foul words are normal.take it ez.i noe u feel tat tis is hard.we all face troubles in life...even those u think they are happy,they might not be happy in thier hearts.i m an example.i cnot slp evrynite u noe with alot of **** going through my mind.if 1 day u decide 2ignore my advice and decide to leave him...make sure u have a job with an "ok" pay and a place to stay.your problem is 1 which are faced by many...u r only 1 of them..men..many always dont appreciate thier partners till they lose them.

Answer 2

there's only one hope for depression. That is an effective anti depressant medication. Depression comes from a checmical imbalance in the neurotransmitters and the brain and nothing in the world will alleviate unless you compensate for it. The right medication will do it. When you're depressed, you're unable to interact with a therapist by talking or be with or around anyone so talk therapy won't work. Being around people is a waste because the loss of interest makes it difficult to tolerate company and again, verbal interaction. You will have no desire for pets or taking care of animals as it's too labor intensive, too complex and your mind can't handle it. Excercise requires motivation which you have none. Until you can compensate for the chemical imbalance that's causing the depression and anxiety, none of these suggestions are useful.. Once you regain your sense of motivation and desire to do things, only then can any interaction or activity possibly help feel good.. There are ssri's, snri's mao inhibitors and trycyclic anti depressants. Some work better than others depending on the individdual. It is frustrating until you find one that works well with tolerable side effects. If none of these are ever an option, try ect (shock therapy)l

Answer 3

I had this problem with my husband but he did not curse he would just start yelling and shouting. First I let him know it was unacceptable. Then I tried shouting back (does not work). Then I stormed off and shut myself up in the bedroom. When he got a little time to cool off I made him apologize. Also, I would not cook his meals or do any house work until he apologized - no wifely services (get that!)

Always, make him apologize: finally it will sink in that you are not going to tolerate his abuse. Also, let him know you are not his slave and he cannot treat you in this manner.

If you have to go stay with friends or family until he tells you he will stop and means it.

You need to show the man you are not his punching bag and you need to get him to stop now because if you let this continue he will walk all over you. Tell him you love him but you will not put up with his abuse.

My husband is a lamb now and never shouts anymore

Answer 4

You need to let him know that this behavious is not going to be tolerated, and get tough with it. You've already trained him through 14 months of marraige, and however much longer you have been together.... that this is O.K.
We do not cut the ones we love down in anger, and expect to get love back. It seems simple, but until he realizes he is murdering you eith his words, it will not change. Be firm about your stance if you want it to change, and keep in mind this is an imature way of him expressing hiself, albiet dysfunctional.
He can learn to communicate rather than break down, but give him a choice he can learn with you, or with someonelse, cause your not going to stand for it.

Answer 5

Have you told him that you feel disrespected? If he continues to do this you may want to consider that the problem is not you it is him. He needs to learn how to express himself in a controlled manner without disrespecting you . If he is not willing to learn to do that then you need to step. That type of behavior can escalate easily into something much worse.

Answer 6

if this happens so soon into the marriage than it is truly bad. when my ex began verbally abusing me, and falt finding, and cusing me, it was because there was another woman in our marriage, telling him things and influencing his thought, not that he wasn't also responsible for it. i would get to the bottom of it, ask him to go to therapy, if he refuses he isn't interested in saving his marriage. when a man does these things he is usually cheating, and has someone else, so he doesn't care if there are consequences, he won't try to save his marriage, because he already has someone. good luck, keep your eyes open, and save some money incase u have to leave. verbal abuse is just as hurtful as phsical abuse.

Answer 7

Sounds like he has an insecurity problem. People who are insecure have tendencies to cause problems just to get you down to their level so they can feel good about themselves. I've been through this before and I just don't like it - I've also divorced a man for it. I'm not about to be a piece of dirt just to make a man feel superior.
Sit down and discuss this issue with him. Let him know how you feel and tell him to cut it out or you'll file for divorce.

Answer 8

No man has any right to do that to his wife. I'm so very sorry you had to go through this mess with that monster. What he has done is simply inexcusable, and as far as I'm concerned, unforgivable. I suggest you pack all your things and get the **** away from that idiot. I hope my answer helps you. Good Luck.

Answer 9

Domestic Violence is not just physical. Verbal, mental abuse is actually more damaging. Also, Verbal abusers can sometimes become physical abusers at any time. I suggest counselling and if he won't then you should consider your life and get out of a bad marriage.

Answer 10

that's very serious .you need to talk to him when he is not mad and let him know that what he is doing is not acceptable if you don't stop him dead in his tracks now .............later will be worst trust me been there done that .................let him know how it makes you feel and mean it give him a scare tell him the next time he does this he will be signing divorce papers and if he wants a female dog to train in to what he want then go to the local animal shelter theres a lot of puppies that need a home ......................good luck