I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy. Actually he is a father of two boys, but having his marriage problems for years. And his reason not giving up the marriage one is because of his wife's disagree and the other is the huge cost to get divorced in US. One month ago, it was his wife brought up the point to get divorced, and he went to the court already and is waiting to sign the seperation sheet, the whole process might take at least 1 year for him to be single again!I can understand it's not a easy time for him now, but at least he should let me know what he plans to do or if he does care about me, he could just tell me sth like: though he is not sure when all the things could be figured out, but he hopes I could give him some time, just sth. But he didn't, only worried that he'll have his life lost after then!
I know from the bottom of heart that I should just get out of the relationship, but it's hard to and I think I've got depression now. Do need some advice now!
2006-11-02 02:23:35 · 6 answers · asked by jennyleeyang530 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Follow your heart! If once he's divorced, and recovered, and you guys get together, fine. Until then, don't put your life on hold for a maybe!
2006-11-02 02:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own question already, you said that you know the best would be to leave him and I have to agree with you. Yes, it will probably hurt for a while but I am sure it will hurt more to stay and wait. Besides, you could be waiting in vane. He might change his mind about the divorce and stay with his wife.
2006-11-02 10:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by Eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself a break from the relationship. When his divorce is settled, as you said it should take about a year, then make the effort again.
2006-11-02 10:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know what you should do. You should end the relationship. Maybe once he is divorced (if he gets divorced) you can try to make things work.
2006-11-02 10:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you know what to do...well..you know he is on the rebound also..he needs to take time out and just enjoy being single for a while...that way he will make a better partner...i think you are smart in letting him go.
2006-11-02 10:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be like that haunted house that has visitors...GET OUT!
Why are you ok dating a guy who has so many problems? Work on yourself, he's NOT your responsibility!
2006-11-02 10:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by adrian_biccum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋