Being a Filippino,it is in our tradition supporting our parents when they get old.But my in-laws have other sons and daughters aside from my husband and they are not giving help at all,instead,sometimes they even asked us to help them finanacially.We are not rich and I am working so hard.I'm getting tired of supporting their whole family,aside from the fact that my husband has another daughter to support(from the first wife,he is widowed).I want to save money for the future,but if this situation don't stop,I'm sure I can't save even a penny,How can I tell my husband that I'm not enjoying this situation without hurting him ??
2006-11-02 03:10:09 · 11 answers · asked by amie_esprit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first thing is not to think about "not saying no" to helping....instead, aproach your husband with "ways to help", that way you come off like your trying to help....and maybe your husband will see that you both are not financially stable enough to help his parents at this time!
2006-11-02 03:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by momaddo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell husband to tell his siblings to pitch in. Your husband is not the only child and there's no reason why you have to take care of this on your own;.
If you keep this up, you will be asking money from your children when you are old. Money is the way to ruin great relationships - even marriage. So be firm and careful.
2006-11-02 03:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by Centered 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because Muslims are also humans and we don't have right to hurt their feelings. and you are going to make a project so you shouldn't right or something that have a negative side or it will hurt someone whether they are Muslims, Christians or anyone, because we should respect people. and don't worry about apologising because when someone apologise it shows their clean heart it doesn't mean you are weak but it means the opposite.
2016-05-23 16:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop giving money to her. If you don't have savings and need money in the future for healthcare or whatever, who is going to help you? You have to look out for number one.........you, too.
2006-11-02 20:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say no. You have your own bills to take care of. Besides you don't owe them an explanation for saying no.
2006-11-02 03:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have yoru own life, tell them you can only do so much and if there mad, they will get over it.
Divid it up if the others wont help then it's not your problem, you have yor own future to worry about
2006-11-02 03:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that he is free to use his paycheck to support his family but that yours belongs to your future.
2006-11-02 03:12:14 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if it hurts his feelings...you must be OPEN and HONEST about your feelings. THIS concersn you too not just him or his feelings. Sit him down and let him know how you feel.
2006-11-02 03:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just refuse and don't worry about it .Hopefully your husband will agree with you .
2006-11-02 03:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell them
2006-11-02 03:11:38 · answer #10 · answered by bor_rabnud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋