Let's assume for purposes of this discussion that it is unrealistic to expect people to be faithful for 50 years. You have kids with your wife, you have alife together and you love her and the kids. Can't you see other women but at least try to hide it from her? It seems to me that to be brazen and obvious is to deliberately hurt your wife.
Are there men that have had affairs throughout the marriage, kept it from the wife and the marraige remained in tact? If I just had to have something new, I would keep it out of town and history. Thanks.
2006-11-02 03:18:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Last time I checked that's called adultery. Commandment #7. Of course it's wrong. The worst part is you are breaking a promise to your wife dude! Think about this, your wife of 50 years could have been doing it to you for 49 years. Does that sound like an ok idea to you?
One day or 50+ years it's wrong.
2006-11-02 03:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is a good question. Yes you should keep it away from her and show respect in how you do this. Never anywhere near home, no cell phone or hotel bill records. It should be only phyisical and in no way should be interfere with your "real" life.
I will someday do this but will plan carefully.
I love her but for almost a deacde now she has simply had no sex drive. I love our children and other than this we have a good marriage. This is a huge issue for me but she thinks I should just accept it.
I think she should accept the fact that I will seek my desires elsewhere in a way she will not know anything about. She would never go for this.
I look at it this way. If I do not release the pressure by seeking what I need elsewhere I will leave her.
If I do this I will not. If I get caught we are done so the risk really is not bad.
2006-11-02 13:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my ex left me for her, i was hearbroken, he knew i was crying and hurt, yet he brought her where i worked, even though there was no need to do that.odviously the other woman wanted me to see her, and my ex had no compassion. after that i did not want to even be in the same state as them, so i left my home,had to get rid of my dogs, it just destroyed me.i left because i did not want a confrontation with this woman, did not want to do or say anything that would later make me look bad. no it is totally not right to hurt your wife, it is wrong to have an affair also.i guess there are marriages that the wife never knows, but i think eventually if one is having an affair it will effect the way a man treats and sees his wife, eventually he will have to choose between the mistress and the wife.somehow a man having an affair doesn't act the same, eventually it causes problems in the marriage. he will look for ways to insite an argument so he can find reason to leave her, so he can justify his own misdeeds.
2006-11-02 11:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your spouse, you would not be interested in having sex with another person, if you really loved your spouse you would not disrespect your relationship in such a way, if you really loved your spouse you would not risk causing them so much pain by having an affair, if you really loved your spouse and valued what you have you would not risk losing that by having an affair, if you really loved your spouse you would not risk catching a sexually transmitted disease by having an affair...I could go on and on.
Of course their are people who have had affairs an never been caught, of course this is wrong. You may keep things from your partner and think you got away with it, but a day will come when you face the Lord, and at that point you will pay for what you have done.
2006-11-02 11:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think cheating men try to keep it quiet for if it gets out in the open he will lose a lot. And yes you are right, many keep it out of town. I know of an instance that a "girlfriend" went to her married man's marital home and approached the wife.
Just remember if you do "get exposed" you will have to pay for it in more ways than one. Think twice if it is worth it.
Oh and for the men that think the wives don't know about the cheating, trust me most know (they just keep their mouth shut). Men don't cover their tracks like they think they do. Also women have a 6th sense.
2006-11-02 11:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by KuteKaboose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Although I do not promote infidelity I would hope that any man who still had any respect for his wife would keep his dalliances well hidden and discreet. Your mistress is not for public display in the same area that you and your wife frequent. Why run the risk of hurting her by your wanton carelessness.
Of course you'll note I said "Any man who respects his wife". If you are unfaithful...you aren't respecting her anyway. So I guess its.."any shred of respect still left" would be the proper term.
2006-11-02 11:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I prefer to advertise it. I've rented billboard space on her way to work to promote my activities. I even once rented a blimp with a digital display to let her know I did it again--but that time was really special because it involved a 3some with her mother and sister. By the way, her mom's a goer!
2006-11-02 11:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to Brag about...bad taste! Respect yourselves people
2006-11-02 11:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
where else can they vent. this is a great venue to open and discuss all of their stupidity
2006-11-02 11:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why have an affair if you love someone already, I dont get it
2006-11-02 11:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by scottb03gt 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋